My bf says I need to lose weight even though I already lost 30lbs

A Reddit user shared their frustration about their boyfriend’s constant criticism regarding their weight, despite already losing 30 lbs and being at a healthy weight. Even at 100 lbs, the boyfriend continues to express dissatisfaction, making the user feel demoralized and unappreciated.

The user has put in significant effort to improve their health but now feels defeated by their boyfriend’s comments. The situation raises concerns about body image pressures in relationships and the emotional toll of feeling constantly judged.

‘ My bf says I need to lose weight even though I already lost 30lbs’

It’s incredibly frustrating and hurtful to be told that you need to lose more weight, especially after already making significant progress. You’ve worked hard to lose 30 lbs through dieting and exercising, yet your boyfriend still insists that you’re not losing enough.

Even at 100 lbs, he continues to criticize your body, which must feel defeating and demoralizing. It’s important to recognize that your health and well-being come first. You’ve already made significant efforts to take care of your body, cutting out junk food and committing to daily exercise.

At this point, it’s reasonable to question whether losing more weight is healthy or sustainable. Being constantly told that you’re “not enough” despite these efforts can erode your self-esteem and make you question your worth. When approaching this conversation with your boyfriend, it’s crucial to express your feelings openly and honestly.

Let him know how his comments are affecting you emotionally and mentally. You’ve done everything you can to take care of yourself, and it’s hurtful that he’s not recognizing your efforts. It’s also necessary to set boundaries about how you want to be treated and what is acceptable in your relationship.

You deserve to feel supported, loved, and appreciated for who you are, not just how you look. It might also be helpful to explain why you believe further weight loss may not be healthy for you. Discussing your physical and emotional well-being in the context of your health could help him understand your perspective.

His expectations need to be more aligned with your body’s needs, and this may require him to reflect on how his comments are impacting you. Ultimately, you deserve a partner who values you for who you are and supports you in maintaining a healthy, happy lifestyle.

If he continues to pressure you about your body despite these conversations, it may be necessary to reassess whether this relationship is a healthy and supportive one for you.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

GlenPickle97 −  I try not to say this often but you should probably get out of that relationship. That’s incredibly toxic and m**ipulative. It’s also physically dangerous for you. You need someone to build you up and love you not someone who will make you feel unattractive if you’re not a skeleton. F**k him.

chimera4n −  I read a post a couple of months ago, about a girl who was upset because her boyfriend constantly put her down, saying that she smelt really bad, she was showering multiple times a day, using antiperspirant etc but he still insisted that she smelt terrible (no-one else thought she smelt bad).

Things came to head, and basically during an argument he admitted that he was very insecure, and thought that if he told her she smelt bad, she wouldn’t have the self confidence to leave him, and find another boyfriend.From what you’re saying, I would guess that this is what is going on with your boyfriend.

Don’t ever put your health at risk over a partner, it’s just not worth it.

MountainMermaid406 −  Lose 200lbs by dropping him in the dirt. This is a serious red flag problem. Edit: thank you for the awards strangers!

Minabell −  You are in a toxic relationship. You are being manipulated. He is trying to control you. Anyone who tries to dictate their SO’s weight like that is a**sive and gross.

sizzlingtofu −  You can lose a lot of weight by dumping your l**er boyfriend. You don’t need to lose any weight (esp at 130lbs!!) your bf job is to always make you feel beautiful as you are so he sucks. You can do and deserve much better.

psykikk_streams −  male perspective her (45m) PLEASE: get away from that i**ot ASAP. he obviously does not care about your physical nor mental well being. its not about what HE thinks. its about what feels good, healthy and normal to YOU and nobody else.

[Reddit User] −  If you wanna lose weight, i say : lose the boyfriend.. You’ll feel better then 😉 But on a more serious note : do not lose more. You are 100% right, you are skinny enough as you are. You are limit underweighed.

Jessuss94 −  Your boyfriends attitude is disgusting. If your happy with your weight that’s all that matters! This relationship will not work if he keeps being this a**sive – which is exactly what he is being. Seriously consider if this relationship is worth it.

By the sounds of it he won’t rest until your a size nothing and this will not be good for your health! He’s being controlling. He’s trying to hold power over you. I hope your okay ❣️

Ruthless_Bunny −  Your boyfriend doesn’t care about your health. This is about control over you at the essence of who you are. He likes you to take up as little space in his life as possible. Are you hungry? Are you thinking clearly?

Girl. Stop this nonsense. D**p this controlling douchebag. Start nourishing yourself. Love yourself enough to know when to tell a man to get lost