My brother is angry I didn’t pay for a second gluten-free pizza for his girlfriend.?

A Reddit user shared a story about a tense family conflict that erupted during their deceased brother’s celebration of life. After ordering food for the gathering, including a gluten-free pizza for their youngest brother’s girlfriend, the brother added a second gluten-free pizza to the bill without asking. When the user refused to cover the extra expense, it led to a heated argument and strained their relationship. Read the original story below to learn more.

‘ My brother is angry I didn’t pay for a second gluten-free pizza for his girlfriend.?’

My (48f) brother (46m) was in the ICU for a week before dying. I rarely left his side and our family spent hours waiting in the hospital, including our youngest brother (26m). 26 would come and go with his girlfriend, bringing Starbucks and Culvers for some family members, but not for my sister and I.

I was told he’d said not to tell us when they were ordering because he didn’t want to buy for everyone (my sister and I). The ridiculous thing is, I would have paid for everyone’s food if they’d picked it up. They fly, I buy.

Fast forward to our deceased brother’s celebration of life. He wouldn’t have wanted something fancy, so I reserved a pub, put money on a bar tab, and ordered 10-12 pizzas. 26 arrived with his girlfriend who is gluten intolerant, so I ordered a veggie gluten-free pizza for her. Soon after, 26 orders another gluten-free pizza with different toppings and tells them to put it on my bill.

I don’t have much money and didn’t think it was cool for him to add another $20 without saying something to me, especially after the Starbucks/Culvers snubs in the hospital. I told him that the second $20 gluten-free pizza was his responsibility and asked the server to take it off my bill. He got angry, shoved me out of the way to pay, and stormed out. We haven’t spoken since because he says I disrespected his girlfriend. AITAH?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

virgo_qween −  NTA. i have a gluten-free diet and if i was going to an event and someone had taken the time to make sure to get me a gluten-free pizza with veggies (as im so used to people never bothering or struggling to cater for me), i would be so touched and grateful!

Revolutionary-Edge33 −  Not the a**hole- it seems like you family was going through alot and for him to specifically asked everyone to not tell you when he was picking up food was is messed up. He can’t expect you to buy his GF two pizzas.

My best friend has celiacs disease and though obviously as friend we treat each other she never expects someone to pick up her portion as she’s the only one who eats it. Your brother needs a reality check, he doesn’t get to be an a**hole and be upset when someone else does it to him. Also I’m so sorry for your loss losing someone is always incredibly tough.

cassowary32 −  Any reason why your brother wasn’t splitting the full bill for the celebration of life? NTA.

Annual_Version_6250 −  NTA  WTF was she doing eating two whole pizzas?

moontiara16 −  NTA. lol, tell him he disrespected his girlfriend by not buying her meal.

draynaccarato −  NTA , f**k his entitled ass. Not literally, not promoting i**est.

Dense_Explorer_7644 −  I’m sorry about your brother who has passed.

HoshiJones −  NTA. Your brother is obnoxiously entitled. Your refusal to pay for a second pizza for his girlfriend wasn’t disrespecting her; it was refusing to let him take advantage of you even further.

No-Statistician-4201 −  I guess the wrong brother died🤷🏻‍♀️

Sinacias −  NTA and if they couldn’t bring me even a coffee, I wouldn’t have bought her first special order pizza (I get why you did, you’re a nicer person than me, lol). Your little brother sounds like a b**t and his gf sounds pretty entitled for someone at a funeral. I’d ignore it entirely, let him sulk; longer he’s not talking to you, the longer he’s not showing up demanding you buy things for him and his gf.

Do you think the user was justified in refusing to pay for the extra pizza, or should they have let it go in the spirit of the occasion? How would you handle an unexpected expense in a sensitive situation like this? Share your opinions below!