AITA for not taking down my video that was a gift from my best man.

A Reddit user shares how his parents skipped his wedding to comfort his sister, who was upset about her sick dog. Hurt by their absence, his best man created a heartfelt wedding video featuring his mom’s voicemail as the background audio.

When the video went viral, it caused an uproar among his family, who demanded he take it down. The user refused, insisting they make up for missing his once-in-a-lifetime event. Read the full story below to decide if he crossed a line.

‘ AITA for not taking down my video that was a gift from my best man.?’

I have a sister that’s 6 years older than me. My parents for years cancel on me last min because of my sister. I have a basketball game. Ops sorry sister doesn’t feel like going out. I am graduating ops sorry sister had a bad day at work.

They have missed both major and smaller events in my life because of her melt downs. I met the love of my life. We decided to tie the knot. From the beginning I told my parents how I am worried my sister will ruin another special moment in my life.

My mom told me over and over again it would not happen. The day of my wedding. I received a voicemail from my mom saying they couldn’t come because my sisters dog was sick and she was upset. I was hurt, my best man however is a jokester.

He took my phone then went to my fiancé and asked if he could post a video of our wedding as a gift? On social media. She loved his idea. I had no idea about it until I came home. Our honeymoon was at a lake side cabin. No cell service. The post caption was “My best friend.

He is an amazing person even if his parents NEVER showed up for him. video was still pictures of us next to her parents, me on the dance floor, cutting the cake. Where you would normally see both parents in wedding pictures.

The sound behind the video was my moms voice mail explaining how they couldn’t come because my sisters dog was sick. I came home a week later to hundreds of messages. Family members from both sides insisting I take it down. I was told my sister hasn’t stopped crying.

My mom is refusing to leave the house. I maybe the A here. I didn’t take it down when I got my messages. I didn’t call my family back right away. I waited until my vacation time was over at work and enjoyed my time with my Wife. In our new home. Before I contacted anyone.

My dad told me to take down the video. It was “just a bad night for them”. That they will make it up to me and my wife for not coming. My reply was exactly how do you plan to “make up” my wedding? It’s a once in a life time thing. You choose to ignore my feeling on the whole matter.

Then he just repeated he will make it up to me. I told him I would take down the video only when he made up missing my wedding. Flustered we both hung up the phone before we both said things we shouldn’t have. Am I the A here. I could have just taken down the video.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

[Reddit User] −  **NTA. The truth hurts sometimes and your parents & sister just got whammied! Your friend is AWESOME. Please leave the video up!** \*Edit\* Thanks so much for the awards!

Pinetree218 −  NTA. They were finally called out on their blatant favoritism and they obviously didn’t take it well. I’d hold off inviting them anywhere or to anything, OP. At least for a while.

Don’t make them your first priority when you clearly aren’t theirs. Focus on your new wife and your absolutely awesome best friend. They both sound like keepers!

[Reddit User] −  NTA I think I’m in love with the best man. He absolutely showed your parent’s favouritism/hypocrisy? in the best way ever. I hope there will never be an invite to a baby shower etc.

NotTwitchy −  So, typically, when someone asks you to take down a video of them because it’s embarrassing, you do it because it’s polite. But in this case? Hard NTA. They didn’t have a good reason to miss it, and they’re rightfully mortified. They made the bed, they can lie in it.

big_bob_c −  NTA. It was “just a bad night”, out of many, many other “bad nights” where they ignored you in favor of your sister’s whims. See if your best man can pull up footage of your graduation, and maybe pictures from games they missed, and produce a “greatest hits” compilation video to post right next to the wedding video.

Sel-Reddit −  NTA. Every single person at your wedding saw that they didn’t show up. So, what exactly are they hoping to hide by taking it down? If they felt justified not coming, stand by that decision, defend it.

If you can’t, then you KNOW you did something wrong. They deserve it. They can’t make up missing your wedding for no good reason. ETA: thanks for my silver! How kind of you. 😊

vixlyn −  Your wife and best friend are the true heroes.

Aggravating-Deer1445 −  NTA but do yourself a favour and cut them out of your life. If you are not important to them, dont let them be importsnt to you. I did this with my father and i am better off now

wehav2 −  NTA – They weren’t bothered about missing your wedding. They were bothered they got exposed. If exposing their behavior bothered them, they knew what they did was awful.

keiko1984 −  NTA. My parents missed my wedding too all because my sister didn’t want to come because my husband is from Italy & we had it in his hometown & she didn’t like the weather forecast.Lol.No joke. Even despite their tickets & accommodation being paid for.

(Story of my life. Missed events due to her issues/needs & I can’t/don’t even blame my sister because she’s so enabled by my parents enabling & doesn’t know better lol). Didn’t know until the night before needing to pick them up at airport. I cried and then laughed and then got married without them.

Never spoke to anyone ever again and been NC for almost 15 years. You get to a point where you realize that what you allow will continue.. Don’t ever take that video down. Let them be reminded every year it comes up that they are to blame and their mistakes are the reason you cut them off.

Was the user’s decision to keep the video up justified, given the emotional weight of his parents missing such an important day? Or should he have prioritized family reconciliation over making a point? Share your opinions below!