AITAH for leaving my friend stranded at a wedding because he wouldn’t stop drinking?
A Reddit user shared a story about leaving a friend stranded at a wedding after he got excessively drunk, ignored warnings, and refused to leave on time. Frustrated by the friend’s behavior and unwilling to wait any longer, the user decided to leave without him. Now, the friend is upset and claims the user was in the wrong. Read the full story below for all the details.
‘ AITAH for leaving my friend stranded at a wedding because he wouldn’t stop drinking?’
I (31M) was a groomsman at a wedding last weekend. My friend Kyle (30M) was also invited, and since he doesn’t drive, I offered to give him a ride to and from the venue, which was about an hour away.
Kyle is known to get a little wild at parties, so I told him before the wedding that he needed to keep it under control because I wasn’t going to babysit him. Well, Kyle completely ignored that. He started downing drinks during the cocktail hour and was noticeably drunk before dinner was even served.
By the time the speeches started, he was yelling out comments and being embarrassing. I told him to chill out, but he laughed it off. When it came time to leave Kyle was wasted and kept saying he wasn’t ready to go.
He wanted to stay and keep drinking even though I had already told him I didn’t want to drive super late. After 20 minutes of trying to get him to leave, I got fed up and left without him.
The next morning Kyle texted me saying I was an a**hole for leaving him stranded. Apparently, he had to sleep on the groom’s couch and was mortified the next day. He’s still mad and says I should’ve waited since I was his ride. I think he’s the one who crossed the line by getting too drunk and disrespecting my time. So AITAH for leaving my drunk friend behind at the wedding?
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
Applesbabe − NTA. Your friend should be mortified but at himself. You didn’t get him drunk and act the fool–he did that on his own.
Rare-Humor-9192 − Blaming you for his boorish behavior. That’s really rich. Your “friend” needs to come to grips with his a**oholism and seek help. I’m sure that others close to him are also troubled by his actions. Would you be up for organizing an intervention? It really sounds like that’s what he needs. NTA.
Far-Season-695 − NTA and maybe re think how much time you want to continue spending with Kyle
TheBerethian − NTA. He’s 30. He has no one to blame but himself.
Nobody_asked_me1990 − NTA. He should have kept it under control like you told him too. People who get sloppy drunk at weddings deserve to be embarrassed about it.
Ballas333 − You’re definitely in the right to leave him there. He completely ignored your every request at every turn. I’m sure this is a pattern of his, too. However, the safe thing would have been to at least try to find someone else to take him home. But NTA.
2old2tired4this − NTA. I think 20 minutes of you trying to get him to leave when you were ready says you are NTA. You leave when your ride says you are leaving or you find another ride. Your friend is TA for being obnoxiously drunk at a friend’s wedding, disrupting speeches, and imposing on the groom and bride on their WEDDING NIGHT, then blaming YOU for for it.
Prestigious_Elk353 − NTA
CarryOk3080 − Nta Kyle is the friend no one wants to deal with. Poor groom. Hope his bride wasn’t too angry. If that was me groom could sleep on couch with his drunk friend.
HealthyVegan12331 − I’m guessing Kyle not having a driver’s license is related to his drinking?
Do you think the Redditor was justified in leaving their friend behind after repeated warnings, or should they have waited to ensure he got home safely? How would you handle a situation like this? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!