My (26m) girlfriend’s (26f) sister (24f) is saying I am a c**ep for being in her daughters bed. How do I resolve this?

A man (26M) finds himself unfairly labeled a “creep” by his girlfriend’s (26F) sister (24F) after an innocent playtime moment with her three-year-old daughter.

While the child enjoyed pretending her bed was a “jail,” her mother later accused him of inappropriate behavior during an unrelated argument. Now he wonders how to resolve this tense situation. Read the full story below.

‘ My (26m) girlfriend’s (26f) sister (24f) is saying I am a c**ep for being in her daughters bed. How do I resolve this?’

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year now, I am very close with her family and get on well with them all. My girlfriend has always said that I am great with her niece, I am always playing with her and giving her attention, every-time I am not around her niece is asking where I am.

My girlfriends niece is 3, last time I was at their house, her niece took me to her room and put me on her bed as she wanted to pretend I was in jail and that the bed was the jail. Her niece wasn’t even on the bed with me as she stood next to the bed to stand guard and make sure I didn’t escape the jail.

My girlfriend’s sister knew about this at the time and said nothing. But today during an argument with her sister (my girlfriend), she brought it up saying that it was creepy to go in her bed and that she hates me.

I don’t know the etiquette on this so I don’t know if what I did was actually wrong, Or if she is just nitpicking as she and my girlfriend are arguing, because like I said she knew about it already but has only just brought it up now

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

ChickenScratchCoffee −  Just make sure any time you’re around the child, that you stay in the main room where other people are. Sounds like the sister is setting you up for something.

Historical-Guide-819 −  Yes that’s bs, you did nothing wrong besides for whatever you got thrown in jail for

sewingmomma −  If you were not on the bed with the child, but playing a game, I wouldn’t be too worried as a parent. That being said I don’t think you should be in the bedroom, moving forward. It just opens up potential for problems. Stay in the main family rooms.

SizeDistinct1616 −  It sounds like your GFs sister is just extremely immature, and threw that out there because she was “losing” an argument, and wanted to hit her sister below the belt.

That being said, she has also shown her true colours, so I’d strongly advise that you don’t interact or see her sister unless absolutely necessary, and that you ensure you are never again left alone in a room with her niece.

GoldenDragon001 −  She’s picking a fight with your girlfriend and you are the collateral. Still, you should just avoid the niece from now on. It’s the mother’s fault for this. Your relationship with the niece will have to be shallow in order to keep yourself in the boundary of your legal protection. 

Asleep_Bench_8351 −  I would apologize if what you did made her uncomfortable and honestly, distance yourself. The last thing you need is this woman accusing you of something n**arious with her daughter even if you’re perfectly innocent. One wrong accusation and your life would be severely damaged.

In addition, let your girlfriend handle her sister. If I was your gf, I would point blank ask my sister EXACTLY what she means and demand she speak plainly because one shouldn’t get away with throwing what she’s insinuating around.

strmomlyn −  It’s very easy to teach the niece boundaries. You just tell her you like playing where everyone can see.

bippityboppitynope −  I would no longer associate with sister again. It isn’t worth the risk

Medievalmoomin −  You were well-intentioned, and it would be wise to take this as an important warning. Only play with your girlfriend’s niece in the common areas of the house. That makes sure you’re above suspicion.

It’s all too easy for harmless fun to be misconstrued, as it is for malicious people to make accusations. I would try to think of this not as ‘you were being creepy,’ but instead as ‘you were being unwise.’

The real risk to your girlfriend’s niece is that you are teaching her what is ok. She is absolutely safe going off with you on her own. But this might teach her that it’s ok for a stranger to lead her away somewhere.

Just redirect. Next time she tries to lead you away to play prisoner, for example, say ‘let’s make the dining table the prison.’ Then you can go under the table and she can patrol outside. Don’t be afraid of playing with her, just make sure it’s public and transparent.

pimpmybongos −  I must agree that you are leaving room for suspicion. Is what you did crossing the line? I kind of think so. Why put yourself in a situation that makes you look creepy. If you must be in a little girls room then you should NEVER be on her bed and the door should never be closed. Harm reduction behaviour for all parties.

Also, stating that the little girl was encouraging your actions isn’t a good defense as little kids rely on older people to learn good judgement. Be honest and tell them your intentions are pure, apologize and move forward.

Misunderstandings like this can quickly spiral if not addressed. Was the sister’s reaction an overstep, or does she have valid concerns? How should he navigate this delicate situation while maintaining trust with his girlfriend’s family? Share your advice below!