My boyfriend (35m) drugged me (26f) with Benadryl because we got into an argument before our road trip and he wanted me to sleep the whole time.
A Redditor (26F) shares a troubling experience where her boyfriend (35M) drugged her with Benadryl during a road trip after an argument, so she would sleep through the drive.
The Redditor passed out and only realized what had happened later when her boyfriend casually admitted to it, saying he wished he could drug her more when she “acts out.” The Redditor is deeply disturbed and unsure whether she’s overreacting. Read the original story below.
‘ My boyfriend (35m) drugged me (26f) with Benadryl because we got into an argument before our road trip and he wanted me to sleep the whole time.?’
Monday we decided to make the 8ish hour drive back to our home state and quarantine there instead for a few months. Right before leaving, we got into a big fight because I wanted to stay at my mothers house for a while, he doesn’t want me to, among other things I won’t get into.
Well, before leaving we decided to eat dinner so we didn’t have to stop anywhere. Fast forward to our drive and not long after hitting the road I passed out. Don’t even really remember falling asleep. Woke up one time for a while, drank some Gatorade *which he gave me*, and then I fell asleep again.
I thought this was extremely weird because I wasn’t tired hardly at all and we didn’t even leave super early. I kept commenting on how weird it was that I was tired the whole drive and slept 90% of it.
Yesterday the tension eased a bit and he made the offhanded comment that he wishes he could d**g me more when I “act out” and argue with him. I ask him what he’s talking about. Proceeds to tell me he put Benadryl in my drink and that’s why I slept, so he didn’t have to deal with me.
He literally said this as though it wasn’t that big of a deal! I’m still reeling from the conversation and completely floored. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or not but something tells me I’m not, and it’s extremely fucked up to put medicine in drinks. I don’t know what to do
Check out how the community responded:
[Reddit User] − Leave him. That is a very big problem. Now he knows how to keep you at bay, he may exploit it for his gain.
titsmcgee84 − Listen, leave now. As a woman who has been there and didn’t leave when I should have. LEAVE. Second, you can get evidence later. You have a phone. He’s bound to try to talk to you.
Get him to admit it later via text or something but proof is NOT (or should not be) your #1 concern right now. Your safety is the most important thing. Can your mom come get you? Can you get away from him to a public place with people and wait for her or a friend to pick you up?
iwasbornsomething − This is absolutely *terrifying* behaviour. I notice he was also trying to get you away from your mom’s house – trying to keep you away from a support network maybe? Please get out as quickly and safely as you can. A guy who thinks this kind of behaviour is no big deal sounds really unpredictable, don’t expect him to behave rationally.
throwraconfuzzled − Ummm?? That’s terribly messed up. Get out of that relationship now. Don’t be around a guy who thinks it’s OKAY and WANTS to d**g you!!
PmMe_YourProblems − Probably one of the biggest red flags I’ve heard on this sub in a while. WTF
altruisticmillennial − LEAVE THE HOUSE IMMEDIATELY AND GO SOMEWHERE SAFE. This is not OK not in the least bit. I am like the one person on this subreddit who tells people not to break up over stupid s**t when everyone else says “run” and I am telling you…RUN
This is not ok. You are an adult and he has no right to do what he did to you. That is all sorts of illegal and for good reason! Call the cops!
WildlyUninteresting − That is a criminal a**ault charge.. He violated your trust. You should be running away from him.
abominable-karen − OP, can you set up some form of PayPal or Venmo and set up iPay or something similar? Someone mentioned you don’t have access to money so you can’t purchase an Uber.
If you do this, please message me your details. I will send you money for an Uber or Lyft. Get the f**k out of that situation as soon as possible. Your life may be in danger.
whyareyouwhining − The tone of your message here reveals that you are already making excuses for his behavior, and that deep down, you think you are to blame. Being drugged scared you, and it should. But there is a lot between the lines in this post – along with some explicitly stated examples of ongoing control and abuse.
You think you can’t make it without him. That you’ll be poor. You might be. It’s not the worst thing that can happen. He, on the other hand, chose to reveal the drugging to you. Why? *He wants you to know he drugged you. He wants you to know what he’s capable of. He wants you to be afraid.*
He has invested a lot of time and energy into isolating you and creating financial dependence. He clearly does not want you to leave.
You already know he crossed the line. And you know what you must do. Several of these posts have given advice about doing it surreptitiously, and soon. They are correct.
condell70 − The next time it may not be Benadryl. Get out now. Your life is more important.. Can your Mom come get you?. His behavior is criminal.
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