AITA for being mad that my step daughter will inherit our house?

A Redditor shares a heated argument with her husband after learning that he plans to leave their marital home to his daughter from a previous marriage. Feeling blindsided and worried about her financial future, she questions whether she’s being unreasonable for expecting to inherit the house. Read the full story below to see if you think she’s in the wrong.

‘ AITA for being mad that my step daughter will inherit our house?’

My husband (65) and I (47) have been married for 10 years. After my husband’s retirement party, the discussion of wills and inheritance came up and my husband informed me that he is leaving our marital home to his daughter (30) in his will which left me feeling completely blindsided and shocked.

I am aware that due to our significant age difference, I will mostly likely outline husband by many years and will probably have to spend the last decades of my life alone. So I was really upset but also angry to learn I will most likely be kicked out of our house after my husband’s d**th and left homeless.

My husband explained to me that I knew the house belonged to his late wife who inherited it from her parents and that I couldn’t possibly expect him not to leave his house to their daughter.

I replied that the house now belongs to him and as his wife I have a right to my marital home and it’s not fair that I will be kicked out of our home after I spend so much time and effort redecorating it and making it my own and become homeless after his d**th because I am a housewife and have nowhere else to go, he has an obligation to ensure my financial safety after his d**th.

He said that it will be incredibly unfair to his daughter and his late wife if I inherit the house and his wife would have never wanted that. His wife died unexpectedly at a relatively young age before she got around to making a will so my husband automatically got the house as per inheritance laws.

He also explained that I am the sole beneficiary of his life insurance and any savings left will be equally divided between me and his daughter. However, I don’t think this money would be enough for me survive the rest of my life especially as my husband plans on having expensive cruises and holidays for the rest of his retirement.

This is where, unfortunately, our argument escalated and we starting yelling at each other. I told him he is screwing me over after everything I have done for him, after I gave up my job and my career for him to look after our home and that I deserve to be compensated.

He retorted that he never asked me to become a housewife and it was completely my own choice, that I knew the risks and benefits and made an informed choice and he will be leaving a reasonable inheritance and if I am not happy with it I should go back to work.

I told him I never knew that I wouldn’t get the house and that it’s late for me to return after being out for over 10 years. That he is an a**hole for leaving me stranded like this and that this is not what I agreed to and he is being a sexist p**ck by not recognising my contribution to our family.

He laughed at me, saying I never any kind of financial contribution, as we hired cleaners and housekeepers to do most of the chores and if anything I was a drain by all the money I spend. Honestly at this point I was so enraged and in tears, I screamed at him he is being completely cruel to m and locked myself in the guest room. So AITA for wanting the house if my husband dies before me?

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

TheSciFiGuy80 −  YTA. IT IS NOT YOUR HOUSE. He explained it to you. It was his first wife’s house and his reasoning for giving it to his daughter is sound (it was HER GRANDPARENTS’ HOUSE for goodness sake, it SHOULD stay in the family). Would you leave it to her when you died? Or would she lose out on the property HER mom inherited?

And 47 is NOT too old to go back to work. Heck I know people who change careers at that age. So stop with your excuses. Of course this also reads like it’s f**e. So my response above is only for reality and not rage bait which this looks like.

HeirOfRavenclaw −  Info: I don’t get it. You left your job to do what exactly? You mention your “contribution” to the family – but what was it? You had housekeepers and cleaners, and it sounds like you didn’t raise his adult daughter….so without some concrete “contributions” it’s unclear what you’ve been doing for ten years

Bartlaus −  “Housewife” who does no housework and is apparently not raising any children either? Well, well, well.

mononokegirl_ −  YTA – This whole post screams ***’Gold-digger’***

Low-Investigator6468 −  Is it really a marital home if you didn’t acquire the property after marriage??? Sounds like it’s his late wife’s house, now his and you never had much of a claim to it anyway. Especially if he can leave HIS house to his daughter and you have no say in the matter. YTA.. Edited to correct ex – late wife

Obi-Juan_Valdez −  So, you “retired” at 37 to essentially become a woman of leisure? You aren’t raising children, and apparently aren’t even housekeeping, aside from redecorating to your own tastes. Now, you have the audacity to b**ch because your husband is ensuring that the family home he inherited from his prior, deceased, wife will remain in the mother’s family and go to his daughter? Yeah, YTA.

phoenix_ekawa −  YTA. No question. You sound like you married him solely for money and is now enraged you aren’t gonna get as much as you had hoped for. You quit your job cause you didn’t wanna work. Admit it. You just wanted a long comfy life financed by him.

And on topic of this discussion, the daughter has all rights to the house. It was her mother’s. And how to dictate his will is the sole right of your husband. So sad he saw through you and called you out on your BS

hollowfurnace −  YTA. Don’t be surprised if the next thing you get from your husband is divorce papers.

Potential_Ad_1397 −  Tell me you aren’t a gold digger without telling me you are a gold digger.. YTA. This house belongs to his daughter. In fact, you two should move out now and give it to the daughter. It belongs to her.

[Reddit User] −  YTA. When your husband dies, just find some new guy to latch onto and mooch off. Problem solved. Or, if that doesn’t appeal, do something with your life and take care of yourself. Get a job. Act like an adult.

Do you think the husband is being unfair by not leaving the house to his wife, or is she expecting too much? How would you navigate this kind of situation? Share your thoughts in the comments below!