AITA For Calling The Police On My Husband?

A Redditor (mid-20s, medical student) shares a story where her husband took her car without her permission while she was preparing for an important exam. After finding her car missing, she called the police, only to discover that her husband had taken it for a road trip with his friends.

He had made a copy of the key and didn’t inform her. He now feels embarrassed about the police involvement, while she believes she had no choice but to act. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA For Calling The Police On My Husband?’

My husband’s car doesn’t work and he needs money to get it fixed. He doesn’t have enough money. I’m in medicine school and have been getting ready for my exams for a month now. Every month he and his friends go on a road trip. His car’s been sitting in the garage for 3 months now.

He asked if he could take my car to take the guys on a road trip since it was his turn to take them. I told him I need the car since I have a weak immune system and public transportation might be risky. And I can’t afford to get sick in the middle of my exams. He begged saying his friends are gonna say he ruined the trip and our discussion got nowhere.

The trip was last week. I had an exam the day of the trip and left at 8am. I had several things to do. I stopped by the coffee shop to use the internet. I arrived at the university at 8:30 and entered the hall getting ready for my exam. After I finished. I spent few minutes with my friends then I left. I got to the parking lot and my car wasn’t there, I started freaking out.

Thinking I might’ve left the door open or something. I called my husband but he didn’t pick up. My friends immediately told me to call The Police. I ended up waiting for them to ask me about what happened. The Officer said I needed to come to the station to give my statement.

I stayed there for 4 hours then I was told my car was found. my husband was driving it and was picked up an hour away from where we live. I was shocked. And mad. It never occured to me that he was the one who took it. I went home and waited til he got back. He was upset and didn’t want to talk about what he did.

The argument started after he said he made a copy of the key and didn’t take til he made sure I arrived for my exam. I yelled at him and told him it was not okay. He caused me to stress out and worry about the car. He told me calling the police was drastic and shouldn’t have gotten them involved but I had no idea he took the car.

He said he wanted to text me but forgot. Said the trip was ruined and he was embarrassed by being picked up by the police while he was with friends. He still thinks calling the police was over the top reaction but what was I supposed to do.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

FullMetalTata −  NTA and D**P HIM. He stole your car, let you worry, and can afford to go on a trip with his friends but not to fix his own car ?
You deserve better, hun. Go get it. Edit : wow thanks for the awards, kind strangers ! Also please don’t forget to give some strength to OP !

ur-humble-overlord −  NTA. he literally stole your car like a bratty teenager when you told him no. this should make you seriously reevaluate this relationship.

[Reddit User] −  Please, for the love of god, make this person your ex-husband soon. If your partner can’t even clear the bar of ‘doesn’t steal my car’… and NTA, obviously.

Momtotwocats −  NTA. He copied your key, and he stole your car right out of the parking lot. How were you to know the car thief was him? Meanwhile, he left you stranded in a pandemic to party with his buddies. Calling the police was appropriate. So is leaving his selfish, irresponsible ass.

NorbearWrangler −  NTA, but your title is misleading. You didn’t call the police on your husband. You called the police to report that your car had been stolen. The fact that your husband was the one who stole it is his fault, not yours.

justsayin01 −  NTA. I know reddit always says to d**p your spouse, and leave him behind but in this situation? He stole your car, during your exams, for a very stressful major. A very serious one as well, as failing can delay graduation for a year+. He has no regard for you. He has no respect for you. I am really sorry.

Smitty80015 −  NTA. He LIED to you, so you properly assumed your car was stolen. He took it without your permission or knowledge, that is stealing.

chucker23n −  NTA. Why is your husband doing a road trip *every month* when he can’t even afford to get a car fixed?

Chris-P −  NTA. He stole your f**king car.. Why are you still together?

t0ygunaltinas −  NTA. Would your husband have rathered your first thought be “my husband has taken the car”?

Was calling the police a necessary action or an overreaction? The Redditor was understandably worried about the situation, but did her husband’s actions warrant this kind of response? Let us know what you think in the comments!