Update : I (26F) realized I have a crush on my roommate (24F)?

A Reddit user shared an update on her journey of realizing her romantic feelings for her roommate, who she had known for a long time. After reflecting on her feelings and coming to terms with her bisexuality, she came out to her roommate. To her surprise, her roommate, who had never dated anyone and identified as demisexual, expressed interest in her and asked her out.

Now, they are embarking on a new relationship, navigating the transition from roommates to girlfriends, with excitement and nervousness about the future. For more on her journey, read the full story below.

‘ Update : I (26F) realized I have a crush on my roommate (24F)?’

My post didn’t get a lot of attention but some people did provide me with really good feedback and this is a happy update! I decided to to keep my feelings to myself and understand if it was just my gratitude and learn about myself in that time. I read a few books and I did some introspection. I have always liked girls.

In hindsight, it is pretty obvious why I hated seeing my best friend with her boyfriend. haha. I brushed those feelings aside as just jealousy for how good their relationship was. Teenage me was pretty dumb. I also realized that my roommate was probably asexual. I have know her for a long time and she has not dated one single person. Never brought a person home.

It made me feel hopeless about my feelings for her. I came out to her about a month ago. I had left one of my books laying around and she handed it back to me. I made a bad joke. I ended up explaining that I think I am bi. It was pretty awkward. She told me she was into girls but she thinks she is a demisexual and it takes her lot to form the emotional bond needed to be ready to have s**.

I probably made a mess of the conversation. I thought there was no way she would for such bond with me. She ended up asking me out while we were cooking dinner last week. I was pretty surprised honestly. It is scary and a bit awkward moving from being roommates to girlfriend.

Scary as hell but even with all the uncertainty about if we could work. I feel incredibly comfortable around her. I can be myself and I know she won’t judge me and she loves it.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

badgurlvenus −  *and they were roommates!*. congrats op!!

jv_level −  alright…this is taking the old joke “what do lesbians bring on their second date?…a moving truck!” too far! You moved in before you even knew you were bi! Congratulations! This is lovely. Go get em!

[Reddit User] −  Good luck and happy wishes for you both!

epicmousestory −  That’s awesome, good luck and whatever happens it’s great that you’re learning about yourself!

No_Balance6914 −  Thats really good. Sounds like you are going forward slowly and correctly. Good luck to you both. It must have been tough living with someone you admire.

[Reddit User] −  Awwww, this is so wonderfully awkward and sweet. I’m so glad it worked out for you (and her too). 🙂

micareich −  Good luck!! I am now two years into a relationship with my girlfriend who I met as a roommate — living together so fast can be intimidating but it’s been really amazing having a relationship built on such a personal understanding It also made moving houses together more exciting! So good luck to you and remember to be open with each other as it’ll only make things easier

AshleyBlack86 −  I Commend you for having the courage to come out. Congratulations on your new relationship.. Rooting for you both 🏳️‍🌈❤

AshtaraHenderson −  Awww! That’s great! Omg that’s so sweet I’m so happy for you! My best advice when starting a new relationship is to communicate openly and constantly, never be scared to talk about your feelings, don’t obsess and try to keep your insecurity demons at bay.

Catbug94 −  And realize she feels the same nervousness as you but took a step forward- go through this one day at a time- there is NO rush for anything, congratulations :)) also being roommates I’ve learned some tips about like spending alone time even if you live in the same space and still going out on dates even if you can have a comfortable one at home so ye hope that helps a bit too