AITA for telling my sister she can’t bring her kids to my wedding after she let them destroy my engagement gifts?

A Reddit user (27F) is facing a dilemma with her sister (34F) over her child-free wedding policy. After her sister’s kids caused chaos at her engagement party—damaging gifts and creating disruptions—the user requested more consideration in the future. When she announced a child-free wedding, her sister became upset, accusing her of excluding her family and even being jealous of her children. Now, the user is wondering if she’s in the wrong for wanting to protect her wedding day from further disruption.

‘ AITA for telling my sister she can’t bring her kids to my wedding after she let them destroy my engagement gifts?’

I (27F) got engaged earlier this year to my fiancé (29M), and we’re planning our wedding for next spring. I’m thrilled about this new chapter in my life, but my older sister (34F) is making things really difficult.

For some context, my sister has three kids (10M, 7F, 3F), and they can be… a handful. I love them, but she doesn’t do much to discipline them. At my engagement party, they completely wrecked the gifts I received. One of them spilled juice all over a photo book my best friend had made for me, another ripped open a wrapped gift out of “curiosity,” and the youngest knocked over a cake stand. My sister just laughed it off, saying, “Kids will be kids!”

I was furious, but I didn’t want to cause a scene at the time. Afterward, I talked to her privately and asked her to be more mindful of her kids’ behavior at future events. She got defensive and told me I was being uptight and that “life with kids is messy.”

Now that we’re planning the wedding, I’ve told her that we want a child-free ceremony to avoid any disruptions. She’s furious, saying I’m excluding her family and making her feel unwelcome. She even accused me of being jealous because I don’t have kids yet. My parents are siding with her, saying I should be more understanding and that “family comes first.” But honestly, I just want to enjoy my wedding without worrying about another disaster caused by her kids.. AITA?

Check out how the community responded:

straightupgab −  plenty of people have child free weddings. nta. it’s your day not hers.

SorrelSpice −  NTA! there’s a thin line between ‘kids will be kids’ and being undisciplined, and hers are undisciplined! Go have your wedding day the way you want OP.

sorceressofgrayskull −  An almost identical story was posted yesterday but the kids ruined OP’s dress at the engagement party. In the post it was referred to as a wedding dress though.

OkieH3 −  Oh come on, do better with these posts.

IllustriousEnd2055 −  AITA AI Formula:. AITA for: Not inviting my sister’s/friend’s/cousin’s/SIL’s kids. To my wedding/bar mitzvah/gender reveal. Because they ripped open presents/grabbed the mic/embarrassed me/pooped on the cake. And now my family is siding with and them saying I should give in to keep the peace.

NovelAd4308 −  Saw this same post yesterday except the sister’s kids messed up the dress of the bride at the engagement party. Then the bride said she didn’t want the sister’s kids at the wedding. Come on people do better with these posts.