AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me “What’s for dinner tonight, b*tch?”?

A Reddit user recounts an explosive argument with her boyfriend after he jokingly called her a derogatory term while she was cooking dinner as a favor. Feeling disrespected and triggered by the word, she dropped the pot of pasta on the floor and left.

Despite his claims that it was part of a TikTok trend, she refused to clean the mess or continue doing chores for him, sparking further tension. Read the full story below to decide if her reaction was justified.

‘ AITA for dropping our dinner on the ground and walking out when my boyfriend asked me “What’s for dinner tonight, b*tch?”?’

I was over my boyfriend’s apartment this weekend and I was cooking dinner because he was studying for exams. I made pasta and a chunky sauce with meatballs and veggies. I told him dinner was ready and he goes “what’s for dinner tonight, B*TCH” … With like a lot of emphasis on the last word.

I was fed up, I’d had a pretty rough day with work and I have some awfully bad associations with that word being used by other people in my life who were pretty a**sive. So I was so irritated that I dropped the pot of pasta sauce I’d been carrying right on the ground and was like “Well nothing’s for dinner tonight now.

And I better not hear you using that word again, it’s for the girls”. He was freaking out about how sauce had landed on his rug and he even said “you’re seriously acting like a b**ch right now, I dunno what else to call it”

I just walked out and got takeout for myself and went to my friends house. She thought it was funny but my boyfriend was furious, he kept texting and calling and sending me voice memos trying to explain that saying “what’s for dinner tonight b*tch” was a TikTok trend….

And that he was just quoting something as a joke to put on tiktok. I thought that was the shittiest excuse ever, it doesn’t matter if he saw it as a joke, or stole the “joke”, it was still disrespectful. But it didn’t change the fact he thought that s**t was funny, to demean me when I was trying to do him a favor.

Like hell I came over when he was studying to make a home cooked dinner and he decides it’s time for jokes? So I put my phone on don’t disturb for the night and split a bottle of wine with my friend and her roommate.

The next morning he was sending me angry texts demanding I clean his rug because he was too busy with exams to do it. I was shocked he left it overnight, that’s disgusting. I texted him back saying.

Yeah so that’s the b*tch tax honey 🙂 leave me alone till you’re ready to handle your own cooking and cleaning because this b*tch isn’t anymore. Also it’s vile you left that soaking in all night”

He called me and told me that he was okay with doing his own household work, but I did throw a full pot of sauce at the ground so that’s on me to clean up. I told him “yeah no I’m not comfortable doing chores for you if you see me like your b*tch”

He told me he didn’t and it was just a “trend” and I got pissed off he was playing that “TikTok trend” BS excuse again and I told him “Well I’m starting a trend called ‘saucing’ where as a little joke people throw pasta sauce around! You can’t be mad because it’s just a little trend, a little jokey joke, just a little prank bro!”

He got really pissed off and hung up on me and now I’m seriously wondering if this dumb f**king tiktok joke is gonna be the end of things between us. AITA for how I reacted when my boyfriend asked me “what’s for dinner tonight, b*tch”

These are the responses from Reddit users:

bookynerdworm −  NTA. “Well I’m starting a trend called ‘saucing’ where as a little joke people throw pasta sauce around! You can’t be mad because it’s just a little trend, a little jokey joke, just a little prank bro!”. Absolutely iconic.

Shells613 −  NTA. I googled the trend. And it is all about seeing how women react to a knowingly offensive comment. And usually, they are offended. These jokes aren’t funny. Well, you reacted. He got his wish. Effed around and found out. He needs to grow up.

bobledrew −  NTA. That sauce on the rug? It’s marinara. GTFO of this relationship.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. its just a little trend, a little jokey joke, just a little prank bro!. MA’AM I LOVE YOU!!!

SnooRabbits5620 −  I’m seriously wondering if this dumb f**king tiktok joke is gonna be the end of things between us. You’re still wondering? Leave him. Especially after this.

he even said “you’re seriously acting like a b**ch right now, I dunno what else to call it”. At that point, it wasn’t even about the supposed trend so… Anyway NTA

dcnowclt −  NTA. Break up. It’s funny that dropping the marinara sauce led to the marinara flags in this one. 🚩🚩🚩

Imaginary_Building_4 −  NTA. And yes, this should be the end of you two. He sounds like a total AH and leaving that on the floor overnight is just n**ty.

Street_Passage_1151 −  TikTok trend. Haha sexism is so funny! Hahaha /s. NTA

PacifistWarFreak −  NTA. But don’t ***think*** about ending your relationship with him over it. Actually ***do*** it.

600nm −  NTA. Your gut response—shock and rage at him taking you for granted, to the point of demeaning you—was the right one from the beginning. Him leaving the mess overnight expecting you to come back and clean it up just confirms it: he doesn’t respect you.

Was the user right to stand up for herself against what she perceived as disrespect, or did she escalate the situation unnecessarily? How would you handle a partner using humor that feels demeaning or inappropriate? Share your thoughts below!