Update AITA for exposing my parents’ favoritism

The Redditor returned with an update after exposing their parents’ blatant favoritism. They uncovered shocking details about their parents’ financial mismanagement and bias, leading to a family confrontation. With their grandparents’ support, the Redditor moved out, cutting ties with their toxic household. Read the full update below.

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/hnJIq

‘ Update AITA for exposing my parents’ favoritism’

I decided to go ahead and call my grandparents to accept their offer to move in. During the phone call I asked them why there was monthly payments being sent to my parents. Turns out my parents were living beyond their means for a while because my mother quit her job to be a full time stay at home mom.

My grandparents decided to help out by sending them money monthly to help with my parents mortgage and also to set aside some of that money for college savings for both my brother and I that was to be split evenly. Turns out my parents only planned to put that savings towards my brother’s college.

And that’s also how they bought his car as well. So from now on my parents are now on their own financially. Likely my mother will have to go back to work to help my dad keep up the mortgage. I confronted my parents and asked why they’ve always treated my brother as the favorite.

Then asked if there was something I needed to know. Turns out there was…**NOTHING**! Literally nothing! I’m not an affair baby. Not even an unplanned pregnancy! They just liked my brother more! I was mad as hell and we argued a lot before I left the room because I’d had enough.

My grandparents showed up on Saturday with a moving truck. My parents were floored when we started bringing in boxes to pack. My father got in our way and I reminded him how he said that I should move out, so I am.

My mother cried some more and said that my father was just angry in the moment when he said that, and they had been counting on my rent money to help with my brother’s college fund. I asked if that meant he would never have had to pay rent like I did when he turns 18.

My father then said that since I was taking a gap year to work, then my rent money could have helped my brother. Which means they never intended for him to get a job while going to college. My grandpa was enraged and confronted my father, saying he raised him better than this. He chewed him out saying he’s never been more disappointed in him,

and they will no longer receive any more financial support. Then said he’d disown them both if they ever tried to retaliate against me for exposing them. My father backed down and neither he or my mother said another word to me. I had a bit of an awkward conversation with my brother as we said our goodbyes to each other.

And that was it. I just got in my car, waved and drove off. I’m now fully moved into my new room at my grandparents’ house. It’s a little smaller, but nice. And my grandparents are very welcoming. I’m going to keep working hard to move forward from here and I appreciate everyone’s support.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

MalcolmLinair −  they had been counting on my rent money to help with my brother’s college fund. At that point any doubts you had should have disappeared; you’re leaving forever and their only thought is “But what about money for us and your brother?!” Your parents are irredeemable assholes.
Also, I *really* like your Grandfather!

_duhhitzobvious_ −  Im so sorry this happened to you, my dad’s parents were just like this for absolutely no reason either. I’m glad your grandparents have helped you move in with them. Kudos to you for trying so hard to buy your own car, etc.. EDIT: OP should look at the comments about his credit and his parents opening it in his name, these are very important.

Snarkybish03 −  Dad had the AUDACITY to tell to yall face he only wants you there to pay rent to help your BROTHER benefit only? Hes delusional and should be taken from will so you get all their share from grandparents!

SashaAvacado −  This makes me miss my grandma. I have a stutter and my uncles used to bully me and make fun of me. One time my grandma heard about it and she made hell. She have 7 sons and some with grandkids.

I have never seen 7 grown men cry before, she made them apologize to me infront of their kids and wifes. She didn’t talk to them for 2 months and they crawled back to her feet for mercy.

AngelicaIsMyName −  Good luck, I’m glad you have nice and sympathetic grandparents. Your parents are ghouls. Why have kids if you can’t commit to love them?

OreSanjou1234 −  So, let me get this straight… Your parents favour your brother more than you, because they just like him more. Also, they were receiving your grandparents’s money and saving a part to your brother’s college, but not yours.

And, they had the audacity to say that they wanted you in their house so that you could still be paying rent. Oh boy, you missed a bullet there. I mean, kinda late, but you missed.

AmazingDoomslug −  Then said he’d disown them both if they ever tried to retaliate against me for exposing them. If I were your grandpa I’d be updating my will so that the share of the estate my son would get would instead be split equally between his children and passed directly to them. Because I doubt your parents will leave you anything, they’ll give it all to your brother.

OtterBoleynGirl −  Oh, kid. I am so sorry. I have a few somewhat disjointed thoughts for you, as someone who also grew up the unfavorite child and is now a happy, fully functioning adult. One: it’s a dirty little secret that the kid who wasn’t the favorite often turns out very well in the end.

From an early age, you had to learn how to self-soothe, solve your own problems, be our own motivation and cheerleader, seek out kindness rather than take it for granted, and develop an independent mindset because your parents weren’t in your corner. You possess many traits that will give you a great leg up in life, even though your parents aren’t one of them.

Two: I know you may not feel this way now, but it’s sometimes liberating to break away from your parents when you are young, rather than stunt your own growth by clinging to hopes that they’ll change or doing X will make them love you. You see who they are.

You can now choose a college, a job, a place to live, a spouse, an entire future without being bogged down with the false hope of winning their approval or “earning” their love (something that should never have to be earned). Three: I have a thought about why this might be happening, based on my experience.

My mother wanted her kids to be exactly like her – introverted, quiet, bookish, intellectual, emotionally flat. I was like my father – social, talkative, creative, and vivid. She couldn’t stand me because I wasn’t like her. Raising me knowing I wasn’t going to be like her felt like such a waste to her. My dad didn’t care too much that I was like him.

He loved my brother because he was so much like my mother and he loved my mother. They orbited around the kid that was a better reflection of their own love for themselves and each other. I don’t know if that’s true for you but I want to offer that as food for thought.

Four: your grandparents are heroes. It’s a miracle that they are in your corner. You will only love and appreciate them more as you grow older. When you reach the age your parents were when they rejected you, your anger will flare all over again.

Remember your grandparents in those moments. What they did took moral courage and unconditional love. I wish you all the best. You deserve it, and you are infinitely capable of achieving it.

loudent2 −  wow, just “no reason”. They stole from you and lied to everyone for years for “no reason, just liked him better”. I think that is a low-key way of saying they don’t like you at all. This is all heartbreaking

[Reddit User] −  Your folks got what they deserved. Good on you and your grandparents for standing your ground. Good luck.

Sometimes, leaving a toxic environment is the best way to heal. How would you have handled this situation? Is there hope for reconciliation, or is the Redditor better off moving on? Share your thoughts below!