AITA if I asked my GF to put on some makeup for a party?
A Redditor shares their dilemma after asking their girlfriend to wear makeup for a party, believing it would enhance her appearance when meeting new friends. While they adore her natural beauty and typically don’t care about her makeup choices, the request sparks a negative reaction, leading to accusations of treating her like a trophy partner. Read the original story below to see how a simple question about appearance can lead to misunderstandings in a relationship.
‘ AITA if I asked my GF to put on some makeup for a party?’
So just typing out that title, it sounds terrible. I love my GF. I love the way she looks. I love her humor, everything. We’ve been dating since college and are now almost 30. (It hurt to type “almost 30” 😭) I was invited to a birthday party by some new friends recently and they asked me if my GF was coming.
I always talk about her and hype her up so they were all excited to meet her. The day of the party comes and she looks amazing! She had some nice jeans on and a cute crop top. I noticed she wasn’t wearing any makeup so I asked her if she were going to put some on.
She took this terribly and made it sound like I was making her out as some sort of trophy wife/gf. Keep in mind I NEVER ask this from her. When we go out on dates, I could care less what she looks like. It’s also not like she never wears makeup. Whenever she goes out with the girls, she’s all done up.
At least for me, if I were being introduced to some friends of my GF, I would try to look my absolute best for her. I want to look as good as I can to make her look good as well! We are practically married at this point and I see her as an extension of me and vice-versa. I also understand I have no say/control in what she wants to do/wear. So I most likely am the a**hole for even asking it. Give it to me straight,. AITAH.
These are the responses from Reddit users:
Fudouri − Info. Do you put on makeup when you meet her friends? You said you would want to look absolute best after all.
Eulers_Constant_e − YTA. I don’t even know where to begin. She’s not a show pony. It’s not her job to look hot for your friends.
hybridoctopus − YTA- I was going to say no for just suggesting it but then you doubled down by telling us all the reasons you thought she needed makeup.
Puzzleheaded-SR − YTA. It’s funny how you try to deny treating her like a trophy and then sit there and explain how you want to treat her like a trophy and how you wouldn’t have a problem with it if the tables were flipped. She isn’t a fancy toy to show off to people. She’s a god damn atonmous individual.
Who the hell are your friends and why should she be at all concerned about impressing them? Practically married still isn’t married. It isn’t even a thing. Even if you were married that still wouldn’t excuse your behvaior or mindset.
Leopard-Recent − Yes, YTA, especially for the comment about her being an extension of you and of making yourself look good to make her look good. Way to show her what you really value.
Ma-Hu − **” I would try to look my absolute best for her. I want to look as good as I can to make her look good as well”** INFO: How do you do this? Do you put on make up because your girlfriend has asked you to?. Edited to add judgement: YTA.
AllTitsSomeArse − Sweet baby Jesus on a bicycle. YTA. A brave one.
cawingcrowcaw − YTA and an absolute muppet.
Gumgums66 − YTA. If she didn’t put on make up then clearly she didn’t want to wear make up. Why bring it up? It’s the same offence if you had said ‘oh, you’re wearing that? I had hoped you put on something a little more flashy to make a good impression’. She’s made the effort to look nice. Is that not enough? She’s not a toy to show off.
It doesn’t matter if she puts it on to go out with her friends. Just because she does it then doesn’t mean she has to now. Maybe she had put on make up but kept it to a natural look?. Either way, you should apologise.
daddystovepipe911 − Big oof. I’d evaporate into thin air if my boyfriend insinuated that my “absolute best” was only with makeup on.. Good luck dude. YTA
Do you think the Redditor was wrong to ask their girlfriend to wear makeup, or was it a harmless request made out of excitement? How would you handle a situation where a partner’s appearance became a point of contention before a social event? Share your thoughts below!