AITA for chastising wife for accidentally breaking my macbook?

This husband is frustrated with his wife’s habit of sitting down without checking where she’s sitting, which has led to accidents in the past, like sitting on insects, puddles, and even breaking a PS5 controller.

The breaking point came when she borrowed his $3000 MacBook but left it on the couch, later accidentally sitting on it and cracking the screen. Angry about the financial loss and the impact on his schoolwork, he scolded her, asking why she never learns to check before sitting, referencing previous mishaps.

His wife called him a jerk for “talking down” to her, leading him to wonder if he overreacted.

‘ AITA for chastising wife for accidentally breaking my macbook?’

My wife has a habit of plopping her b**t down without ever taking a look at where she’s sitting. I’ve asked her repeatedly to look before she sits because some of the things she’s sat in include puke, an ant pile, a puddle of water that accumulated on the surface of the floor, a spider (while hiking.. it was mushed onto her b**t when she got up), etc..

I’ve mostly learned to mitigate any direct effect this has on me by ensuring breakable things are not anywhere that people could potentially sit. I use to have a habit of setting all kinds of things on the couch next to me for immediate use. I now put it all in a different place.

I did this because she would constantly come up without looking while I’m playing a game, watching a show, or something and just sit down and suddenly the TV is turned off, or the volume is messed up, or in the previous worst case she broke one of the joysticks on my PS5 controller by sitting on it while I had the controller sitting next to me so I could watch a cutscene in a game.

Lately she’s been borrowing my macbook a lot and I always put it back in my office when I’m not using it so that it can charge. It’s a $3000 macbook from 2022 (one of the m1 models). She left it on the couch and went back, accidentally sitting on it, and cracking the screen.

I was extremely furious as not only is there a financial burden here but now I’m out a computer and I really needed that for some classes I’m taking. When this happened I said, “For f**k sake. Why can’t you EVER f**king look where you sit? EVER? Was sitting in vomit not enough motivation? An ant hill? A spider?”

to which she got very defensive. I continued by saying that her lack of attention just cost us hundreds of dollars and put me in a bad place for my school program. She called me a j**k for talking down to her because I have asked her many to look where she sits and I’ve snapped before because she sat without looking and caused some issue (for instance,

she sat on an ottoman once without looking and spilled a bunch of food over that I had sitting there next to me). This time really pushed me over the edge.. AITA?

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

_gadget_girl −  NTA. Her carelessness cost you money. It also cost her MacBook privileges.

[Reddit User] −  Nta. The people defending here are so wrong. She’s a grown woman whose hasn’t learned from mistakes. Those who say you’re overreacting clearly haven’t had anything of both financial and personal value broken by something that you have tried again and again to prevent.

She has never cared to listen or change and this is just proof she’s not willing to change that habit. Furthermore keep your stuff to yourself if she can’t understand why she can’t use a new Mackbook give her your old one and say here since you don’t see what was wrong with you breaking it you can use it since apparently nothing is wrong.

KronkLaSworda −  NTA. Who doesn’t look before they sit? Don’t get any small animals.

WaywardPrincess1025 −  NTA. She set it down and she broke it. She really only has herself to blame.

felidaekamiguru −  NTA. She should know better by now. She’s either unaware of how much this annoys the people around her or doesn’t care. You’ve every right to be nettled, and people yell when they are nettled.

ifactra −  NTA this oblivion and refusal to change of hers would drive me crazy, it’s really not that hard to just look down before you sit down. Tbh that’s toddler behavior.
I‘d have her replace the macbook, maybe paying for something she broke will teach her the consequences of sitting down wherever the hell she feels like it

RadicalNormy −  NTA. But also I’m really cracking up visualizing this woman just nonchalantly plopping down in all these situations you’ve named. Personally I have a fear of sitting on something gross or creepy and crawly…always look before you sit!

Efficient-Regular-96 −  My mother used to do this. My dad called it plopping. She didn’t stop until she plopped onto the toilet and it partially went through the floor to the basement. She sure modified her behavior after that.

[Reddit User] −  NTA, I’m sorry, is she blind? Those things are not small to not be noticed . Didn’t she learned to check before sitting down? Some might call it overreacting and some might say your attitude is TA but there’s limit to one being. It’s not her first time being this careless .

lynistopheles −  Start sitting on her s**t.

Was the husband’s anger justified given the history and cost of the MacBook, or did he take it too far with his harsh words? How should they move forward to prevent future accidents? Let’s discuss below!