UPDATE: My (29M) soon to be ex-husband seems to feel entitled to another chance with me (28F).
A Reddit user (28F) shared an inspiring update about her journey from a toxic marriage to finding love and happiness. After divorcing her unfaithful and manipulative ex-husband (29M),
she not only reclaimed her independence but also found a loving and supportive partner who treats her and her daughter with kindness and respect. Her story is a powerful reminder that leaving a loveless relationship can lead to a brighter future. Read the full transformation below.
‘ UPDATE: My (29M) soon to be ex-husband seems to feel entitled to another chance with me (28F).’
Well, turns out my gut instincts were right. The entire time he was begging for another chance and promising “this time would be different” (eye-roll) he was still sleeping with the affair partner and telling him he loved her and would do anything to make it work with her. It didn’t even hurt me to find it out. I was THAT unsurprised. It just helped me stop feeling guilty. I divorced his ass.
I thank the universe every day that he is no longer connected to me in a romantic way. It feels like an ENORMOUS weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Shortly after my original post I met someone by chance at a wedding and fell in love. This person is everything my ex husband was not. The kindness, compassion, and respect they show not just me, but to my daughter as well, is like something from a dream. I never knew love could be so easy.
To anyone in a loveless marriage reading this-LEAVE. Do the hard thing- ESPECIALLY if they have a pattern of leaving/returning/cheating, etc. Lord knows I was terrified to cut the cord. At one point in time I was actually starting to feel bad for the guy because he was begging me every single day for another chance.
He tried to convince me that getting a divorce would ruin my future, our daughters future, that she would come from a “broken family”- but it was the exact opposite. It was broken already and I fixed it. Once I made up my mind that divorce was the best option, I absolutely thrived. I learned independence.
I found how to be happy on my own. I found happiness in a partner. Life has never been so sweet. The bad s**t makes the good s**t so much better. Thank you, Reddit, for the support on my original post. It helped turn my graveyard into a garden.
See what others had to share with OP:
chips-and-guac − It was already broken and I fixed it. GOLD. What a perfect way to say it.
Elbradamontes − My husband feels he’s entitled to another chance with me.. Narrator: “He isn’t”.
artparade − Let me guess, when he found out you found someone else he started freaking out and saying you were breaking the family? I had a friend like this. He cheated constantly and then she found someone else. Suddenly he was the victim crying to the friend group. He is not a friend anymore.
ebonyandivory_20 − I’m so happy that this had a happy ending for you ☺️
blueeyed_bullshitter − I remember reading your post ages ago. I’m so happy you were able to find stability and happiness despite how bad things got for you. Please continue to have a wonderful life ✨ you deserve it.
Passiveabject − You probably won’t read this but this is exactly what I needed to hear at this exact moment in my life. I’m going through the same thing. Trying to leave but suffering the guilt and hearing his begging every day.
But I already put down the deposit on my new place. I already bought my plane ticket. Just 3 more weeks and I’m free. I’ve been doubting myself more than ever as the time approaches. So, like I said, I really needed this. Thanks.
sponoog − I am happy it worked out for you. Now the real difficult work begins – not letting his dishonesty and cheating make you eternally distrustful toward others. That is the after effect of infidelity that people don’t talk about enough, and the real damage that a cheating partner can do to you.
micazr − I wish all the other people coming to this reddit to ask for advice on relationships like yours was reads this and it encourages them to end it. We’re all so proud of you.
Out of childish curiosity, can I ask if the girl he was dating is still with him or what kind of twisted version of the story between you two he tells her? I always find it so funny when they make up that their wife is evil or when the affair girls breaks up with them
TunaFace2000 − My favorite part of this update is that you didn’t even touch on how he’s doing and whether he’s been able to move on and be happy, because *who gives a f**k about that a**hole*?
Zinokk − So happy to hear you found the strength to leave him! My mom left my father when I was a baby (I had no memories of him until I “met” him later in life) and I’ve always admired her for that choice. Being a single mother was hard on her, but she taught me how to be independent and strong, and I’m 100% better off coming from a single parent home than from a home with two parents constantly at each other’s throats.
Have you ever had to make a difficult decision that ultimately transformed your life for the better? How do you find the courage to move forward from toxic relationships? Share your insights and support for those going through similar challenges below.