Update: I [30 F] am sitting in the back of my RV as my husband [32 M] rants about how lovely the trip would be if I hadn’t joined him.

The original poster discovered her husband was planning to cheat on her while on a road trip in her RV. She confronted him at his mother’s house, left him, and has since begun divorce proceedings. This decisive action demonstrates her strength and resolve to prioritize her self-respect and well-being.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/rQLoK

‘ Update: I [30 F] am sitting in the back of my RV as my husband [32 M] rants about how lovely the trip would be if I hadn’t joined him.’

I promised I would update, but things got very hectic and this is the first chance I have gotten. This whole situation makes me very emotional, so please forgive me if this post is not as coherent as I would like it to be.

When I posted my first post, we were on the road in the RV and my husband was giving me the cold shoulder while he bitched at me from the driver’s seat. You all had some great advice for me about what I should do, and I listened to a few people who suggested that he might be cheating on me.

Tim had left his iPad in the back of the RV to charge while he drove. I’m not proud of this, but I was able to sneak his iPad into the bedroom while he was distracted by the road. He was logged into his email account and I quickly skimmed over his inbox but didn’t find anything suspicious.

I then had the idea to check his sent folder and found out that he had been chatting up his ex from college. It made me sick to my stomach to read the messages, but luckily they had not yet been physical.

Translated from chatspeak, the message he had sent his ex was basically: “I can’t wait to get my hands on you! It’s been years since I felt that mouth. I’m excited!” I was disgusted, but I tried to keep calm. We were on the road headed to another state and we planned on stopping at his mother’s house.

I knew that if his messages were in the sent folder, that meant that he had deleted them. Tim was not planning on being caught and was trying to hide his tracks. He wanted my RV so that he could take his ex around the state and have fun without leaving a credit card trace.

I took photos of the emails and sent them to myself in order to preserve the evidence. I then went back to the front of the RV and acted as if everything was fine. I apologized (don’t worry, I lied) for how I had acted and suggested that we ask his mom to help us work through this.

Tim said that he was sorry and that he accepted my apology. He said he was looking forward to using the RV in the future and that he was glad I had come to see reason. I smiled and nodded but on the inside I was cursing his existence.

We made it to his mom’s house and I made up an excuse about having to change because my clothes were wrinkled. Tim went inside without me and I started throwing all of his clothes and belongings into a trashbag. I then went inside the house and Tim was sitting with his mom in the kitchen.

He asked me what I was doing with the bag and I told him that I was giving him his clothes so that I could leave. Tim then got angry and asked me what the f**k was I doing and his mom was simply confused. She asked me what was going on and I told her, “I’m not sure myself.

I’m waiting for Tim to explain why he was planning to cheat on me with his ex.” Tim’s mom then started to cry and yell at Tim while he tried to calm her down. I know Reddit does not have a lot of love for religion, but Tim’s mother is a fundamentalist.

She had loved me from the minute Tim introduced me to her and it would be an understatement to say that she was very upset with her adulterous son. Tim never tried to apologize to me, instead he chased after his mother saying he was sorry to her.

This made her cry harder, because she knew that he wasn’t even trying to make amends with me, he was just apologizing to her. She hugged me and told me to just go home and she would handle her son.

I thanked her and took the RV keys from Tim (this ended up being a minor wrestling match) and left. I drove home crying, but at least I got rid of my a**hole ex-husband. Tim called me the next day and begged me to come back to him. He said it was all a mistake, that he was sorry.

I asked him why he didn’t apologize at his mother’s house, why he didn’t say he was sorry when I was handing him his bag. I told him that he didn’t care about cheating on me, that all he cared about was how bad it made him look to his family. He tried to explain himself, but I cut him off and hung up.

I blocked him on all social media and haven’t heard anything since. I have gotten a lawyer and have already started the divorce process.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

[Reddit User] −  Ouch. Silver lining in this, is now you have the RV to yourself and can find a better partner in the future. I’m also glad his Mother took your side, and was upset with him for cheating. You should definitely keep her in your life after the divorce.

RememberKoomValley −  Wow, complex feelings on this one. There’s the “Ouch, that’s awful!” but also an overwhelming “BUT THANK GOD she’s getting the f**k away from that a**hole!” I was concerned that you might stay with him for another year or two until the marriage gave its last gasp.

This is surely painful, but cleaner. And you haven’t ever got to think about the other woman being in your(!) RV.

CthulhuLives69 −  When I read your first story I thought “He wants it so he won’t leave a credit card trail” I guess I was right. What a sorry f**k he is.
I’m sorry it turned out this way but I’m glad you kicked him out and talked to a lawyer. F**k him.

akcom −  She asked me what was going on and I told her, “I’m not sure myself. I’m waiting for Tim to explain why he was planning to cheat on me with his ex.” God you’re f**king cool. Do you realize how f**king sweet that sounds? Congratulations on losing the 150lb+ of a**hole weighing you down and good luck in the future 🙂

[Reddit User] −  The f**king NERVE of your ex; to not only plan to cheat on you, but to try to do it in YOUR RV. That you paid for! Jesus f**k what an a**hole.
On the plus side- you seem like an awesome and strong person. I hope you find someone equally awesome to make happy memories in the RV with.

worksafeaccount15 −  You are one tough broad. You handled that amazingly!

daguro −  Ufff, da!. Sorry that happened to you. I hope you can get through the divorce without it wrecking you. If I can offer any advice in that regard, just try to focus on the life you want to lead in the future and how the step you take today lead you to that.. Good luck.

ladyxdi −  He said it was all a mistake, that he was sorry. He was sorry he got caught. This guy is a massive shitdick.

[Reddit User] −  You should write about this is your next book – imagine the look on his face when it’s a best seller and he has to see it EVERYWHERE

[Reddit User] −  Usually I wouldn’t advocate for this…but I hope you and the lawyer take your ex-husband to the f**king cleaners. Holy s**t not even a little remorse for hurting you…he only cared about that he looked bad in front of his family.

Do not let him crawl back to you. Divorce him, go no contact and just move on and find a partner that truly gives a s**t about you.