My [25F] fiance [26M] played a cruel prank on me for my birthday.

A Redditor (25F) describes how her fiancé (26M) played a cruel prank on her for her birthday. She had been led to believe that he was taking her to a beautiful house they were considering, but when she arrived, it turned out to be a water balloon prank instead.

Her fiancé justified it as a joke, but the Redditor is left feeling betrayed and hurt, especially since the prank was a direct violation of her trust and expectations. Now, she’s staying with her parents and is unsure how to rebuild trust in their relationship. Read the original story below:

‘ My [25F] fiance [26M] played a cruel prank on me for my birthday.’

I dated my fiance for 3 years and I thought he was sweet. Not perfect but who is. He was adorable and is pretty funny. One of the things we talked about was moving into a great house. I always thought I should have a say in which house we go to but he insists this his chosen house will blow my mind away.

He then kept telling me he will take me there on my birthday. My birthday came and he instructed me to wear a blindfold. He drove me to where he said the house was and then helped me out. He took me to a spot and told me to count to 3.

I then got hit with what was a water balloon and when I took off my blindfold, there was no house. I was furious and upset but he kept telling me I shouldn’t have been so stupid to believe he could afford a house. I asked him to drive me to my parents but he kept apologizing and saying he didn’t know his joke had gone too far.

Ultimately, I had to Uber and I’m at my parents. My boyfriend keep bombarding me with texts saying he’s sorry and even says he will allow me to pick out a house. How do I trust him again after the cruel prank?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Jen5872 −  He tells you that you’re stupid for believing he can afford a house and then tells you that he will “allow” you to pick out a house? First, it’s an empty promise as he can’t afford a house. Second, WTF! Did he actually say he would “allow” you to pick out a house? Who died and made him boss? Then he refused to take you home so you had to get an Uber? Oh hell no!

YellowBeastJeep −  You don’t. Break up with this man. He is cruel.

ThrowRA53215321 −  “How do I trust him again after the cruel prank?” You don’t. I’m sorry but this is absolutely vile. This wasn’t a prank, it is a**sive behavior.. Edited to remove “borderline”

Candy2802 −  You don’t.. Break up. Move on & thank your lucky stars that you dodged a bullet. Your ‘ex’ fiancé is a walking talking red flag.. Poster boy for a**sive behaviour.

Annahowardshaw320 −  I think you need to think carefully about how this man treats you. Did anything he did make you feel valued, loved, listened to, respected? Ask yourself, what was he hoping to get out of this humiliation? Did he think it would genuinely make you laugh? I don’t think so. He wanted to demean you, make you feel silly and stupid.

I promise you, overlooking this type of behavior only allows him to move the boundaries further and further away, until something really horrible happens. No one deserves to be treated like this. If your best friend was in this situation, what would you think of her fiance?

A lot of women buy into the sunk cost fallacy of a relationship; that they have invested too much in a relationship to walk away. That is never the case. If a relationship isn’t making you feel valued, happy and respected, you should always walk away.

Start over, cry, be upset, and then try dating other people until you find someone who actually wants you to be happy, and not someone who takes delight in subjecting you to cruel actions.

Any_Calendar_3600 −  You tell him to go f**k himself. That’s not a prank.

RHND2020 −  Pranks aren’t funny. Throwing a water balloon at someone isn’t funny, especially when they are blindfolded. Then there’s all the rest of it: he pretended he bought a house that you had no say in, then blamed you for believing him, then refused to take you out of the situation he created,

and now is offering to “allow” you to have input in the house you will eventually live in? This is a garbage scenario all around. He sounds incredibly immature, and yet domineering. It would be impossible for me to trust this person again.

joe-lefty500 −  No way back from this. D**p him fast

murphy2345678 −  Is he 25 or 12? He acts 12.

Adventurous-travel1 −  This wasn’t a joke but to humiliate you. A adult would have a conversation that you cannot afford a house right now. To go through tell you he was taking you to a house a then throw a water balloon at you is very immature and just beyond stupid.. He is not ready for marriage

How can the Redditor rebuild trust with her fiancé after such a hurtful prank? Should she confront him further or focus on forgiveness, and is there a way to move forward? Have you ever experienced something that made you question trust in a relationship? Share your thoughts below!