Update : telling husband that he wanted to open marriage and I am not closing it?

First, please read my original post: https://aita.pics/MCGAL

‘ Update : telling husband that he wanted to open marriage and I am not closing it?’

Well I realized there is no point in petty revenge. As kids were at my parents house. We discussed plans and I told him I have no love n respect for him left. Nor i find him attractive anymore. I told him if he wanna make a tough divorce process. He will lose more as our laws are very tough on men. So let’s make an easy divorce with fair division of properties where I contributed more anyways.

There were tears and begging. But I stood firm and asked divorce. I showed him proof and if he ever tried to shame me infront of kids. His visual and text proofs are with me too. So we called a truce. Next day we involved our lawyers ( neighbours family frnds ) and drawup our property and fund division verbally. It was quite clear. The martial house is mine.

He is moving to his inherited house few kms away. We have acquired multiple properties and we will divide them on value. The savings will be divided. And we have our retirement plans. He also blurted out that he has a young widow gf. I said gudluck and happy life.We told our kids that we love them. But we r going to divorce. Ofc they were devastated. But we assured them that we r here for them forever and will co parent.

They are still upset and we will hire a therapist to make process smoother for them. Also my fwb divorce process is going and I told him about mine. He said to get serious about our relationship. I don’t know it’s love or not. But I like him and we are gonna take it slow. I want my kids to be 18 before i marry again. Note he was already in divorce process for years , even before we started hanging out. So nope I am not a home wrecker.

Ps. To all crybaby men who were crying for my husband and asking me why I didn’t loose weight. Wakeup 5 am in morning. Do the chores for lazy man and kids. Then go to work..come evening do chores again till night and then tell me about working out. You just couldn’t handle a woman giving same dose of medicine to a man. And blamed me more and gave him very less blame. This shows your double standards. I only became fat birthing his children. Birth do things to ur body. What abt his hairy tummy? Without birthing or any medical issues?

And I hired a cook from my personal fun money. As he didn’t wanna contribute for it. That’s why I didn’t hire her earlier as it was causing issues to budget. I took the hit after he called me fat and u**y. I hope your fathers and sons do same to their wives and then u can lecture me. So if you live in 1950 where wife should look sexy, do chores , birth your kids and be available as maid. Then You are as pathetic. So fck u you are male chauvinist pigs. And anyone who think it is fake. I don’t owe u anything anyways.

Edit and someone said my English is genz. Guess what . It’s not my first language and we used whtsapp outside America we like such abbreviations. Shocking? Age isn’t a factor here.

I m a business shop owner..my dealings are in local language. I studied in hindi medium school and English is self learnt. It must be shocking for westerners to realize world doesn’t need to learn everything aspect of english
Also deleting my account. For men and pigs. Keep seething. N cope in my comment section. Women can make u cry in ur game if they want.

We don’t because we value our family and kids. But try them and hurt them. They can best u at ur own game Decided not to delete I’d. Trash r**ist western men r crying in my comment section. Their tears give me joy. Keep.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

UnusualPotato1515 −  What abt his hairy tummy? Without birthing or any medical issues?.

sammagee33 −  Has an open marriage ever NOT resulted in divorce eventually?

iknowsomethings2 −  Congrats on getting rid of the husband. Sounds like it was for the best.. Best of luck in this new chapter.

ethankeyboards −  Any guy who disrespects his wife and calls her fat and u**y is not worthy of defense.

Unhappy_Wedding_8457 −  Congratulations for firing yourself from the housekeeper job.

PerfectionPending −  I’ll never understand men that don’t comprehend the gap in ability to find casual s** partners between men & women. If his wife is a female 6-7 then he needs to be a male 10 to get the same play on the casual s** market. And to jump to wanting to step out of the marriage rather than saying, “hey babe, let’s work on getting healthier and in shape together” is just a sign you don’t deserve that person.

JAndroo −  I’m a man and I have literally zero respect for men who complain about fat women or a fat partner while being a fat lazy POS themselves lol. They complain like “why don’t women like gamers or men who play with legos” my guy there are men with loving partners who do that. It’s the fact you have a double standard of putting all your time into your hobbies while being out of shape while expecting a partner who is in shape.

hpff_robot −  Magical three days before update. Creative writing is fun when people take the rage bait.

remoteworker9 −  NTA. I love when the one who asks to open the marriage is the one who FAFO.

Expert_Ambassador_66 −  I wish you the best.. This still sounds fake.