AITA For Offering A Drink To A Girl In A Bar And Then Not Paying For It?
The user, a 23-year-old man, was at a bar in Toronto with his friends when he offered to buy a drink for a girl he was speaking with. She asked for four double shots of 1942 tequila (a very expensive drink), which totaled around $325. The user walked away, leaving the girl to pay for the shots herself, causing her to get upset.
Later, the user’s mom, who works with the girl, heard about the incident and called the user to tell him he was an asshole. The user refused to pay for the drinks and is now wondering if he was wrong.
‘ AITA For Offering A Drink To A Girl In A Bar And Then Not Paying For It?’
I’m m23 and few months ago I was at a nice bar in Toronto with my boys and I saw this really hot girl. Decided to shoot my shot and we spoke and danced for a bit and I offered to buy her a drink and she gladly accompanied me to the bar, when I got there I was like can I have a beer and whatever she wants.
She promptly says can I get 4 double shots of 1942. Thats like $75 a shot for a double of 1942 and I was like wtf and she said there for her friends and patted me on the back. When the bartender came back I slapped a $10 bill on the table and told him she’d be covering the shots and walked away.
She was pissed and yelling the normal insults lol. Well it turns out my mom works with her and they were talking and my mom showed her a picture of me (god damn it mom!) and she instantly recognized me and remembered my name and told my mom about what I did.
My mom then called me and said I’m a huge a**hole and told me to send her the cost of the 4 drinks which was like $325 with tips. I just laughed and told my mom I’m not doing that and my mom said that the girl thinks I’m a huge a**hole and d**che and she agrees LOL.. AITA?
Here’s what the community had to contribute:
amyliz436 − I was all ready to say you were TA till reading the part where you offered her a drink and she ordered FOUR! WHAT THE HELL. NTA, she tried some bull move that you rebuffed. She knew she was taking the mick when she patted you. I’m impressed with your nerve to straight up reject that and walk away. Side note hilarious that it still bugs her!
KeremsWorld − NTA, she took advantage of you being interested in her and it’s very rude for her to snitch on you to your mother like a 7 year old.
[Reddit User] − NTA She was totally trying to take advantage of a nice gesture. You’d be an a**hole if she ordered a simple drink just for her, but you are by no means required to spend over 300 dollars for her friends too. If anything she is the a**hole expecting you to by drinks for her whole group.
arewereadyforthis − NTA. Though you should have stopped the barkeep before he had time to pour the drinks. Would have saved him a lot of trouble probably.
throwawaytimes101 − NTA. You said you would buy her a drink and she thought she could $325 worth of shots for her friends? C’mon. You could have handled it more smoothly but you’re not an a**hole per se. If your mom feels so strongly she can give her the money and say it’s from you.
rolz63 − This is pure gold I can’t believe she ratted on you to your mother. NTA tell her she can have her friends split the bill since they all wanted a shot too lmao.
badb-crow − NTA. I thought this was going to be a case of “offered to buy a girl a drink but she didn’t want to sleep with me so I left her the tab” but nope, this threw me a curveball. It was douchy of her to try and get you to pay for expensive drinks for all her friends when that isn’t what you offered. I can’t understand why your mom would take her side.
QTeaDragon − NTA If someone offered to buy me a drink I wouldn’t ask for a round for my friends… that just takes the p**s. $325 seems like a crap ton of money. Although I’m not sure of the exchange rate between Toronto and the UK… I think there is chivalry and courtesy, but that has a limit when another person wants to take the p**s.
[Reddit User] − NTA. Absolutely not. Bonkers and supremely rude of the woman to take advantage like that, and what crazy drink is your mum on to tell you to send the cost of the drinks over?
Ironinvelvet − NTA. This is a hilarious story though.
The user’s actions have led to anger from the girl and some judgment from his mother, but the user feels his behavior was justified. The situation has caused tension, and the user is now questioning whether he was wrong for not paying for the drinks.