UPDATE Dad (50M) wants me (24F) to change the location of my son’s(1m) party.

A 24-year-old woman faced conflict with her dad over the location of her son’s (1M) first birthday party. Her dad wanted the event to be held at a more neutral location due to family dynamics and past issues, but she chose to hold it at her house. Despite some resistance, her father and his wife still attended, and the event turned out successfully.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/zlPRx

 

‘ UPDATE Dad (50M) wants me (24F) to change the location of my son’s(1m) party.’

Thanks to everyone for their advice and sharing their personal stories. It really helped assure me that I wasn’t crazy. I decided to call my dad’s bluff and not change the location of the party. They text me a week ago saying I hadn’t updated them on the location of the party.

I simply said “Son’s party will be on this date and time at our house.” The reply was “well maybe you all can come by the day after”. I didn’t reply and just went about my business. The party was yesterday and surprise surprise they still showed up.

My dad decided to sit on the back porch the whole time and kept trying to get me to move the cake and sing happy birthday outside (which I did not do) and wanted to get the song out of the way as soon as possible.

I was too busy talking to guests and hosting to even entertain him. His wife stayed in the house most of the time and even offered to help with setting things up.

At the end of the day, it was all about my son and everyone had a good time. My son even slept through the night which he never does, so win for me. Tl;dr Didn’t budge on location, dad showed up anyway

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

DFahnz −  dad showed up anyway. Hah! Congratulations on getting through this one. Hopefully it gets easier for you to deal with his behavior now that you know you can set good boundaries. I rather love it that he still decided to have a token protest and everyone ignored him.

SteelandWire −  Excellent update! I enjoy how you were graciously immovable with your father, and then to have your son sleep through the night is the cherry on the sundae of his birthday.. Well done OP 🙂

_something_clever −  Sounds like your Step-Mom is a nice human, and behaves like an adult. Glad you at least have that in the paternal family unit.

friendlily −  Your dad is such a baby. I scoffed out loud when reading about how he pouted outside the whole time and still tried to control things. That is definitely something that needs to be shut down forever and always. You did everything perfectly! And happy birthday to your little guy!

StrikingSeaweed −  GIRL yes! Nicely done. Way to prioritize you and your family. Congrats for the night sleeping.

thanksbanks −  Cherish that stepmom! A lot of step parents would have sat outside bitterly with your dad so kudos to her for being a good sport & supportive

shelbyknits −  Ha! Well fine, I’ll come, but I’ll sulk in the back porch! You can’t make me have fun! You’re well prepared for your son’s toddlerhood, because you’ve already dealt with that behavior from your dad.

MissThirteen −  Congrats, sounds like your son had a good party and your spine got stronger as well.

relationshipsbyebye −  Sounds like your step-mom is nice 🙂

SmarkleMuffin −  Yay, what a happy ending! When my husband and I got married, we had eight parents between us (all four had divorced/remarried) and pretty much none of them got along with any others.

(Including several of the couples who were CURRENTLY MARRIED TO EACH OTHER.) Parent politics are no joke. Take your wins where you can get them. Haha.