My girlfriend(21F) of three years got drunk and did a lot of bad things. Should I (22M) break up with her?

A man (22M) faces a tough decision after his girlfriend (21F) acted impulsively and inappropriately while drunk at a party. She kissed a mutual friend, flirted with strangers.

And behaved in ways that completely contradicted the boundaries of their relationship. Although she’s remorseful, the incident has left him unsure about whether to stay in the relationship. Read the full story below.

‘ My girlfriend(21F) of three years got drunk and did a lot of bad things. Should I (22M) break up with her?’

My girlfriend is a somewhat impulsive woman, something I’ve always tried to understand. She tends to act without thinking much about the consequences. One night, we went to a party and got very drunk. She started acting really strangely, and things got even weirder when I saw her kissing a mutual friend of ours (who is a woman).

After that, everything went downhill. I was no longer conscious, so my friends took me to a room in the house where we were drinking. The next day, when I woke up, she casually said, “I was flirting with X to test if he’s a good friend.” That sent a shiver down my spine.

Later, she admitted that she couldn’t remember anything from that night. Apparently, she had asked my friends about what happened to piece things together, but once she realized how bad it was, she chose not to hear the rest. Instead, she asked one of my friends to explain everything to me.

My friends told me that she had completely lost control. She tried to kiss them and then moved on to strangers. At one point, she told a random guy that our relationship was “open,” something we had never agreed on.

To top it off, she even tried to touch one of my friends inappropriately. She feels like a terrible person and seems genuinely remorseful, but I’m not sure how I feel about it all.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

no-thing22 −  The problem might be they both have a problem with alcohol. OP got blackout drunk and had to be taken care of by his friends. He also had to hear what happened instead of being there to witness it.

Stand_On_It −  Was no one in here ever 21 or 22? Feels like I’m taking crazy pills.

Western-Sky88 −  I was engaged to an a**oholic once. It nearly destroyed my mental health. Please, man. Don’t be a victim here. Leave. There are plenty of good looking women out there who *do* have self control and won’t be dismissive of their own awful behavior.

Kindly-Track-5109 −  Please do not remain in this relationship. Even though your girlfriend is “remorseful”, the actions have been carried out, to such a point where she tried to violate your friend s**ually.

Drunk or not, she was actively engaged in inappropriate behaviors, kissing, touching, and making verbal statements that your romantic relationship is “open”. These are all more than enough to fit in the category of crossed-the-line. If you allow this to be swept under the rug, she might take advantage and continue with her recklessness.

Bananapopcicle −  I did this once. I’ve been sober for 6.5 years now but I had a night like this with my ex. Got suuuper drunk. Acted a fool, laying on the floor, made out with a friend of mine,

and probably a ton of other embarrassing stuff that no one wanted to repeat to me. Anywayssss we’re not together anymore. I got sober, cleaned myself up, got a new life, a better partner and am happier now.

Legitimate-Turn4560 −  Alcohol is no excuse for poor behaviour, usually it’s indicative of someone’s true nature. My worry is that you and your friends were at this party. If she’s willing to act like this around you, imagine how she acts when she’s not around you. Just saying

Remo1975 −  Wow. OP, you’ve got a lot of opinions and advice here. Some good, some not so good. First thing, ask yourself if you want to have a serious, long term relationship with her. Is she worth the work?

I, 48F, remember being 21, 22, and all the s**t that came with it, including my partner making out with a rando at a party. We moved on, it never happened again, but, we were young and grew apart. I’m an a**oholic, addict, since I can remember.

Just because someone gets blackout drunk at a party, drinks more than 3 days a week, makes out with girls, and acred like an i**ot does not make them an a**oholic. When it runs your life from the second you wake up under your car in the driveway, until the second you pass out face first in a bowl of dry cereal, then you’re in trouble.

You don’t even have to be that drunk for it to run you. Chances are, you guys probably won’t be together in 5 years, but do I think she’ll cheat on you ? No. Alcohol isn’t some “truth serum” that makes you do things you really want to do. It lowers your inhibitions and removes your filter, so the natural j**k in you comes out.

CarltenY −  I remember how many times my ex told me that her getting high was an excuse to cheat on me cause she wasn’t “all there”. I’ve been super high before and never thought once of cheating other than tryna sleep or eat lots.

Get the f**k out of it OP. If she isn’t gonna stop drinking after knowing what she did, she’s the issue. Either way the fact she had some thought process of doing that s**t should tell you a lot. But also take this as a sign for you to sober up. A sober life is a better life.

Warm_Newspaper_1113 −  simply put, break up with her. a girlfriend shouldn’t be going up to randos or friends trying to make out with them or touch them, hammered or not.

squirrelbeanie −  I read up until. I was flirting with X to see if he was a good friend. And just stopped reading. I don’t play games like that, and it’s probably one of THE biggest turn offs I can see in any woman. I don’t play f**king games.

Sometimes, alcohol can lead to regrettable actions, but it doesn’t always make them easier to forget. How would you handle a situation like this? Do you think her remorse and the circumstances of her drunkenness are enough to rebuild trust, or do you feel that such actions are unforgivable? Let us know your thoughts below.