AITAH for divorcing my wife because i found out her bodycount ?
A Reddit user finds himself at a crossroads after discovering that his wife, whom he believed to be a virgin due to their shared religious beliefs, has a much different sexual history. During a casual conversation with friends, she reveals that she didn’t wait until marriage, leading to an explosive argument and the user’s decision to seek a divorce.
As he navigates feelings of betrayal and manipulation, the reactions from friends and family have left him questioning whether his response is justified. Read the original story below to explore the complexities of trust, honesty, and expectations in marriage.
‘ AITAH for divorcing my wife because i found out her bodycount.’
I (27m) have been married with my wife (28F) for 8 months now. When I married her I was told to believe we both still had our V-cards because of religious reasons. But yesterday whilst we had some friends over we talked about how young kids these days have their first time and don’t really wait until marriage anymore.
To which my wife responded with “Waiting till marriage doesn’t make sense anyways, there are so many safe options now”. I chose not to respond and just listen whilst our friend group had a discussion about it. Later that day i asked my wife if she regrets waiting until marriage to which she responded: “I didn’t wait i wanted to tell u but i never felt comfortable sharing it”.
I have to admit then i got furious and said some things I regret saying (Namecalling etc.) and told her to leave my house (her parents live 10 minutes away). I feel like i’ve been manipulated and that i’ve been keeping to myself for nothing (we had been dating for 7 months before we married).
When she returned the day after I asked her what her real body count was and she told me it was with me included 17, To which she added that most of those were only a 1 time thing and nothing felt more like real love then with me.
I told her that she had a month to pack her stuff and we are getting a divorce (thankfully we signed a strong prenup that stated that in any divorce no matter the reason our assets would not be divided, she agreed because she is the only grandchild of very very rich grandparents).
My friends and her family have been blowing me up saying that this is no reason to divorce since it has nothing to do with our relationship or marriage, but i disagree if i knew she didn’t have her v-card i would have never married her..
Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:
saltgarlicolive − Getting married after 7 months is kind of wild, anyone can f**e anything for 7 months.
FeelingBlue3 − 7 months????? That’s f**king insane.
AdComprehensive6588 − Divorcing for body count is weird. Divorcing for dishonesty is not
Rhuthbarb − Send her back to us heathens. We have cookies.
Slow_Conversation961 − Also keep in mind dude your no longer a virgin anymore. What virgin woman is going to want you.
savagearcheress − Body count? V-Card? Oh honey, bless your heart.
[Reddit User] − I feel like you’re upset 90% because she’s not a virgin and 10% she lied about not being a virgin.
samanthahorror8895 − Your edits make no sense. Because you clearly said “ if I knew she didn’t have her v-card I would have never married her” but your edit says it’s not about her not being a virgin it’s about her not waiting till marriage. Also grow up no grown man says v-card. I feel sorry for your next wife
spacepiratefrog − good luck finding someone to marry, now that you’ve been tainted by coochie.
Capable-Limit5249 − You either love her or you don’t. She shouldn’t have lied. Your call. On the lying, not on the lack of virginity.
Did the husband overreact by deciding to divorce his wife upon learning about her past, or does he have valid reasons to feel betrayed? How important is honesty about sexual history in a relationship, and can it affect the foundation of a marriage? Share your opinions below!