Telling my fiance her daughter is not mine. People wanted an update and I wanted a rant.

A Reddit user shares the fallout of a tense conversation with their fiancée that spiraled into tears, accusations, and unexpected revelations. With emotions running high and lingering questions about love and commitment, the situation takes a surprising turn. Read the full story below to uncover what happened!

 

‘ Telling my fiance her daughter is not mine. People wanted an update and I wanted a rant.?’

I had a conversation with my fiancée, and she asked why I would say something hurtful. I replied I was just repeating what she had said to me earlier. Then she asked if I loved “her daughter,” and I said I did. She asked if it was as much as I loved my son, and I responded, “almost as much.”

She got cranky. I asked her if she loved my son. She said no. I asked if she loved me, and her answer was “sort of.” She started crying, woke up her daughter, and told her they had to leave (though I hadn’t told them to go). I said we could talk about it tomorrow, but she insisted, saying he doesn’t want us anymore.

I told her that I never said that. Her daughter began crying and didn’t want to leave, but her mother said don’t let me leave on my own. He doesn’t want you. I reassured them both that they were welcome to stay.

My fiancée decided to leave (without her daughter), and now she’s not answering. When I spoke to my daughter’s father, he just laughed and said she couldn’t even hold off on the crazy until after the wedding.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Fancy_Average5440 −  That poor 11-year-old girl. This won’t be the last time she has her life uprooted by her unstable mother.

lastunicorn76 −  She flat out told you she doesn’t love your son and she sort of loves you! Wow! You avoided even more drama than was starting to brew! You and your boy deserve so much better than a no and sort of!

Shai7809 −  Well…her daughter’s father said it like it is. Better you found out before you got married. Don’t even consider it…she actually said she does not love your son. Imagine the life you’d be giving him if you stayed together.

GuyWhoKnowsMoreThanU −  Wise words from her ex. Bullet dodged.

BrewDogDrinker −  Bullet dodged.

BlueGreen_1956 −  NTA. You were NTA in the original story and this update just confirms it.. Your GF sounds deranged. You could have saved yourself a bit earlier if you had talked more in depth with her daughter’s father.

He was totally unsurprised at how crazy she was. But forgetting about yourself for the moment, if you EVER let that woman anywhere near your son again, you WILL be an a**hole.

DrSnoopRob −  “When I spoke to my daughter’s father, he just laughed and said she couldn’t even hold off on the crazy until after the wedding.” This man has stories and I really, really want to hear them.

Ok_Egg_471 −  Please tell that little girl that everything her mother said about you not wanting her is absolutely false. And tell her that ANY problems that happen between you and Mom are not caused by her and will not change how you feel about her (the girl). This poor girl must feel so alone right now. OP- I’m sorry your fiancée is a l**atic.

Unfair-Board-7728 −  She said she didn’t love your son, she should be kicked out without a second thought. You don’t want to marry someone like that. Dodged a whole grenade with this one.  

hedwigflysagain −  What a cruel mother. Dragging her child into the games she is playing. Let’s hope the bio dad can get custody.

Was the fiancée’s reaction justified, or did she escalate an already tense situation unnecessarily? How should the user navigate this tricky relationship dynamic moving forward? Share your opinions and advice below!