Am ITAH for getting mad because my husband wants to leave me because we only have one baby and I keep having miscarriages and he wants 3-4 kids
After 16 years together and three children from a previous relationship, a woman had her tubes untied to fulfill her husband’s desire for more children. They successfully had a baby girl, but after two subsequent miscarriages, her husband questions their future together, expressing his intention to leave if she cannot bear more children.
Feeling devastated and betrayed, she grapples with her husband’s ultimatum, knowing she’s done everything possible to have the family he desires.
‘Am ITAH for getting mad because my husband wants to leave me because we only have one baby and I keep having miscarriages and he wants 3-4 kids’
My husband and I have been together for 16 years, he has helped raise my first three children. My tubes were tied when we got together. In 2021 I had them untied so we could finally have a baby. We got pregnant and now have a 17 month old baby girl.
(Before that he has always threatened to leave if we never have children together.) Since having her I’ve have two miscarriages and now he asked what’s going to happen if I can’t have another baby. In other words he wants to leave me when I’ve done literally all I can to give him the children me wants.
Mind you I can still get pregnant I just haven’t been able to keep another baby to term. So am I the ah.
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
EmeraldUnicorn19 says:
He will just find a new wife to help raise it and breed more for him.
Party_Mistake8823 says:
And drop the first 3 off with relatives cause he doesn’t see them as his own. He wants 4 kids, he HAS 4 kids and is still acting like he doesnt. Who are these people?
ChallengeKey6640 says:
It’s not even necessarily that, I’ve known people who have to have a boy child to carry on “THE NAME”, girls mean nothing because of this.
BananaHats28 says:
They’ll have to learn to get over it in today’s society, heck I’ve got at least 3 friends/coworkers who are guys that chose to change their last name when they got married cuz either they didn’t like their name or just thought their partners was cooler.
LunarCycleKat says:
Why are these dumb ones always the breeders? (I shouldn’t speak, I have 5-yes twins involved lol) but at least my husband is smart AF. As are my kidlets.
S*it i just realized i might be the dummy in the family 🤣
This emotional dilemma highlights the struggles some couples face when navigating family planning and personal loss. How can they find common ground while dealing with their differing hopes and fears? What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments!
