AITA for saying “just leave” at my cookout?

During a family cookout, a man’s sister brought her new boyfriend, Steve, who immediately complained about the food options, comparing them unfavorably to his family’s gatherings. Annoyed by his comments, the host suggested they leave and even returned the chips they brought.

Steve and the sister left, and now some family members think he should apologize, while others believe Steve was disrespectful. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA for saying “just leave” at my cookout?’

My sister Nicole (34) brought her new boyfriend, Steve, to our family cookout yesterday. It’s for about 30 people. For the sides, everyone brought in sides; my sister brought one bag of store-brand potato chips, and Steve helped himself to beer right away before being introduced to everyone.

We are having hamburgers and hot dogs and just hanging out with the family. It’s nothing fancy. Steve asks, “Is this it?” when the first plate of hot dogs is done and waiting on the round of hamburgers.

My wife says there will be hamburgers soon, and Steve tells my wife and sister about his family and how they have” BBQ chicken, steak, shrimp, and many options.” I picked up the plate of hotdogs and told Steve he could leave and go to his family BBQ instead.

He just looked at me and drank his beer, and I told him and my sister to go since this wasn’t good enough for Steve. I gave my sister store-brand photo chips back and told her to get out. My sister and Steve left, and the cookout was fine after that.

My mom heard about me kicking them out and was mad at me and told me to apologize to my sister. Maybe there was a misunderstanding, but Steve was just an asshold commenting like that at someone’s house and the first time you meet their family.

My wife thinks I was right because Steve acted like that in her home, and insulting the host is a good reason to be kicked out. Others are split about 50/50 when they heard about what happened.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

wykkedfaery33 −  NTA (edited to appease a redditor) “Mom, you’re more than welcome to let (sister’s name) boyfriend insult you in your home, but he won’t be doing it in mine.”

rationalboundaries −  NTA. Why would you put up with this nonsense at your own home? I dont understand anyone who thinks you went too far. Do they think this j**kass would have stopped at just 1 comment? Hell, no. As host, you ensured your other 30 guests wouldnt be subjected to entitled, passive aggressive b**lshit.

SheiB123 −  NTA. They brought a bag of chips, drank beer they didn’t provide, and thought you were cheap?!? Rude, entitled, and deserved the treatment they received. Anyone who thinks you were wrong can invite them to their next party.

Plenty_Carrot7973 −  Short, sweet, and to the point; I like it. May be considered an act of assholery, but certainly justified. NTA

[Reddit User] −  NTA. If you want food like steak, shrimp and chicken at a cook out funded by someone else, you better fkn prepare it and bring it to cook on the grill yourself.

November-8485 −  NTA. If they wanted it to be more than that, maybe they should have brought more than a bag of chips.

jenorama_CA −  NTA. That guy was rude as hell. I’m always amazed at people who are invited over to someone’s home and then complain about free food.

Left_Adhesiveness_16 −  NTA. I’ve had to do this at a dinner party. I told an ex friend to take her boyfriend & leave because he clearly hadn’t been house trained well enough given that he felt comfortable insulting a host in their own home, in addition to showing up univited and leaving p**s all over my bathroom floor.

[Reddit User] −  How refreshing is to find someone with a healthy spine here. Absolutely NTA. Tell your mom you have nothing to apologize for.

Mental-Coconut-7854 −  The only time I met my BIL’s wife’s father at their family outing, he greeted me by said, “Oh, look. Another a**hole that married into (my husband’s and BIL’s) family” with a great big grin on his face. We turned around and left immediately. NTA. Some people just need are harsh lesson if they can’t behave in public.

Was it too harsh to kick them out, or was he justified in defending his home? Share your thoughts below!