My girlfriend tried to push me off a cliff as a “joke”

A Reddit user shared their alarming experience with their girlfriend, who they describe as fun but unpredictable. During a recent hike, she pushed them toward the edge of a steep cliff as a “joke,” leaving them shaken. This incident followed another risky moment when she tickled them while driving, nearly causing an accident.

While she later apologized and claimed she didn’t realize the severity of her actions, the user is now questioning the relationship and whether her behavior crosses the line from spontaneous to dangerous. To learn more about their dilemma and how others have reacted, read the full story below.

‘ My girlfriend tried to push me off a cliff as a “joke” ‘

My girlfriend (20/f) is completely crazy but mostly in a good way. Spontaneous is an understatement. Sometimes she goes too far but I love her for her crazy personality. I (18/m) am more relaxed and we balance each other out. Two recent incidents really freaked me out though and I need advice. I was driving on a the highway with a lot of traffic.

We were going maybe 40 mph. She suddenly started tickling me and wouldn’t stop when I yelled at her. I jammed on the brake and someone almost hit us from behind. I asked her what the f**k is wrong with her but she just laughed about it and told me to chill. I said “what would make you want to do that?” and she said “idk, just felt like it.”

Then last Saturday I was hiking with her and I was standing near this steep cliff. I’m usually wary of her because you never know what she’s gonna do even though it’s usually just a prank or something. I let my guard down and she went behind me and pushed me towards the cliff and I swear I almost fell off. She did it hard and I ended up right at the edge.

She was laughing so hard. I freaked out and started screaming at her and I may have been out of line but holy s**t. She laughed about it at first but then she started crying and saying she was so sorry. The next day she started texting me saying that she didn’t mean any harm and she just “didn’t know” that I would get so mad at her for doing that.

Am I crazy for even thinking about this? Is it possible she’s just immature and if I get back with her she’ll be different? I’m kind of lonely and I really love her but this really made me rethink the situation because now I feel like she’s legit crazy, not just fun crazy. Thanks for your advice.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

baronthomas28 −  Bruhhhhh. She tried to kill you. twice. Then proceeded to laugh about it. The next time you might not be here to tell the story.

tokenchild73 −  Your gf has a serious problem. Especially seeing you say she gave an allergic friend nuts bc she thought was funny is just frightening. This is not normal this isn’t even considered crazy personality she has serious mental issues that need to be professionally addressed.

philosoraptor80 −  A friend of mine died while camping when he tripped on a rock and fell off a cliff. He was an organ donor, and his body was so mangled that they couldn’t even salvage his eyes.. Cliffs are no joke.. Edited for clarity

the_last_basselope −  Attempted m**der isn’t funny. If you get back with her, odds are very high she will shoot you in the face while laughing maniacally.

[Reddit User] −  I was driving on a the highway with a lot of traffic. We were going maybe 40 mph. She suddenly started tickling me What the f**k. This is psychotic – you could’ve caused an actual accident and serious injuries or even deaths. I let my guard down and she went behind me and pushed me towards the cliff and I swear I almost fell off.

Okay. Let me say this as bluntly as possible: ***YOU SHOULDN’T NEED TO BE ON GUARD AGAINST YOUR GIRLFRIEND TRYING TO PUSH YOU OFF A F**KING CLIFF.***

throwra-knowledge −  I just remembered that she told me a story when we first met about how she tricked an allergic friend into eating some nuts and how funny it was. I guess I shouldn’t have written that off.

[Reddit User] −  Yeah no, she needs to be on meds, Jesus Christ.

[Reddit User] −  Dude, this girl is crazy and not in a cute sort of “manic pixie dream girl” sort of way, she’s effectively tried to cause you to get into a car accident and then tried to push you off a f**king cliff. Neither of these instances are “play” and if she thinks they are, then you’re in for a lot more crazy s**t than this.

 I’m usually wary of her because you never know what she’s gonna do even though it’s usually just a prank or something. Fuckin’ nope! think about what you wrote here. Think about if one of your friends came up to you and said this. What would you most likely say to them? Without trying to get too specific I am sure you would probably tell your friend that this s**t is not normal.

I freaked out and started screaming at her and I may have been out of line but holy s**t. not at all, screaming at someone who tried to shove you off a cliff is probably the most understandable response you can have to this. Hell, in many cases, a strong physical response to defend yourself is also a reasonable response.

You shouldn’t need to be “on guard” with your girlfriend, in fact, that’s the very last place you should have to worry about something like this. She’s claiming that she didn’t know that you would get this mad after she tried to shove you off a cliff? Either she’s stupid, or she’s insane. Please excuse me for being so forward, but a sane human being doesn’t think someone will just laugh off an attempt at being shoved off a f**king cliff, dude.

This woman has poor impulse control at the very least. She definitely needs to speak to a professional about her urges to harm people close to her and most likely needs some kind of medication to curb her aggressive, and unpredictable behavior.

Neither of these things you’ve explained are nowhere near a joke and this is a big deal. I bet, if you were sit back and think about it for a little while, you probably have more instances like this that come to mind that should make you nervous. This isn’t a red flag, this is the entire broad side of a barn that is painted red.

kevin_r13 −  you came dangerously close to falling off the cliff and her response is “she didn’t know” you would get mad about pushing you? that’s the wrong thing to be sorry about.
both the examples you mentioned were dangerous for the people around her, namely you and in the case of the car driving, also the person behind you.

and then you mentioned even a third example where she knowingly gave nuts to a person who has a nut allergy, just to see the ensuing chaos. the fun and games and spontaneity that you like so much about her, was actually just showing a side of her that she can’t seem to control, even to the possible detriment of you and the people around her.

Do you think the girlfriend’s actions were harmless fun taken too far, or do they reveal deeper issues in their relationship? How would you handle a partner whose impulsiveness could put you in danger? Share your thoughts below and join the discussion!