AITAH for exposing my parents when they forgot about me on their wedding?

A teenage girl, overshadowed and neglected by her parents during their wedding planning, finds herself entirely excluded from the ceremony. After discovering they forgot her ticket and role, her protests were dismissed, leaving her behind.

Furious at their dismissal and false explanations on social media, she exposed the truth online, causing a family rift and ruining their big day. While initially satisfied, she now struggles with guilt over her actions. read the original story below…

‘ AITAH for exposing my parents when they forgot about me on their wedding?’

TL; DR: My parents were married a couple of weeks ago in Hawaii and they invited my siblings and a few friends but forgot to include me in any part of the planning, the ceremony or the trip so I exposed them on social media and now they are furious.

I know this seems like a weird situation, but I just feel so angry and depressed that I feel the need to vent even if no one is listening. So I (17f) was recently forgotten about on the day of my parents wedding. My parents have been together for about 25 years, but they never actually got married.

That’s why when my dad (50m) proposed to my mother(49f) on their anniversary (which they have always celebrated on the date my mother found out she was pregnant with my eldest sister even tough they were already together before) everyone, including me, was elated and celebrated the occasion with great joy.

This happened all the way back in February. They immediately jumped into wedding planning deciding very early on on a small event in Hawaii with just the closest family and friends for an intimate ceremony. Almost immediately my mother asked my sister (25f) to be her maid of honor,

and my dad asked my brother (22m) to be his groomsman. I wasn’t surprised or offended by this; my sister had always been a mommy’s girl and they both enjoyed spending time with each other shopping and socializing so they had a very close bond and the same goes for my father and brother;

they always played football together and messed around with cars; my father even trained my brother’s team for a while in middle school. That had always left me as the odd one out: I tried to insert myself on my family’s hobbies and groups that they had within our home but was always rebuffed:

Maybe they could sense that my interest on their activities wasn’t all that genuine or maybe they just didn’t care. Either way I was used to being the last and least important member of my family. Mom had sis and dad had bro,

my parents had each other and my two siblings were closer to each other than they ever were to me, leaving me very lonely and isolated in my own home.
During the preparation for the wedding initially it was suggested that I be the flower girl,

but my sister thought that role would be more appropriate for her daughter (3f) so that idea was quickly tossed away. Later on my maternal grandmother suggested that I might read a poem or do a little bit of a speech during the ceremony,

but both my parents refused because they wanted the wedding to be “low key”, and they didn’t think a “cheesy and sappy speech would fit their vision” (their literal words). I was still okay with all of this even though it hurt to know I would be the only member of the family to not actually be part of the wedding party or have any role at all on the day.

As the day approached my parents and siblings got more and more caught up on all the wedding planning. I noticed my mom didn’t invite me dress shopping and that whenever they would have discussions about the venue or the event I was left out so I decided to see if they would realize that I wasn’t being involved at all and kept quiet,

waiting for them to ask me something, anything, about the wedding but that never happened. The wedding was set for three weeks ago, the end of august. The day before the departure my mother casually asked if I had my luggage ready because we couldn’t be late to the airport.

I bluntly told her that I hadn’t prepared anything. She got confused for a second and then snapped at me for not being prepared. I then asked her if I even had a ticket and her face went pale. Yep, they hadn’t even bought me a ticket and I’m not even sure if I had a room or any accommodations once there.

Even though I was the only person in my family without an stable income (I work as a part-time baby-sitter) my parents had bought first class tickets for my siblings and the couple other friends that were attending the wedding but had forgotten me.

My mom told me not to make a big deal out of it and that they can just find me a low-cost ticket last minute from a cheap airline, but I just replied by asking her “Then what? Do I even have a dress for the ceremony?” She went with sis to buy hers and all the other female guests months ago, but I wasn’t included.

That’s when my father came in and just told me to s**k it up and that I’ve never been a girly girl so I could just wear whatever. I got mad at this because, even though I’m not the most feminine girl in the planet, I would have loved to be included in such an important part of my parents wedding,

and it was about the fact that I was excluded for literally everything that had been going on for months. We all got into a fight with them calling me entitled and accusing me of making myself small intentionally so they would forget me (like that is a valid excuse for ignoring a child).

They ended up telling me that if I was going to keep this attitude I might as well skip the whole thing altogether to which I responded with a defiant “Fine” and went to my room. Next morning they all left for Hawaii without me.

The ceremony was really small, but they all posted loads of pictures on insta and facebook about how perfect and magical that whole week was being. People realized quickly that I wasn’t in any of the photos and asked my parents why to which they replied that unfortunately I had caught Covid before the trip and had to stay behind.

My blood boiled at this, I don’t know why this was the straw that broke the camel back for me, but it was. I decided to take a Covid test and published a picture of myself holding the negative test and captioned it “Not sick at all, just forgotten.”

I tagged everyone that had questioned my absence from the trip and the wedding in the picture and, for good measure, also every person invited to it. I also wrote in the comments about how my parents had literally forgotten about anything to do with me until the day before parting and how they actually uninvited me.

Most people were on my side and others couldn’t believe it and thought there must be something more to the story than what I was saying but one thing is for certain, I completely ruined my parents wedding, and their day was overshadowed by my confession.

At first I felt quite satisfied with myself for standing up on my own but, after a barrage of messages from my family calling me every name in the book and later, when they came back, them furiously attacking me for my immature actions and my spoiled behavior my pride deflated quickly, and I began to feel awful.

I hate my family, and I hate being in this house but I’m a minor and can’t leave just yet. I do feel like I could’ve handled the situation better though and now I feel so depressed that I’m second guessing everything I did, from not speaking up before to the way I exposed them.

I also feel guilty for the lack of connection between all of my family and me and maybe I could’ve done more? So Aitah for ruining my parents wedding when they forgot about me?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Kitty_Seriously −  NTA . How could you have ruined a wedding they had exactly as they planned? You weren’t invited, didn’t attend and didn’t have any affect on the planning or details? I’m really hoping this is fake bait, but it hits home close enough to feel real…

Obrina98 −  NTA Can you move in with grandma? Their history of rebuffing you whenever you try to participate with them says this wasn’t a one-off. It’s like they don’t even consider you family. No judge is going to force you back to their house at 17. If you have a place to go, get your things and your documents and go.

Front_Rip4064 −  NTA. Your parents fucked up. They know it. Your siblings also fucked up. They also know it. And you weren’t making them look bad with your social media posts. You were correcting a lie. I hope you are able to qualify for a full ride scholarship, because something tells me you don’t have much of a college fund, if any.

youmustb3jokn −  Nta I hope this is not true. Your family seems super toxic. I don’t think you telling the truth after their very convenient lies is ever wrong. You are the kid and they s**k. Do any of your family members ever stick up for you? Grandparents uncles aunts cousin

Advanced-Novel1884 −  NTA, your parents totally dropped the ball here. It’s messed up that they excluded you from their wedding planning and even tried to uninvite you at the last minute. You had every right to call them out for forgetting about you.

Crafty_Special_7052 −  Nta when you turn 18 leave and don’t look back. Go NC. Because honestly even though your mom asked your older sister to be MOH you could have also been a bridesmaid. My own mother who I haven’t always had a good relationship got married to my step dad in 2021 and they been together since I was 6 and I’m currently 29.

My mom had both me and my sister as bridesmaids and my step dad had his son as a groomsman. They could have included you but purposely chose not to. It’s fucked up and they deserve to be called out publicly.

Knickers1978 −  They started it. You finished it. If they don’t want to be exposed as bad family, then they shouldn’t be bad family.. NTA What kind of parent would forget a child? Ask them that.

pigandpom −  So, they forgot about you during the preparation, forgot about you during booking tickets etc, and then lied about why you weren’t there and they’re pissed you told the truth about your absence? NTA. Make sure you have all your important papers so you can move out at 18.

nick4424 −  So it was ruined because they got exposed not because you weren’t there?

Aggravating_Style544 −  NTA. Once they lied about why you weren’t there, you were 100% justified in taking the gloves off.

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