Am I The A**hole for breaking up with my Girlfriend because her Mom insulted me?

A Reddit user (24M) broke up with his girlfriend (25F) after her mother insulted him during a dinner. The mother criticized his hobbies, calling him immature and even making a derogatory comment. The girlfriend defended her mother, dismissing his feelings, which led to the breakup. The user now regrets his choice of words but is unsure if he’s in the wrong. Read the full story below.

‘ Am I The A**hole for breaking up with my Girlfriend because her Mom insulted me?’

I, (24m) and my (ex)girlfriend,(25f), decided to invite her family over for dinner. We wanted to do it at home since we thought it would be a better first introduction. We set the table, made nice food, everything was looking good. My girlfriend, who we will call Gwen, told me that her brother (18m) would love to see my “gaming room”. I have no problems with her brother, so I agreed to show him.

In my room, I had a lot of Marvel posters and figures since I really enjoy it, along with some other posters to shows and movies. Her brother, let’s call Scott, indeed loved the room. I let him play on my console while we waited for Gwen to finish off the food. Gwen’s mother walked into my room and gave me and Scott a disgusted b**ch face. I said hello, but she just stared at the room.

“Why do you have this stuff? Are you 5?” She asked. I was confused on what she was referring to, until she directly commented about one of my posters. “You are 25, why are you obsessed with super-heroes?” Scott corrected her when she pointed at a character. “Thats actually a villain.” Scott innocently said.

He was just trying to make jokes, but Gwens mom was not having it. She proceeded to call me immature and a terrible influence on Scott. When she was walking up the stairs, I heard her mumble a word I will not repeat, but it’s about homos*xuals. I didn’t want to start anything, so I continued to let Scott play on the console, which was a ‘super hero game’, and I went on my phone. After we all finished eating, Gwens mom pulled me aside.

“I personally believe you should see a doctor. Adult men shouldn’t be playing with super hero figures or still watching kid shows. Something is wrong with you, and you better not let [Scott] grow up like you.” I was astonished on how she said it like it was nothing. She left without saying goodbye to me or Gwen. That night, I decided to tell Gwen what her mom said, quoting everything as accurate as I could.

“No, she wouldn’t say that.” Gwen tried to cover up for her mom. I kept trying to tell her how I felt, but she said that I was being sensitive for taking it to heart. I was angry that Gwen automatically took her Mom’s side, even though I was hurt by what her Mom said.

I told Gwen that I don’t want to get married if [her mom] would be my mother in law. I regret how I worded it, but now Gwen was infuriated. She yelled at me and said I was (another word I cant say) and that she thinks im a “drama king. Right there on the spot I broke up with her. I can’t see myself living the rest of my life with someone like that or with a family like hers (except Scott; he’s chill). Am I the A**hole for breaking up with her?

See what others had to share with OP:

Significant-Bobcat48 −  NTA. This is so mean and disrespectful of the mom, and then the gf outed herself when she said you shouldn’t take it to heart. She absolutely knows her mom would say something like that. Good on you for getting out of that fam (minus Scott, we like him).

mayd3r −  Poor Scott, growing up with these two, yikes. At least you made a new friend. NTA.

angeldddoll −  nta, if her mom was disrespectful to you, it’s understandable that you’d be upset. a partner should stand up for you, and if she didn’t, that’s a big red flag. your feelings are valid.

Solid_Guy1983 −  D**p the girl, keep the brother.

PilferedPendulum −  40+M with two kids here! My home office is *covered* in Legend of Zelda, video games, and comic book paraphernalia. I literally have a replica Master Sword and Hylian Shield on my wall that I paid a ton of money to have handmade by Heroic Replicas.

I’m also a director+ gaming/tech leader who worked hard to rise up in the industry and think that Gwen’s mom should come visit me. I’ll gladly smile and laugh at her weird hangups. People like that are hilarious because they’re always so incredibly insecure and awful. And no, you don’t want to marry into that. 100% no. You want in-laws who you will enjoy being around. I love my in-laws.

Edit: and if the in-laws s**k, you gotta have someone with you who has the willpower to cut them out! Everyone on earth is imperfect, but some folks are imperfect enough to be cut out entirely. You need a partner who can also be that person.

BigCityFish −  NTA. If her mom’s gonna act like that now you’re gonna hear that and worse for the rest of your life. And the fact that your ex took her mom’s side after what she said shows that she’s not gonna respect you enough to tell her mom she’s wrong. It’s your hobby and it’s not hurting anyone. Her mom needs to chill out if she doesn’t want her son to like the most popular movie franchise and genre of media out there.

TravisBravo −  Game plan: become best friends with Scott. Take him to all comic book movies and even a Comic-Con or two. Make him what your would-have-been mother-in-law hated..

BlueGreen_1956 −  NTA. You dodged a bullet. It’s a shame Scott has to live with those two bitches.

OwlT1me −  NTA: It’s a good thing you learned that the rotten apple doesn’t fall far from the tree now before you got married.

According-Addendum65 −  Nta. Her mother is a horrible person and I’d guess underneath the gf wasn’t much better.. the trash took itself out.