AITAH for not telling my gf flashing was a break up offense?
A Redditor recently shared his dilemma after breaking up with his girlfriend over a boundary she crossed repeatedly. Earlier in the year, she flashed a band at a concert, which made him uncomfortable, and he clearly communicated his feelings about it.
Although she apologized and promised not to do it again, she repeated the same behavior at a Halloween party. When he broke up with her afterward, she claimed she didn’t realize it was a “break-up-worthy” offense and would’ve acted differently if she’d known. Read the full story below.
‘ AITAH for not telling my gf flashing was a break up offense?’
So, earlier this year, my gf flashed a band during a concert. This bothered me a lot, and I told her that I heavily disliked this. She apoligized, and told she won’t do it again. During Halloween last night, we went to a party, and she went wild and flashed some strangers.
I didn’t say anything right there and then, but once I took her home, I mentioned if she remembered our talk about flashing. She said she did, but just got caught up in the moment. I told her that we were done. I think she was caught off guard.
She tried to explain herself, and she told me that she didn’t know I’d break up with her over this, and that if she knew this was such “break up worthy” to me, she never would have done it. I walked our, but the last thing I told her was that I don’t want to threaten the relationship or give out ultimatums.
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
mrs-poocasso69 − “Caught up in the moment” and “wouldn’t have done it if I knew you’d d**p me” don’t really fit together in my opinion.
DMmeNiceTitties − NTA. You can break up with someone for whatever reason.
ColoradoWeasel − It just shows your incompatibility. You think exposing yourself to others is not okay. She thinks it’s perfectly fine, especially when drinking or during festivities. The incompatibility and lack of respect for your feelings are two really great reasons for the breakup. You don’t have to try to work through that.
Ghoulish_kitten − “I’ll never do it again,” is a major implication of seriousness. Walking back a “never again,” is grounds for break up itself arguably.
HuffN_puffN − Haha, she didn’t think you could break up for her flashing her boobs, even tho you told her not to do that again? And who get caught up in a moment and their thought goes to flash their tittys? Like what?
Creepy-Stable-6192 − Anyone in their right mind knows that is break up worthy when already told by the SO to please not do that. NTA. Find yourself a woman who listens and cares.
Usual-Desk6583 − She’s being an i**ot. She knows what she’s saying is bs. If you told her you where sending pics to women she would lose it. Nta
Glittersparkles7 − NTA. Which is it? Either she got “caught up in the moment” or she made a conscious decision to disregard your already discussed boundary that she wouldn’t have blown off if she had known it was break up worthy. That statement means she knew in the moment that you’d be pissed and chose to do it anyways.
EngineeringOk1885 − Good for you! Maybe this will be a life lesson for her in her next relationship and that flashing your tits is not everyone’s cup of tea.
Rivsmama − Who just flashes random strangers? This isn’t a 2000s high school rom com lol. What a bizarre thing to do. Nta
Do you think the boyfriend was justified in ending things, or should he have given her another chance to respect his boundaries? How would you handle it if a partner crossed a line you’d already discussed? Share your thoughts below!
