AITA for refusing to share my inheritance with my e**itled sister after she cut me off for 10 years?

A 28-year-old man recently inherited a large sum of money from his grandfather and now faces demands from his older sister (35F). After their parents passed away in a car accident a decade ago, the sister abandoned him at 18 to live her life without responsibilities, leaving him to fend for himself and pay for college alone.

Now that he has inherited wealth, his sister suddenly reappears, claiming they are family and hinting at financial hardships. When he refuses to share the inheritance, she becomes furious and accuses him of being selfish and ungrateful, while some family members urge him to forgive. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA for refusing to share my inheritance with my e**itled sister after she cut me off for 10 years?’

So, here’s some backstory. My (28M) older sister (35F) cut me off completely about 10 years ago when I was 18, shortly after our parents died in a car accident. She basically abandoned me during one of the toughest times of my life because I wasn’t “mature” enough, and she wanted to live her life freely.

No calls, no texts, no support. I had to work multiple jobs to support myself and pay for college, all on my own. Fast forward to a month ago, I inherited a substantial amount of money from our maternal grandfather. It was an unexpected inheritance, but it’s changed my life.

Suddenly, my sister is back in the picture, acting like we’re the closest family in the world. She starts hinting at financial struggles and how tough life has been for her.
I told her outright that I wasn’t interested in sharing my inheritance, especially after she abandoned me for a decade.

She got extremely angry and accused me of being s**fish and “ungrateful” because “we’re family.” AITA for standing my ground and refusing to give her any money? My friends are saying I’m not in the wrong, but a few family members think I should be more “forgiving.”

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

ExistenceRaisin −  Definitely NTA. She cut you out of her life for 10 years, and now the only reason she has reconnected with you is because she wants your money. If she cared about family, she would have been there for you when you needed her

becoming_maxine −  NTA. She can’t play the family card after being NC for over 10 years. Didn’t grandfather leave her anything or does she feel e**itled to dip into your share too?

Easton_HJE −  Nope NTA. I wouldn’t give her any of it. If she couldn’t be there for you for ten years she has no business trying to come back and act like you two are besties.

HugeInTheShire −  NTA. She clearly just want the money, but why didn’t she inherit anything? Most grandparents don’t leave everything to one grandchild, was she left out or did she blow hers already?

VacationWeary7466 −  OP here: Just wanted to add, she didn’t even show up for our parents’ funerals, claiming she was “too busy with work.” How can she claim to be family now?

Hawaiianstylin808 −  Not quite sure how you are ungrateful. I mean she hasn’t done anything for you. S**fish. Again she is no contact until she needs something. You are just following her lead by providing her with the exact same level of family responsibility she has provided you over the last 10 years.. NTA. Block her on everything.

Netflickingthebean −  Nope, please, give her nothing, not even your attention. She showed you how much she valued you already, the only value that changed was the value of your bank account.. NTA

nycgarbagewhore −  INFO: how did she find out you inherited anything? Did other family members keep in contact and tell her? I would be wondering what else they’ve told her over the years.

Change2001 −  NTA. But tell her you will think about it and to get back to you in another decade. Maybe you will have made a decision by then.

DJ_Too_Supreme_AITA −  NTA. Suddently, my sister is back in the picture, acting like we’re the cloest family in the world. Yeah, she suddenly appears after you get this life changing inheritance. OP, don’t fall for this. Your sister doesn’t care about you, she cares about money. Don’t give her a dime.

She starts hinting at financial struggles and how tough life has been for her. My response would be “damn thats crazy”. What about your life? You had to basically survive on your own while mourning the loss of your parents and the a**ndonment of your only sibling alone but sure her life was tough 🙄

She got extremely angry and accused me of being s**fish and “ungrateful” because we’re “family” . Thats funny coming from the one who abandoned a freshly turned 18 year old to fend for himself; were y’all “family” then? Also, it angers me everytime someone e**itled think they are e**itled to something because “FaMiLy”.

You have the right to be s**fish because she hasn’t done anything for you. You can’t be “ungrateful” when you were never given anything to be grateful for

Is the brother justified in keeping his inheritance, or should he forgive his sister for her past actions and share it with her? What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments!