AITAH for wanting to divorce my husband after he named our newborn son after the last name of his female boss behind my back?

A Reddit user is grappling with a shocking revelation about her husband after the birth of their first child. Two weeks after welcoming their son, she discovers that her husband registered the baby’s name with the last name of his female boss—contrary to the name they had agreed upon, which was meant to honor her late grandfather.

The user is devastated by this breach of trust and feels that her husband’s actions may indicate deeper issues, possibly even an affair. Despite her sister downplaying the situation, the user is contemplating divorce. Read the original story below to see how a seemingly small decision can unravel the foundations of a marriage.

‘ AITAH for wanting to divorce my husband after he named our newborn son after the last name of his female boss behind my back?’

I (31F) and my Husband (35M) just had our first child 2 weeks ago. I thought we were decided on the name the day of his birth but apparently my d**bass husband changed his mind. The name we were going for originally is also the name of my veteran grandfather who passed away a couple years back.

Yesterday morning the birth certificate came in the mail. I found out my husband didn’t actually register the name we had both discussed and agreed on. The name registered on the birth certificate is the last name of his boss, who also is a woman.

I initially tried gas lighting myself that the wrong one was shipped but the package had both our full names and phone numbers written on the front sticker so the evidence that this was not an accident was already close to solid.

Yesterday evening when my husband came home from work I asked him what he named our child in a passive aggressive way and he responded with the original name we decided on. I then asked why it said \*The Name\* on the package and he is saying he doesn’t know.

I called the hospital and there he was for sure the one who registered it. I finally got him to admit it but he didn’t give a good reason to why he decided to name our child after his BOSS who was accused for fraud in the company instead of the name that was supposed to honor my grandfather.

After 5 years of being together, I no longer trust him and I am planning to file a divorce in the next few months. My younger sister (26F) thinks it’s not a big deal and I should let go.

Also she compared to when I named my hamster after something funny when I was 21 and she texted me and said that “Just like that hamster, that baby won’t care so get over yourself.”. I don’t know if I should be taking this as seriously as I am now.

I am starting to think there is a possible affair going on but maybe I am over reacting and he just really likes the name. After I posted the story on my Instagram story, a friend told me that I should make an account on here and ask for opinion.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Cautious_Chknleggs −  Definitely smells fishy….I’m gonna go with NTA especially since when asked the first time, he denied

Material_Cellist4133 −  NTA. Was he sleeping with the female boss? If not, I have no idea why someone would name someone after a criminal.

IllustratorSlow1614 −  NTA – You get time to change your mind and correct the birth certificate, so do that first before filing for divorce. You can also change baby’s surname at the time – put your maiden name as his surname and dad’s surname as a second middle name. Two people play your husband’s little game.

It doesn’t really matter if there is or was an affair. He betrayed you by lying about your baby’s name, that massive lie would have been enough for me to want to divorce. If you hadn’t seen the birth certificate for yourself you would have had no idea he went back on the decision you made for your son’s name.

Functionally you would have been calling your child the name you chose, but his legal name would be totally different. Your sister is an i**ot. Naming a hamster and naming a person are two different things.

Hamsters don’t respond to names, people do. How confused would your son be if you called him Name A his whole life when his real name on his birth certificate is Name B?!

FSmertz −  NTA – Tell your sister to get extra friendly with that hamster. Tell your husband to ‘fess up about his love for his sleazy boss. Tell your attorney to file name change papers and then divorce papers ASAP.

Unsettling_Skintone −  Change it. You have “x” number of days/months to change the baby’s name without a court order, but it may cost between $15 and $50 dollars. You are also probably going to have to give notice to your (ex)husband. Check with the Office of Vital Records. Good luck!

GhanaWifey −  NTA – He is a l**r and a c**ater who is having an affair with her and also probably is an accomplice to her fraud and had to do it to keep HER happy. I would leave him, divorce him, and change my child’s name as well.. Reddit updateme please.

HauntingReaction6124 −  your sister’s response makes me wonder if sis knew something about his relationship with the boss or suspected something OR there is something sus going on between your sis and your husband.

To be that blase about name change says much about your sister and your relationship. This is her nephew. Why would she be comfortable with saying the boss’s name when she talks about her nephew.

Ill_Letterhead_8386 −  First thing is to get the baby’s name changed from husband’s AP…so he can’t use it as a bargaining chip in your upcoming divorce. Next is to get yourself checked for STDs..and finally check to see if he was an accomplice in said boss’s fraud. NTAH. UpdateMe!

Mysterious_Book8747 −  Tell him to agree to a legal name change before you file for divorce. While also hiring a lawyer, a PI, and filing for divorce. What an ass. I can’t believe that’s even legal? Did he forge your signature?

she_who_knits −  Since both parents are expected to sign the birth registration form, how is it that you didn’t notice what name was on it?

Do you think the user’s reaction is justified, or is her response too extreme considering the situation? How would you approach a significant disagreement over a child’s name? Share your thoughts below!