UPDATE AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing at the reception?

A Redditor (25M) previously threatened to ban his brother (30M) from his wedding after he planned to propose during the reception. After posting about the situation on Facebook to explain their side, most family members apologized and sided with the Redditor.

However, the brother became angry and his ex-girlfriend broke up with him. The wedding still stands, with some family members choosing sides, but the Redditor’s father is supportive, and his brother’s ex-girlfriend has been promoted to bridesmaid. Read the original story below…

For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/UlKeu

‘ UPDATE AITA for threatening to ban my brother from my wedding because he plans on proposing at the reception?’

Firstly, thank you all so much for the crazy response on my original post. Totally unexpected, but very much appreciated by my fiancé and I. As I mentioned a couple times in the comments of my original post, my fiancé and I wrote up a Facebook post to explain the situation to our families (mostly mine), including screenshots of texts with my brother

(I decided I didn’t want to link the post here as it feels a little too personal to be slapping on Reddit. Sorry!) As expected, once the family heard our side of the story and put everything together, many of them changed their tune. Most of the family members who had been calling me an a**hole ended up apologizing and siding with me and my fiancé.

My brother was livid. He called me about an hour after the post went up and demanded that I take it down because it “made him look bad”. He said he was being unfairly attacked, and even blamed me for his girlfriend breaking up with him.

My brother has formally been banned from the entire wedding, and we’ve asked any family members who continue to side with him to RSVP that they will not be attending. Our parents aren’t happy with the turnout, and my mother has decided she won’t be attending my wedding because of how I’m “alienating” my brother during an important event.

I don’t mind; I’ve never been very close with her, and while it is a bit sad that she’s choosing my hardheaded brother over my wedding, I still have my father’s full support. My brother’s (now ex) girlfriend is still invited and got promoted to bridesmaid because of how helpful and supportive she’s been to my fiancé.

Hopefully this is the last issue we’ll run into during wedding planning! I hope this update lives up to any expectations. I never expected I’d be in this situation, but I’m glad so many people on this sub got a kick out of it, and very grateful for the advice and support I received.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Laquila −  He called me about an hour after the post went up and demanded that I take it down because it “made him look bad”. Well, yeah, it certainly did make him look bad because he *was* behaving badly.

But narcissists don’t like their perfect image spoiled in public. Same for your mother. You’ve ruined the whole Happy Families & Perfect Mother fantasy she insists you all play along with. Have a lovely wedding.

RUTAOpinionGiver −  Man, it always upsets me when a parent acts like your mom did. Punishing people for ‘not keeping the peace’ AKA- letting themselves be a doormat

readinngredhead −  The ex girlfriend…what a queen. Glad you sorted it all. Happy nuptials dude

Nyaesa −  I love a bit of karma. He was a j**k and now he has no wedding to attend to and no girlfriend to propose to and to top it off the girlfriend is now a bridesmaid. If that isn’t satisfaction from karma then I don’t know what is. If that was me I’d end up walking around with the smuggest of smiles on my face for a very long time. I’m sorry I’m just pretty like that haha

[Reddit User] −  This all ended beautifully. And now your brother has to sit in his own mess alone. Imagine what he’ll have to explain whenever his next partner asks why this relationship ended.

[Reddit User] −  Info: why did the ex break up with your brother? Because of how he was acting?

potato_cupcakes −  Wow! I mean, the silver lining is that you now have less food, chairs, etc to prepare? Right? I love the fact that the ex gf is now the bridesmaid. Could be the start of a great friendship, or atleast it sounds like it lol. OP, I wish you and your future wife health and good fortune!! And most importantly happiness 🙂

niamhk13 −  Crying that she’s now bridesmaid hahahaha thanks for the update!

complex42 −  I love how your brother STILL hasn’t apologised or recognised his fault even after the person he was going to propose to has left him.. Good luck with your wedding!

Asayyadina −  Sounds like the ex-girlfriend was way too good for your brother all along. You have clearly gained a good friend from all this.

It seems that drawing firm boundaries around your wedding can lead to unexpected family drama. Was the Redditor right to stand his ground, or should he have found a way to smooth things over with his brother? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!