I [24M] think my girlfriend [25F] is cheating on me

A Reddit user is concerned about their girlfriend’s recent distant behavior, including neglecting responsibilities, a lack of communication, and strange phone calls. After noticing unusual receipts in her car and discovering that she has blocked them on social media, the user is feeling uneasy and fears something might be wrong in their relationship. They are torn between confronting her about these changes and respecting her privacy.

‘ I [24M] think my girlfriend [25F] is cheating on me’

Over the past few days, my girlfriend has been acting a bit differently. She hasn’t been responding to my texts during work hours, and we haven’t really talked until she gets home. She’s been neglecting some of our responsibilities, like taking care of our pets, not cleaning up after them, and not making sure they have enough water.

When she gets home, she immediately showers and changes, then says she’s going out with her friends. I don’t see her much at all, and when I do, it’s just for a few minutes before work the next morning. Even then, she barely speaks to me, only saying things like “excuse me” when she needs something from the bathroom.

I asked her what’s wrong, but she just says, “nothing, I’m fine.” Recently, she’s been getting phone calls, excusing herself to talk for long periods of time. I haven’t tried to eavesdrop or look through her phone, but I’ve been feeling uneasy. The reason I decided to seek advice is because this morning, I took her car to get serviced,

and I found receipts from the drugstore in the glove compartment with a purchase for items we don’t typically use. We’ve been together for a long time and are at a point in our relationship where we’ve talked about starting a family when the time comes.

We don’t use things like that, so I was confused and concerned. I thought maybe one of her friends bought them, but I didn’t think that was likely. To make matters worse, I noticed she’s blocked me on Snapchat. I can no longer see her story or check her score.

She’s been hanging out with her friends a lot, which has never bothered me before, but in the past, she’d always take a little time to have dinner with me or just spend time together before going out. Now, she seems distant. I’m really scared about what’s going on, but I feel like I need to know the truth.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

throwit02 −  There’s no reason to go into PI mode. The next time she comes home, ask her when she’s moving out and how the animals will be cared for. If she gets defensive and tries to deflect the discussion (eg. you went through her car!), ask to see her phone. Don’t argue about it just ask. Then tell her it’s time for her to take her cheating ass somewhere else.

ottoneurseolo −  She is cheating on you. She spends no time with you, seems to avoid you at all costs and claims that she is constantly out with her friends (she is probably with another guy). D**p her.

QueenAA_12 −  I’ve found that my gut feeling is always right. A tactic I use on kids when I don’t know what they’re guilty of but want to find out and I’m asking specifically is a “do you have something to tell me?” And if they say “no” you say “are you sure” and if they start to get defensive stand your ground and be like “I mean i asking so I can hear it from you,

I already know the answer but I’m giving you the chance to be honest” (DONT answer anything else, you always need to go back to “I just want to hear It from you”) they’ll probably be like “what are you talking about” and you just need to be like “you know what I’m talking about but I’m waiting it hear it from you”

Sometimes they’ll stand their ground even more and keep saying no and you have one of two options. You say “okay” leave it at that and be ice cold to them. Or you say “alright I’ll leave then”. That all makes it seem like you know, when you don’t but it scares them because they believe you do or will believe it at some point.

bbyronUn −  A) we do not use condoms. We’re at a stage in our relationship where if we get pregnant, we get pregnant. Whoa! With red flags everywhere, please don’t have s** with her. If the probable other guy doesn’t use condoms once or twice, you’ll have your name on a baby’s birth certificate that isn’t yours.

_HappyG_ −  whenever I use a condom, I get hives on my penis. Have been to the doctor about it and I’ve been told I have a latex allergy. You know latex-free condoms are a thing right? Bringing a baby into this relationship sounds like the *worst possible thing* right now.

You need to use protection and re-assess your relationship. The first step is communication and discussing your concerns. Your gf is checked out and neglecting your pets (which is animal abuse), it’s time to act.

meatntits −  You seriously dodged a bullet. Without even addressing her obviously horrible attitude/treatment of you, I would say that anybody that owns animals and neglects them are just as bad as neglectful parents, IMO. It shows that she is incapable of being a decent human being. Seriously OP, **thank your lucky stars you didn’t have a child with her**.

frankensteeeeen −  DUDE she’s probably like 99% cheating on you. The condoms thing is a huge red flag. You can see a quilt with all these red flags. Even if she isn’t cheating, she’s completely checked out of the relationship. Leave before she gives you some of that hyper strong chlamydia the CDC is warning us about.

new_clever_username −  She is cheating on you or is going to. Too many incidents to be a coincidence.

throwawayd4326 −  Whether or not she’s cheating on you, the important thing is that you think she is, which means your relationship is dead in the water. As long as you two remain together, that suspicion will continue to exist, and the more deeply you become involved with each other is the more difficult for you to break up.

dlabsx −  Between the condoms on the block, yeah I’d fear the worst too. Might just get ahead of things and end it on your terms.