[UPDATE] I(21M) don’t have facial hair. My girlfriend(20F) of 9 months is disappointed because she finds bearded men attractive. She’s making me insecure.
After addressing his concerns about his girlfriend’s repeated comments about her attraction to bearded men, the conversation took a sharp turn. She not only dismissed his feelings but revealed a crush on her bearded coworker, leading to the end of their nine-month relationship. Read the full update below:
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‘ [UPDATE] I(21M) don’t have facial hair. My girlfriend(20F) of 9 months is disappointed because she finds bearded men attractive. She’s making me insecure.’
So, I talked to Amy about how her comments are making me feel and that she should cut it out.. It didn’t go well 🙁 She got a bit angry and said that she’s allowed to have preferences and desires. I told her that I know, but that doesn’t mean that she should bring it up all the time.
After that, she said that I’m immature and that I need to get over it.. Paraphrasing what she said: “You already look immature without facial hair, so don’t complain, you’ll look even worse”. I told her that I’m fed up with her comments, and that she should tell me if she prefers to go find a hairy man.
And then she crushed me by saying that she’s been having a crush on her coworker (22M), who had a full beard. I asked her if anything ever happened between them. She looked at me in silence, and then stormed off to her room. To make a long story short, I broke up with her. She cried, saying that she’ll stop, but I wasn’t having any of it.. So that’s that..
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
[Reddit User] − Wow…the level of her immaturity is staggering!
[Reddit User] − Good! You should have a girlfriend that appreciates you and respects you. Don’t settle for anyone who makes you feel insecure and crummy.
[Reddit User] − What’s her logic here? ‘I like bearded men so much that I will cheat on my non-bearded bf with a bearded man. Maybe if I somehow force bf to grow a beard I will no longer be forced to cheat.’ At least you found out relatively early how monumentally stupid she is.
[Reddit User] − Good for you for having a pair of balls dude!
somethingrather − As a fellow guy who is five years older than you and can’t grow a beard I just wanted to let you know there are girls out there that also have a preference for less facial hair. They’re not that uncommon actually 🙂 sorry about your experience though, but don’t let that make you self conscious! Think of the money we save as well! :p
coloradyo − OP, as a matter of personal disclosure, beard friction against my face really irritates my skin, to the point where I avoid dating bearded dudes because the acne breakouts aren’t worth it and there aren’t any products that help. There are a ton of ladies who will love you just for the fact that you’re not super hairy.
ThePeoplesBard − /u/Throwingthings124, if I were to write you a song about being smooth faced and fabulous, would you send it to your ex? If so, I’ll do it right now.
EDIT: Okay, here’s a tune just for you (I just learned Flogging Molly’s “Drunken Lullabies”, so I borrowed the chord progression). Let me know what she thinks.
**Facial Hair**. I was good to you–. for your love I cheered–. until you told me. I was nothing without a beard.. No matter how I tried,. you said I would never win.. I was no viking man;. I had smooth skin.. The love we find in this life. will not scratch every itch.. You wish I had facial hair,. and I wish you weren’t a b**ch.
Biff_aka_levi − Wow. Take it as a win I guess?
[Reddit User] − She sounds immature. If beards are her priority, she’s got some d**bass priorities. Maybe you should start telling her you wish her boobs were smaller/bigger (whichever one she isn’t). See how she f**king likes that. I’m glad you broke up with her.
xPawreen − Lmfao she resorted to insulting you yet you’re the immature one apparently. God she sounds awful. Good for you for dumping her.
Sometimes, addressing insecurities reveals deeper incompatibilities in a relationship. Do you think he made the right decision, or should he have given her another chance? Share your thoughts below!