I (F32) just found out that my husband (M36) has a full blown secret family because his “other wife (F29) ” just knocked on my door.
A Reddit user’s world came crashing down when a woman knocked on her door, revealing that her husband of nine years had been living a double life. For over six years, he maintained a secret relationship with another woman, even fathering a child.
With separate social media accounts and no family ties to expose him, he successfully led two lives—until now. Devastated and furious, both women now face the shocking truth and must decide what to do next. Read the original story below…
‘ I (F32) just found out that my husband (M36) has a full blown secret family because his “other wife (F29) ” just knocked on my door.’
I thought that I had a pretty happy marriage with “Jonas”. We have been together for over 11 years now and married for 9. We have twins (f8). Jonas works in a branch of business were he spents 3 months outside and 3 months at home. During this time he will visit us and we will visit him. It is I convinient but he earns really good. So good so that I needn’t work if I didn’t want to.
During all those years I have never suspected him if cheating. He was always “super honest” with me and would even tell me about attraction to other people he felt.
So this comes all of the blue for me. Jonas is away on a business trip for the weekend. A woman knocked on my door. She introduces herself as “cherry”. When I asked her what it was about she broke down crying.
I took her in and after calming her she started to tell me this story about Jonas. Apparently she and Jonas have been together for over 6 years and have a little boy (3)together. We were both fooled because he keeps his life there completely separate from our life here. He has 2 different sets of social media accounts.
And as his parents sadly passed away in a car accident 15 years ago he didn’t have to introcude either to them. At first I was livid and screamed at her. Till I calmed down as she was just a victim. Apparently chery found out my(our) husband has an apparemment that was paid for by the company (were he would take me if I visit) trough some bank statements.
She searched his keys and went snooping. There is were she found out about us and decided she wanted to tell me the truth after thinking for over 3 months about it.
We both cried our eyes out together. Cursed out Jonas and now she is sleeping on my couch.
She is not legally married to Jonas as he sold her the “I don’t believe in marriage Spiel”. The only legal spouse he has is me. I know I have to divorce him but maybe I just need some extra advice and a little husband roasting. Also should I keep in touch with chery and should we introduce our kids?
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
civex − Talk to a lawyer first, please. Don’t do or say anything that might jeopardize your rights and claims during a divorce, if you choose that path.. Best wishes.
PeteRepeats − If this post is real, don’t do a damn thing. Your feelings are totally normal but anything perceived as vengeful can hurt you in court, from settlement to custody. Don’t do **anything**. Call a lawyer immediately, make sure it’s a good one.
Don’t move money around, don’t abandon the house, don’t tell the kids everything yet. It will be hard but you need to absolutely pause everything until you have an attorney’s advice. The best revenge will be destroying him in divorce court.
HalfBloodBureaucrat − Had a friends dad who did this for over 13yrs before getting caught, and as he was doing it between countries he managed to get legally married in both Countries. To OP I watched how hard this was on my friends family when they found out about his dad’s “other family” and am truly sorry this has happened to you.
Please follow everyone’s advice and stay calm and cool until you’ve saught legal advice. Don’t let him know it’s coming until he’s been served. My friends mum did not do this and let’s just say it did not go aswell as it should have.
[Reddit User] − The only problem I can see with staying friends with Cherry is she may be resentful when you get alimony payments and she doesn’t. But you two share an experience. You owe her a lot for telling you the truth. And it has been said that “The enemy of my enemy is my friend.”
When you sue for divorce and she sues for palimony you can work together by providing information to each other. If your kids and her kid can bond as relatives then that is a good thing. Having allies in the world is a good thing. I would say you should try to work with her.
aulton1968 − If getting legal help is going to take time, then both you and Cherry should stay cool calm and quiet, so that you can set the pace with your legal team. Hopefully he doesnt get a bunch of angry texts from Cherry tomorrow and start making moves, getting his own legal team ready and securing financial assets.
nich0lai − So so so so so so so so sorry.. 🙁 I wish it was appropriate to hug total strangers. You deserve infinite hugs. I’m sorry he’s a s**t, it’s not worth saving. Take him to the cleaners with Cherry if you can.
You can’t trust someone who lies at this level. Most of the people in my family are mentally ill. This is scary s**t. Don’t be afraid to reach out. People will help get you to the next step. Thoughts so with you, wish I could do more
mrnjav − Suppose I’m too late, but still… Please OP, if this story is true, keep a good eye on “Cherry” for a while. Ask her questions, make her prove her statements, observe her reactions, try to asses and predict her emotions and goals. I don’t want to sound paranoid, but I’ve met some crazy bitches without conscious out there. And you don’t want to get screwed on court, trust me.
frockofseagulls − Creative writing at its mediocrest.
Gary_the_metrosexual − Do a powerplay on him and marry Cherry
chickenhead22 − This is up there for fakest posts I’ve ever read
Should the Redditor maintain a relationship with Cherry for the sake of their children, or is it better to move on separately? How would you handle such a betrayal—revenge, legal action, or complete detachment? Share your thoughts below!