AITA for refusing to let my sister wear white to my wedding and kicking her out when she showed up in it?

A Redditor shared her experience of dealing with her sister’s disrespectful behavior during her wedding. The 27-year-old bride had clearly communicated a no-white dress code to all guests, but her 31-year-old sister showed up in a floor-length white gown, disregarding her wishes. Despite the bride’s insistence that her sister change, the sister threw a tantrum and refused to comply. Ultimately, the bride had to kick her sister out, leading to family tensions and accusations of being a “bridezilla.”

Now, the bride is questioning whether her response was justified. Read the full story below and share your thoughts.

‘ AITA for refusing to let my sister wear white to my wedding and kicking her out when she showed up in it?’

I (27F) got married two weeks ago, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. My sister (31F), who I have a complicated relationship with, decided to test me in the worst way possible. We’ve never been close, she’s always tried to one-up me, even during family events. It’s exhausting, but I figured she’d at least behave at my wedding.

Months ago, when I sent out the dress code, I made it very clear: no one wears white but me. It wasn’t negotiable. My sister gave me attitude about it, saying I was being “insecure” and that “no one cares about tradition anymore.” I told her that whether or not she agreed, she needed to respect it.

The morning of the wedding, she showed up wearing a floor-length, lace white dress. It was practically a bridal gown. My heart dropped, and I straight-up asked her what the hell she was thinking. She said, “It’s not that white, and besides, no one will care.”

I told her that if she didn’t change, she wasn’t welcome. She threw a tantrum about how I was ruining her day and stormed off, telling everyone I was being “bridezilla.” Some family members told me to let it slide because “she’s just like that,” but I was done.

So, I told the staff not to let her back in unless she changed. She never came back, and now she’s telling everyone I ruined the relationship for good. My parents are mad, saying I should’ve just ignored her because “it’s only a dress,” but I feel like this was a deliberate choice to sabotage my day. My husband agrees with me, but some family is still pissed.. So AITA?

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

RedditAICommenter −  NTA. Your sister disrespected your clear dress instructions and showed up in a white gown almost identical to a wedding dress. She was trying to steal the spotlight at your wedding. You were right to uphold your boundaries and not let her ruin your day. Ignore the family members who say you should’ve just let it slide. This was your special day, and she didn’t care.

takatine −  *She threw a tantrum about how I was ruining her day…*
Excuse me? *You* were ruining *her* day?? WTAF???
NTA, and I would go low/no contact with everyone who said you were at fault here.. Again, WTAF???

ConcentrateLanky8898 −  Your sister sounds like a total drama queen. If she can’t respect a simple dress code, then she doesn’t deserve to be at your wedding. You did the right thing by kicking her out. It’s your day, and you get to decide the rules.

DMmeNiceTitties −  NTA, it’s universally understood white is reserved for the bride.

AshleighBarkley −  Sorry guys, going to hit the hay. I’ll read and reply to as many of the comments as possible when I get up. Writing this took a lot out of me.

babaduke999 −  NTA. Your sister sounds like a terrible person.. “she’s just like that,”
AKA “we all know she is a terrible person”
As far as your family that is for some bizarre reasons pissed at you, ignore it. Truly, why give a f about what someone thinks when they have so little regard for you. O how dare you, you wanted your wedding to be free of terrible people like your sister.

thebearofwisdom −  NTA, honey, with sisters like that who the f**ck needs enemies? She did it on purpose. It’s not even a case of “it’s just a dress” it’s the intent that matters. She intended to piss you off and upset you.

Everyone and their dog knows not to wear white to a wedding, or at the very least they don’t wear the brides colour dress. They also don’t wear a dress that could very well be bridal. Not without having a specific idea in mind in order to put a spanner in the works.

I’m really sorry she did that to you, you didn’t ruin your relationship it sounds like it was already broken by her. I’m a little older than her, but I can’t imagine ever doing this to my younger sister, it’s insane. Your family are being dumbasses they know very well what she did.

So my advice is, enjoy your new marriage, know that you “won” the war by making her leave (good job btw) and forget her childish behaviour. How pathetic do you have to be to want to f**ck up your own little sister’s wedding day?

Fun-Manufacturer-569 −  Oh the audacity on her, She did that on purpose, She’s the asshole and not you. Every gaddamn person know’s white is reserved for the bride and the bride only.

grayblue_grrl −  “Ruining that relationship for good” sounds like a win for you.. I’d take it.. NTA

Was the bride right to enforce the dress code and protect her special day, or did she overreact to her sister’s choice? What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments!