AITA For purposely stopping my classmate from winning an award and subsequently making her cry?
A 17-year-old shared their emotional story about being betrayed by a classmate they had a crush on. After learning she had used their relationship to boost her social media image and secure a “positive role model” award, the user reported her actions to the award committee.
Her nomination was subsequently withdrawn, leading to her crying and the user facing backlash at school. To delve deeper into the situation and the mixed reactions from peers, read the full story below.
‘ AITA For purposely stopping my classmate from winning an award and subsequently making her cry?’
This issue is honestly making me frustrated. Almost everyone is saying I am in the wrong, people are talking behind my back and I genuinely don’t know if what I did was correct or not. I just feel so lost. Please, please do help. I am 17, suffered a major accident while cycling when I was 13. I have 2 really deep,long facial scars.
I have been bullied really bad because of it. I am tall, u**y and intimidating as per most girls. People make fun of other people by saying things like “Why don’t you just hook up with u/throwawayfor2k19.” I am honestly used to it. Those people didn’t matter to me anyway.
But there is this girl I had known since middle school. Let’s call her Back I guess? Sorry, I honestly don’t know how this works. I had a really, really big crush on her till a few days ago. I thought she was geniunely sweet and amazing. My family is incredibly supportive so they urged me to ask her out.
I can play a guitar so I made this whole song for her. I went to the neighbouring city to get her favorite chocolate and stuff like that. This was the first time I felt like really going and asking someone out in my life, and I felt that regardless of what I do, she shall see me for who I am and at least accept me as a friend.
I was over the moon when she ended up accepting. We went to a fancy restaurant,had a fun time together and walked for 30 minutes. She was really sweet to me. The next week or so was honestly heaven. People started noticing me, even her friends seemed friendly with me, I honestly cried everyday because I felt so fortunate to get so much love.
It all broke down when a friend of hers, who was on Instagram and followed Beck, sent screenshots to me. I honestly felt betrayed and disgusted. She had posts saying ‘Fulfilled his lifelong wish by being his Valentine’s”, ‘Making his day by finally helping him interact with my friends’,’he is u**y but beautiful people accept u**y people’ ‘#uglypeoplematter’ etc.
Beck’s friend then explained me that she apparently wanted a good social media image and had thus asked all her friends to be kind to me and tolerate me till the first week of March, and then distance themselves from me.
She apparently wanted to win some stupid ‘positive role model’ award for her college application because she was lagging behind in community service.And thought playing with my feelings for a few days wouldn’t hurt, and apparently since I was u**y she was the kind one to give me attention anyway.
I was in tears and honestly felt disgusted. My blood was boiling. I researched about this award, found a Facebook page about it online.I went to the authorities to confirm if her name was on the nominations list, and then had my friend’s at work and family as alibi.
She is apparently crying a lot because she received a message from the committee saying her nomination was withdrawn. I am now even more ostracised in school, but honestly I have no remorse whatsoever and feel far more satisfied.
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
chiledpickps − NTA this is so fucked up it’s beyond words. How did she even qualify for an award like that with this as her entry submission??? What she did to you was dehumanizing and so incredibly out of line. Everyone’s on her side because you’re surrounded by assholes at school, but I promise you, you will move past this.
sloretactician − NTA. She’s the u**y one here.
DRCsyntax − NTA- What kind of fucked up Mean Girls scenario are you living in?
[Reddit User] − NTA – And here: It all broke down when a friend of hers, who was on Instagram and followed Beck, sent screenshots to me. That’s the real MVP here. This person had the wherewithal and moral fiber to know that you had to be told the truth.
However this person is connected to you beyond this situation, this person is the one shining moment in this dark clusterfuck of b**lshit.. Keep kicking ass..
[Reddit User] − NTA This was obviously a b**ch move, but don’t expect your peers to side with you. School will be over soon enough and you’ll meet more pleasent people, I can promise you that. Things will get better buddy. I’m honestly impressed by your attitude. You seem like a chill guy.
techiesgoboom − NTA. At all. You didn’t stop her from winning that award, she did that all by herself. She made her bed and now she gets to lie in it.
nyorifamiliarspirit − NTA. You are most definitely not the a**hole and I am very sorry that you’re dealing with this. It probably doesn’t help a lot now, but as you get older, you will find that girls/women put a lot less stock into looks and a lot more emphasis on things like being kind, trustworthy, respectful, and funny.
Teenage girls are notoriously shallow. Also, you will very likely love college if you decide to attend. It was so much better than high school for me.
EclipsedTheSun − NTA: As a burn survivor (45% of my body) who is heavily scarred, I really am sorry that you had to go through this. I know how you feel, I hate going out into public and having people stare at me. Let me just say this, we aren’t u**y because of our scars.
We are unique. Why would you want to fit in anyways? Our scars tell a story and we should be proud of them. You f**king own them and hold your head high ❤
MsAurala − NTA – You literally did __*absolutely nothing*__ wrong. She used you to manipulate people’s view of her and falsely win an award and earn credit. Honestly, it feels like the b**lshit popular girl you’d see exaggerated in a movie. She deserves what’s happened (and more if you ask me).
You are a strong, brave and inspiring person who is actually a decent human being and more people should be like you. You didn’t seek to embarrass her or insult her or call her out publicly. You merely righted a wrong.
I’m sure plenty of other people wouldn’t have handled the situation as rationally as you did. I respect you for that. You are certainly not the a**hole here. PS – the friend that sent you the screenshots sounds like a good person. High-five them for me!
avidblinker − My question is what committee is giving out awards for hanging out with u**y people? Is this now considered a community service? People who win those awards typically have done work around the community and spend time volunteering, not going on dates with u**y people. I’m very dubious of this story’s legitimacy.