AITA for telling my husband ” I told you so” and laughing at me when we got the paternity test results?
A Reddit user recounts the strain her marriage faced after her husband doubted their newborn’s paternity due to the baby’s blonde hair and blue eyes, despite both parents having brown hair and eyes. Her husband insisted on a paternity test, even leaving her to care for their newborn alone for three weeks until the results arrived.
When the test confirmed he was indeed the father, she laughed and told him, “I told you so,” sparking a new round of family drama. Was she wrong for her reaction? Read on for the full story.
‘ AITA for telling my husband ” I told you so” and laughing at me when we got the paternity test results?’
I (27f) have been married my husband(28M) for 2 years and gave birth to our daughter 5 weeks ago. I’ll try to keep this short so I don’t waste your time with any irrelevant details. What happened was that our daughter came out with blonde hair and pale blue eyes, while my husband and I have brown hair and brown eyes..
My husband freaked out at this and refused to listen to my explanation that, sometimes, babies are born with lighter hair and eyes that get darker over time. He demanded a paternity test and threatened to divorce me if I didn’t comply, so I did
After my daughter and I got home from the hospital, my husband went to stay at his parents’ house for the first three weeks to get some space from me, while I recovered and he told them what was happening.
My MIL called and informed me that if the paternity test revealed that the child wasn’t his, she would do anything within her power to make sure that I was ” taken to the cleaners” during the divorce. I had my sister to lean on and help me take care of the baby during this..
We got the results back yesterday, and my husband came home to view them with me. I was on the couch in the living room, so he sat next to me and we started to read the results. They showed that he was the father and my husband had this shocked, kinda mortified look on his face with his eyes wide as he stared at it..
I couldn’t help but say, ” I told you so.” and started laughing at the way he looked. My husband snapped out of his shock, and got mad at me for laughing at him. We argued for a bit, which was mainly him yelling at me, before my sister came downstairs and my husband shut up.
After that, my husband went back to his parents’ house to “clear his head”, and two-three hours later, my MIL called to scold me about laughing in my husband’s face, because apparently it was kicking him while he was down. She’s also left a couple n**ty texts essentially saying the same thing this morning. I don’t think I’m an AH, but I’d like outsider perspective on this.
Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:
Ok-Explanation-1223 − So “he was down “ by finding out that he was mistaken and you didn’t actually get pregnant with someone else’s child?. Tough luck fella! He owes you a massive apology. Or three. Sorry about your husband and in-laws.
Character_Figure_194 − This is insane. He abandoned you postpartum and forced you to take care of a newborn by yourself while healing. My husband and I also have a baby that looks nothing like either of us.
She came out with strawberry blonde hair and blue eyes while we both have brown hair and brown eyes. We both just said wow genetics are crazy and moved on. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through while being freshly postpartum with a newborn.
_michaelafay − NTA. The fact he ran to mummy (twice!!) and allows her to send you these texts is disgusting. This is meant to be the happiest moment of your life (bringing a child into the world) and they are ruining it.
You are taking him to the cleaners, yes? (Edit: I don’t mean this literally, merely copying MIL’s ridiculousness. I’d hope for OP to get a clean break and escape the toxicity of this family.). You don’t need this in your life.
NomadicallySedentary − My husband and I both have dark brown hair and dark eyes. Our child = blonde and blue eyes. Has OPs husband never heard of recessive genes?
Elismom1313 − So are we laughing while serving him divorce papers? What’s the move girl
YouSayWotNow − You are so not the f**king AH. Not even in the tiniest way
[Reddit User] − NTA. Wow. I usually cringe at posts where the reddit mob say to split up but this is a case where that is totally warranted. Your husband AND his mother are vile creatures. How can you ever look at them the same way again?
CrystalQueen3000 − NTA. F**k that guy. Not only doesn’t he have a basic grasp of genetics, he threw a tantrum and left you immediately after the having the baby to struggle alone for almost a month. He’s lucky all you did was laugh in his face.
SpringfieldMO_Daddy − NTA – I am curious though why you would stay with someone who is that clueless about genetics and who has a clearly toxic mother?
oceansky2088 − NTA. What a POS your husband is. He didn’t believe you about the paternity of your child, demanded a paternity test or he’d divorce you, LEFT you ALONE after giving birth, his mother threatened you ……. ?? What a toxic, a**sive husband and mil.. This is your future, OP. These are not healthy people for you and your child to be around.
Do you think the Redditor’s reaction was justified, given her husband’s doubts and his behavior during her recovery? Or should she have been more understanding of his reaction? How would you handle such a situation with a partner? Share your thoughts below!