My (23F) boyfriend (25M) thinks my dad’s (59M) gifts are “creepy.” Red flag ?

A 23-year-old woman has been receiving Valentine’s Day gifts from her dad (59M) every year as part of a long-standing tradition, which includes flowers and chocolates. However, her boyfriend (25M), Mark, has recently expressed discomfort, calling the gesture “creepy” and “weird.”

This comment has left the woman questioning whether her father’s gifts are inappropriate and whether her boyfriend’s reaction is a red flag in their relationship. She’s unsure how to proceed, as she wants to respect both her family tradition and her boyfriend’s feelings.

‘ My (23F) boyfriend (25M) thinks my dad’s (59M) gifts are “creepy.” Red flag?’

Every year for Valentine’s Day, my dad (59M) gives/sends me (23F) flowers and a box of chocolate. He has done this every year since I’ve been old enough to remember. He’d always give them to me when I was little, when I went to college and beyond he has them delivered to me. It’s just a tradition for us.

I think it’s sweet, I grew up in a really tight-knit, close family. I started dating my BF “Mark” (25M) a little over a year ago. Last Valentine’s Day I got the usual delivery from my dad. Mark saw and said, “Oh, your dad sent you those? Oh OK.” And that was it. Fast forward to this year.

Last night, Mark and I were discussing our Valentine’s Day plans for this year, like what restaurant should we go to, and he made a passing comment about hoping I don’t get any “creepy gifts in the mail this year.” I was confused and asked him what he meant, and he said, “You know, how you got that stuff from your dad last year.

It’s creepy for a dad to be sending his adult daughter Valentine’s Day gifts.” I was taken aback because it’s not like my dad sent me lingerie or something!! It was just flowers and some chocolate. I tried explaining to Mark that this is a tradition I have always shared with my dad. He stands firm that it’s “creepy” and “weird,”

and he said he asked his friends and they thought it was weird too. I tried to let it go but it has been bothering me. 1) I have never heard these kinds of negative comments from Mark before and am not sure whether it’s a “red flag.” I have never been in a serious relationship before and am still figuring it all out.

2) When my dad’s delivery comes this month, I don’t want Mark to feel uncomfortable. 3) Is it actually creepy for my dad to be sending this stuff? I have never found it so, but would like to hear other perspectives.. Thanks!!

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

YogurtclosetActual75 −  I do the same for my adult daughters.

Zoe2805 −  Maybe he feels forced to do more than he wants to “compete” with your dad or whatever. Don’t change your tradition with your dad. It’s sweet and a great proof of your good bond. It’s not creepy at all.

PolackMike −  It is not creepy. It’s sweet. Mark is a f**king a**hole. I’m a dad of two girls and this makes me sad that a father showing love for his daughter is thought of as creepy. Every year I get my girls a piece of jewelry, flowers and take them to dinner. You have a limited amount of Valentine’s Days with your dad on this earth.

One day, he won’t be around to send you your cherished Valentine’s gifts. All you’ll have is Mark and his stupid f**king thoughts. And if you and Mark stay together, he’ll probably rethink how “creepy” it was that your dad loved you and then want to do the same for his daughters.

Meanwhile, you’ll have missed precious years of gifts from your own father. Mark’s a d**k. Mark needs to grow the f**k up.

Adventurous-travel1 −  My dad sent me and my daughter flowers until her passed a couple of years ago. I’m 53 now. Your dad is making sure you have also known that he loves you and think of you. This is not creepy or weird. Your bf is making an issue out of nothing. What is wrong with him to think in this way?

rapt2right −  Your dad’s valentine’s day gifts are sweet, not creepy. Your boyfriend’s reaction, though? Kinda creepy. He’s sexualizing a completely innocent gesture of affection from a father to his child.

I don’t know that it’s a “red flag”, necessarily, but it IS a good enough reason to really pay attention to his ability to give and receive affection outside a romantic or s**ual context

Dragon_Bidness −  Tell your boyfriend to stop watching i**est porn. Its warping his brain.

Intelligent-Ad8436 −  Cherish these times with dad because he will be gone some day.

Jilltro −  I’m 37 and my dad sends my brother and I a whitmans sampler and a card every single year for Valentine’s Day. It’s one of my most cherished traditions and I look forward to it every year. Only a small, pathetic man would feel insecure about a gesture of love from father to daughter. My husband looks forward to eating the candies I don’t want

angelisfrommars −  Mark sucks.

DivinitySousVide −  It’s not a red flag, but his attitude shows a lot of immaturity. I send my 3 sisters and my mother flowers for Valentines day every year.

Do you think the boyfriend’s reaction is a red flag, or is his discomfort understandable? How would you navigate a situation where a long-standing family tradition clashes with a partner’s perspective? Share your thoughts below!