Update – My niece (18) wants me to decorate her wedding. I (33) will be out of town that weekend.

A Reddit user shares an update about their niece’s unrealistic expectations for a last-minute wedding. With support from family and advice from others, the user sets boundaries and focuses on self-care, while the niece’s father steps in to address the situation. Read the full update below:

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/GfDUQ

‘ Update – My niece (18) wants me to decorate her wedding. I (33) will be out of town that weekend.’

Sunday night I called my Mom and told her everything. I pointed out that we will be gone on the weekend Lea was wanting to get married on and said that for once, I would be putting my foot down. We WILL be going on the trip. My mom laughed and said not to worry and that Lea has lost her damn mind if she thinks any of us will pay for anything.

I told her to call my Dad before my sister had a chance to lie to him. My Dad said the same thing as Mom and decided to call Lea’s Dad to find out what was going on. Lea’s Dad said he told Lea that since he just bought her a car and his business is getting ready to shut down for winter, he could not afford a wedding for her this year.

He told her to put the wedding off till around May of next year and that would be enough time. Lea lost her s**t. Her Dad said after a lot of screaming, she finally yelled “I’ll pay for it myself!!”. And apparently in Lea’s mind, that meant getting all of us to pay for it.

My Dad said he needed to tell Lea that not a single one of us will ever pay for her to get married, ever and if she just absolutely has to, she can do it at the courthouse. Later that night Lea’s Dad called my Dad back and said he sat Lea down and demanded to know WHY she was pushing for a wedding g so soon.

Turns out, her boyfriend is joining the Navy and they thought it’d be a good idea to get married. Her Dad told her that none of us are paying anything for her wedding and she would have to go to the courthouse if she had to but there will be no wedding this year.

After an hour of yelling, Lea said fine and she will just move the wedding to next year but honestly, if her boyfriend is going away, I can totally see her finding a new guy while he is gone and this whole wedding thing going a way. So thank you all so much for helping me.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

iamslm22 −  This is a very good update, and hopefully will be good for Lea in the long term as well. It seems like she’s rather spoiled and has never been told no in her life. Hopefully in a few years she’ll realize this actually saved her from a way too early marriage.

[Reddit User] −  Thanks for the update. She sounds like the type to cheat on her boyfriend when he hasn’t even been at bootcamp for a week.

barrydiesel −  Real talk, I’m thinking of throwing a party next week and I really, REALLY want you to plan it for me.

zotc −  Good for you OP. But ugh, Lea is going to have 3 kids from different dads by the time she’s 24.

catfingers64 −  her boyfriend is joining the Navy and they thought it’d be a good idea to get married. This is probably one of the worst reasons to get married. I don’t know if any statistics back it up,

but it seems like there’s a lot of stories about people who rushed to get married because one of them was joining the military and then things end badly because they were too young and hadn’t known each other long enough to realize they weren’t right for each other. Yeesh. I really hope they don’t get married, at least not yet.

j-sap −  Wow that is one spoiled b**t. I don’t wish ill will on your family but I hope Lea’s dad cuts her off or his business doesn’t do well enough for her to support her anymore.

staygolden17 −  Being able to say no is a beautiful thing. Definitely keep practicing it with your SO in case something like this comes up again (maybe with Lea’s next prospective husband). Have a wonderful vacation!

Hushes −  Glad you provided an update. Wow! Your husband is awesome for saying you can practice saying “no” to him. He’s a keeper! Have fun on your trip and take care.

thisismyfupa −  Wow is Lea ever the insufferable twat.

forensicpath −  I don’t think I will be the only one opposed to a second update for Lea’s “wedding.”

This update highlights the importance of setting boundaries and standing firm, even in challenging family dynamics. Have you ever had to draw a line with a demanding family member? How did you handle it? Share your experiences and thoughts below!