[UPDATE] I (28M) think my girlfriend (26F) of four years is going to leave me for her dying ex-boyfriend and first love.
A man shares the devastating conclusion to his relationship of four years after discovering his girlfriend had cheated on him with her terminally ill ex. In a tearful confrontation, she admitted to multiple betrayals, leading him to end the relationship and plan a return to his home country for healing and support. Read the full story below.
‘ [UPDATE] I (28M) think my girlfriend (26F) of four years is going to leave me for her dying ex-boyfriend and first love.’
I finally talked to my girlfriend about it and unfortunately, she is now my ex-girlfriend. A lot of things that I never expected to happen did happen in a span of hours. As soon as she opened the door to our apartment, I could tell that she was already starting to cry. Seeing her so vulnerable like that also hurt because I didn’t want to put her in that position.
I had to constantly remind myself that none of this was my fault. We sat down, there were lots of tears. I thought I would be bitter, angry and that I would be screaming at her the whole time but I felt disappointed instead. I told her that I saw the messages and explained how I ended up scrolling through their whole conversation.
She kept reasoning that she just felt sorry for him and that she didn’t know how to say no to him because they go all the way back. Then I told her that WE go more way back than they ever did. I was there through her lowest point, I helped her get up. She admitted that they had s** more than three times.
I saw it coming, I had a gut feeling but hearing her confirm it hurt so much. At that point, I was full on crying. I can’t remember some of the things that happened because my mind was all over the place. It still is now.
I remember telling her that I was done, that whatever we had was over. She kneeled in front of me and asked me to forgive her, I don’t think I ever will. I can’t tolerate people who cheat. By that point, a third of my clothes were packed up.
Obviously she feels happier with him if she can do this to me. When I posted my first post, a redditor approached me and offered me a place to stay. His place was only around fifteen minutes away from ours and he picked me up. He’ll also help me sell a lot of my stuff that I can’t bring back home and will help me gather all my things back in my apartment.
We both agreed that I don’t mention him in this post. I’m glad that I really opened up to this community instead of keeping it to myself. Thank you to everyone who also offered me a place.
It’s almost 3am, I’m heartbroken as ever but I’m trying my best. I’m sending my resignation letter to work this morning. Every person in my family now knows my situation here and have offered support. I’ll be flying home as soon as possible. To all my Aussie mates, if you live near/around Chapel Hill, let me know! America, you were great but now it’s time to come home. Thanks for the help everyone.
EDIT: I’m crying again, not because I got cheated on but because I realised that there is a whole world out there that cares a lot for my well being. I almost can’t believe I looked at hurting myself as an option to get away from the pain. I am really o**rwhelmed and also thankful for this community. Anthony and his wife, the redditor who helped me says this has been the most wholesome thing that ever happened to him.
I may have lost a girlfriend and a future wife, but I gained heaps of friends…and even friends for a lifetime. Other than that, I am feeling better. It still feels surreal that she’s gone but what can a bloke do? She made her choice so I made mine. I woke up to multiple messages from her family saying that I shouldn’t rush things and that she’s stupid and makes mistakes like everyone else.
It sucks that I may not be able to see her family for a long time, they were great people. I thanked them and said that although I believe in second chances and everyone makes mistakes, cheating is a choice that assholes pick, never a mistake. Ex also emailed me around 5 in the morning. the email was too long, my eyes hurt from crying so I junked it straight away.
I miss her like crazy. I know it will take a lot of time to heal me but I guess I can wait. ps. I’ll message my newfound Aussie friends when I go through all the comments. Exact date of my flight hasn’t been sorted out yet, but I’m hoping i’ll be home by next month.
Check out how the community responded:
stressedboutthots − Wow props to that redditor! He’s a real one and I hope you can heal from everything that’s happened! Best of luck!
toryxx − If you mean Chapel Hill in Bris then hit me up. I (29F) would be happy to lend an ear (or a beer) whenever you need. I’ve been heartbroken in another country while packing and rushing to get back home to my mum and friends so i empathise greatly. (It worked out for me and my now husband (27M) but still very happy to chat whenever you need). Stay strong.
TimothyGonzalez − Can we stop referring to that dude as “dying”? Stage one cancer is extremely survivable.
BILBOOO_SWAGGINGS − you’re right in this. “oh my ex has cancer I’m gonna have sympathy s** with him” f**k that
passivecharm − So sorry you moved across the world for someone who let you down so badly. I hope Australia is better for you and that you meet someone who will truly make you happy and be everything you deserve 🙂 P.S. If the redditor that helped you out is reading this, then Bravo my friend. You are a true asset to society! I hope lots of good things come your way :).
bapadious − I bet her sick ex miraculously overcomes his illness and makes a full recovery when they get back together. She’ll realize he’s a piece of s**t and regret the day she fucked over OP.
reddituser1306 − Sorry to hear mate. Come back home, it’s better here anyway 😉
clbranche − Even if the guy did die, what a puzzling decision to throw away a long term relationship just because you want to re open an old can of ~~words~~ worms and get some cancer d**k for a few months then go to a funeral Or of course, the gf could just be a cheating b**ch and actually DOES know stage 1 cancer is survivable
[Reddit User] − You seem to know where to go from here, sorry it happened but so it goes, you’re better off without her. Hope home treats you better, bud.
[Reddit User] − Imagine being someone so over the place you invite a guy to move halfway around the world, and then ditch him for an ex the minute the ex comes at you with a sob story about cancer (*true or not, it’s a bit s**tty*).
Well, what’s done is done. Closing of one chapter in your life OP and the opening of another. At least you’ll be able to catch up with your mates & get a taste of home. Sorry about your ex but you sound like a good guy with a decent head on your shoulders, so this random Redditor reckons you’ll be fine. Good luck!
Sometimes the hardest decisions are the ones that free us to heal and grow. Do you think he made the right choice, or should forgiveness have been an option? Share your perspective in the comments below.