AITA for leaving a first date because his mom came along?
A 21-year-old woman went on a first date with a man she met on Hinge, only to discover that he had invited his mom along without warning. What started as a promising dinner turned awkward when the mother stayed, ordered wine, and began asking deeply personal questions about her life and future.
Feeling uncomfortable, the woman excused herself and later texted the man to end things. While her roommate supported her decision, a coworker suggested she might have been rude for leaving and not understanding the family dynamic. read the original story below…
‘ AITA for leaving a first date because his mom came along?’
So, I’m 21F and went on a first date last week with a guy I matched with on Hinge. Let’s call him Jake, 25M. We’d been chatting for a few weeks, and he seemed like a solid guy—funny, good taste in music, and even remembered I loved Italian food.
He planned the date at this nice little spot in Dallas, which I thought was sweet. I show up, and everything’s fine at first. He’s already there, we hug, and he even complimented my outfit. But like five minutes after I sit down, this older woman walks in.
Jake stands up, waves her over, and says, “This is my mom!” I thought I misheard him for a second. She sits down at the table, all casual, and starts introducing herself to me like this is normal. Meanwhile, I’m sitting there, trying to figure out if I’m being pranked.
I kind of laugh nervously and say, “Oh, I didn’t know you were bringing anyone,” and he goes, “Oh, she just wanted to meet you. Don’t worry—it’s not a big deal.” But it was a big deal because she didn’t just stop by to say hi—she ordered wine and stayed.
The whole time, she’s asking me these personal questions about my job, my family, even if I want kids someday. It was like an interview, not a date. Jake barely said anything. He just smiled and kept nodding like this was all normal. After about 20 minutes of this, I couldn’t take it anymore.
I said I wasn’t feeling great and needed to leave. I texted him later, saying I didn’t think it would work out and wished him well. Now I feel kinda bad. My roommate says I did the right thing because honestly, who brings their mom to a first date?
But my coworker said it was rude to just leave and that maybe his mom was just super close to him or nervous for him or whatever.. Was I wrong for walking out?
Check out how the community responded:
Fluffy-Cupcake12 − You’re definitely not in the wrong here. Bringing his mom to a first date without warning is a major red flag. First dates are about getting to know each other, not being grilled by someone’s parent. You politely excused yourself, which is fair given the situation. Don’t feel bad—you dodged an awkward future!
Zscalerrguy − It’s absurd that he would bring her. Unless she needs constant supervision due to some health issue. That is a very strange dynamic. You did what most anyone else would have done. Best of Luck.
NormalGuyPosts − Nah, that happens. If he’s chill over text let him know the mom thing is not normal. Maybe he doesn’t know!
glimmerseeker − You’ve been busy with fake posts and “look at me!”posts. YTA for that.
camkats − Omg I was hoping this was a fake post – run run far away!! 😂
ShankSpencer − In my experience, all posts where the man’s mom turns up on a first date, they’re fake. I don’t expect this to change that streak.
Creative-Passenger76 − This is fake. Check OP’s other posts.
donjuanamigo − This is fake. The good ole I did something and some people agree with my decision that was the right decision and some people don’t story template. Yesterday, OP was 26. Today they are 23. YTA for posting a fake story to karma farm.
Edit: I also can’t believe I didn’t see this, this is a karma farm to get traffic to the Fansly account. Can the mods please take this post down?
Sum42 − You’re wrong—not for walking out, but for “writing” an AI generated story.
z-eldapin − Your coworker is a m**on. If mom is on a first date, imagine what the rest of your relationship would look like
Was it unreasonable to walk out of the date, or is inviting a parent to a first date a red flag? How would you have handled this situation? what do you think? share your thoughts below!