Aita for telling my wife that I will not cover her expenses if she quit her job?

A man is faced with his wife’s request to stop working for five years and use her savings for travel and entertainment while he covers all the bills and expenses. Despite her higher income, she wants to spend her savings on herself and expects him to manage the household and their child’s expenses.

He refuses, stating that it would be unfair for him to carry the full financial burden while she indulges herself. Now, his wife is upset, claiming he doesn’t appreciate her hard work. Read the full story below.

‘ Aita for telling my wife that I will not cover her expenses if she quit her job?’

I (36M) have been married to my wife (34F) for five years and we have a 3 year old son together. My wife finished med school and residency program and she has been a neurology specialist for 4 years. I have a management job that pays well but my wife gets paid about 30% more than me. Despite the pay gap, almost all our son’s expenses are covered by me and the bills are split evenly.

Recently my wife came up to me and talked about how she feels like she spent all her adult life working on her career and has always been stressed by the work load she had and now she feels like she should get the fruits of her labor, therefore, she wants to stop working for five years and spend her savings traveling, hiking ,partying, buying her self expensive clothes etc.

I asked her if she has enough savings to cover her half of the bills and she said she doesn’t intend to cover any bills, and will use all her savings on herself, so she is basically asking me to cover all our bills and our son’s expenses while she spends her money on entertainment.

I told that if she did that I will be left with almost zero savings every month basically living from check to check, she said she sees no problem in that and I can work overtime if I had to.

I was shocked by her answer, It made me question If she even cares about me, she basically has no problem making me struggle while she uses her money for entertainment so I told her that whether she stops working or not is her decision but i will not cover her half of the bills,

I won’t burn my self covering the expenses of someone with a high paying job while she entertains her self because I believe that is extremely unfair towards me,

I reminded her that I have been covering all our son’s expenses and half of bills despite the pay gap so I have already been saving less and now she wants me to drain my saving and burn my self out so that she can entertain herself, absolutely not. Now she is angry and ranting about how I don’t appreciate her and the hard work she has been doing all her life.. So , AITA

Check out how the community responded:

Bimmer9721 −  My man, your wife just told you indirectly that she wants a divorce. She pretty much said I don‘t want to be married, I don’t like you very much, keep the kid but I want to go and be single. That’s about as plain it gets.

DMmeNiceTitties −  NTA, but have a plan in case your wife says f**k it and quits anyway.

lydocia −  she wants to stop working for five years and spend her savings traveling, hiking ,partying, buying her self expensive clothes etc. She wants the life of a single person with no commitments, but she has a spouse and a child. More realistically, she should go to therapy and figure out what is causing this crisis.

DankyMcJangles −  You already sound like a single parent, you’d better file now while she’s got the income. NTA

my2cents518 −  Please tell me this is fake. People can’t really be this awful, can they? wtf?! Tell her to go pound salt! File for divorce and custody. And since she makes more than you, get alimony and child support from her

sw33tcruky −  This seems fake.

DontWasteMyTime2121 −  File for divorce and custody now. Take her for child support and make her give you the house.

Disastrous-Sthe −  Next update: “My wife quit her job and threatened to divorce me and file for child support if I don’t do what she wants.” Final update: “I stayed because I didn’t want to break up my family even if it meant working myself to d**th.” Good luck OP!

Holiday_Newspaper_29 −  Chek to Chek? Your highly educated wife is going to spend all her money on herself and buying herself expensive clothes? Well, great creative writing mate…but, unfortunately such an obviously fake story.

alwaysonesteptoofar −  I’m going to be that guy and jump to conclusions that this is fake as f**k.

Do you think the husband was right to refuse covering his wife’s expenses while she chooses not to work, or should he have been more understanding of her desire to take a break? How would you handle a situation where your partner’s request feels unfair to you? Share your thoughts below!