AITA for kicking my sister out because she parties way too much?

A woman (20) is frustrated with her younger sister Hannah (18), who parties excessively and disrupts their shared living space by coming home late, being loud, and often bringing over friends. Despite several discussions about the behavior, Hannah hasn’t changed and also neglects rent and chores.

After another disruptive night, she told Hannah to find a new place, sparking family tension as their parents feel it’s a “phase” and that she should be more understanding. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for kicking my sister out because she parties way too much?’

So, I (20F) have been living with my sister, lets call her “Hannah” (18F) for the past few months while she figures out her next steps after moving out of our parents’ house. Hannah’s always been a bit of a party girl, but since she started staying with me, it’s like every other night she’s out at some club or rave.

I don’t mind that she likes to go out, but it’s becoming a real problem. She’ll come home super late, sometimes not even until the next morning, and she’s loud, bringing random friends over, and waking me up constantly.

I’ve talked to her a few times, asking her to at least be more considerate, but nothing’s changed. Plus, she’s not really helping out with rent or chores as much as she promised, so I feel like I’m just dealing with the mess.

AND the only reason she’s become basically addicted to going out, because she’s finally 18?? When I turned 18, the partying was moderate and at a mature level, but Hannah’s is just crazy. Not to mention, she blows pretty much all of her money on these events.

Last week, after yet another night of her stumbling in at dawn, I told her she needs to find somewhere else to stay if she can’t chill on the party scene. She got really upset, saying I’m overreacting and trying to control her life, but I’m just over it.

Our parents think I should have been more understanding since she’s going through a “phase,” but I feel like I have a right to some peace in my own place.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Pure-Philosopher-175 −  NTA. While she is young and having her first taste of freedom, she’s not living up to her side of the living arrangement or being a considerate housemate. She can move back in with your parents, or with her clubbing friends. It’s not up to you to subsidise her lifestyle because she is spending all her rent money and not contributing with housework.

gev1138 −  NTA. “No, honey, I’m giving you complete control of your life.”

AwaySecret6609 −  NTA She is a guest in your home. She made an agreement and is not living up to it. You two made an agreement and she is not living up to it. The hard part of being an adult is understanding that these agreements between people need to be honored. She isn’t honoring her part

Dismal-Wallaby-9694 −  NTA. Now if she wasn’t bringing people back to your place, I’d say let her party however she wants.

Jazzlike-Bird-3192 −  Tell your parents you’re going through a “phase”. It’s a phase of wanting to be able to sleep in the middle of the night, and not have loud noises or strange people in your home. If they think this “phase” your sister is going through is acceptable, they can deal with her. NTA

deleted-user-12 −  Nta, part of having freedom is having responsibility which she shows none of. If her parents think she should be supported through this “phase,” they can pay for it and support her.

SpoonFedAcid −  Tell her that you’re not trying to control her life but that you are trying to be in control of your own.

squigs −  NTA She doesn’t need to stop partying. She does need to pay towards rent, helps with chores, and not cause a disturbance when coming home late.

lulumagroo −  Nta. You don’t have to be understanding of her phase. She isn’t your kid. She is an 18 yr old who is abusing your hospitality. Which has consequences.

SufficientBasis5296 −  NTA  Now she’s moved out of your parents house, and interrupts your sleep, YOU have to be understanding? If your parents are ok with your sisters behavior, she can move right back in with them. You did not volunteer to support and clean up after her, at your expense. . I take it she’s the golden child?

A tense scene of two sisters in a small apartment, one frustrated and tired while the other is carefree and dressed for a party.