WIBTA if I ask my pregnant wife to move out because she and her best friend decided to “test” my loyalty?

A Reddit user shared frustration over their pregnant wife’s recent behavior, which culminated in a “loyalty test” orchestrated by her and her best friend. Despite rejecting the woman who approached him, the user feels hurt and betrayed by the setup.

After enduring weeks of insults and unreasonable behavior, they’re considering asking their wife to move out, as they feel their patience has reached its limit. To learn more about this tense situation and how others have weighed in, read the full story below.

‘ WIBTA if I ask my pregnant wife to move out because she and her best friend decided to “test” my loyalty?’

My wife is pregnant with our daughter. Initially we were really happy and excited about it. But then, she starts acting like a nut job. She gets angry and irritated for small things, insults me when she doesn’t like the food I make, starts acting insecure and accuses me of losing attraction for her.

For example, she wanted to eat chicken sandwiches for dinner last week. Well, I made chicken sandwiches. So she eats all the sandwiches, leaves me nothing and told me that they tasted like s**t. I wasn’t pissed because she left me nothing. But if she didn’t like them, why did she have to eat everything? When I asked her this she told me that she was hungry. Ok fine. She does this every time. Eats everything I make and calls it s**t.

I don’t argue with her because I work for more than 80 hours a week and I really want to have some peace when I’m home. So, yesterday, a random girl starts at flirting with me after the gym and asked me if I wanted to meet up with her for some drinks. I rejected her and told her that I was married.

And when I got home, my wife started to hug me and apologise. When I asked her what happened, she told me that her best friend suggested a test for my loyalty. So they asked a mutual friend to flirt with me and asked me out. And I passed. Yay!!. I’m really pissed. I’m done with her antics. WIBTA if I ask her to move out?

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Lizlizlizzyliz −  Yikes. Might I suggest some couples therapy first? What she did was clearly an A move, though I don’t think you’d be in the right to have her move out while pregnant.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. this sub infuriates me sometimes. no not ESH. not by a f**king longshot and im curious if anyone would be justifying this if the genders were reversed. you are absolutely NTA and being pregnant doesn’t give you a blank check to turn into a f**king psycopath. Your wife shouldn’t be getting a pass on this.

At the very minimum you need to separate and go into counseling. Do you really want to be dodging thirst traps and mind games for the rest of your life? edit: lot of armchair white knights down there going HoW dO yOu rEvERSe the GeNdErS?! mEn CaNt GeT PrEgNaNT. like no s**t? way to prove my point. this is 100% unacceptable behavior regardless of your circumstances.

ChoMar05 −  NTA. The eating everything and complaining sounds like pregnant mood swings and you would be ta for holding it against her. The “loyality” test? That’s a s**tty thing to do. Throwing her out still seems a bit much, especially since she is pregnant.

She probably has some self esteem issues right now. She has a s**tty best friend, but maybe you should talk to her and tell her that this stuff is not ok.

RidleyAteKirby −  NTA. This whole “you can’t ask your pregnant wife to move out!” posturing is BS. Being pregnant doesn’t give you license to *abuse and gaslight people*. Asking her to leave I think should be the bare minimum here.

ArdentCrayon −  If my husband suddenly started acting insane, the first trip would be to a doctor not to a divorce attorney. If this behavior really did start with pregnancy, it would make more sense to seek a medical opinion on how pregnancy is effecting her, and go to counseling.

I mean, I assume you were pretty committed before this point if you decided to have a baby together. And if she never acted this way before in what I assume has not been a super short relationship, I would be slower to just assume this is how things will be for the rest of your life. Feels a little like throwing the baby out with the bath water.

ForkMinus1 −  NTA That is highly m**ipulative behavior. I hope this is just a side effect of pregnancy hormones, because if she does things like this all the time, your marriage will be in trouble.

techiesgoboom −  Come on guys, you’re better than this. Stop using slurs to talk about either OP, their wife, or the friend. Stop getting into internet spats with each other. None of this is civil or nice, and it’s most certainly not what OP came here for.

Treat others with respect, no matter how big of an a**hole they may be. And if you can’t give your judgments without castigating other people, then you’ll be banned.

my__name__is −  Uh, I think you should just talk it out with her and not base your life decisions on internet strangers role playing Judge Judy. Sounds like there is a lot of stress in your life, wife losing it over pregnancy, 80 hour work week. Probably need some rest and distance from the situation to decide what your priorities are.

turnips4bears −  NTA. And I agree with the yikes I’m seeing. Cause that behavior is unacceptable, pregnant or not. It would not be the a**hole thing to do to end your relationship over this, or even to tell her you need space for a while.

It would also be completely acceptable to move to a different part of your house for a while so y’all can work on the obvious rift in your relationship. Couples and individual counseling is a good first step for both of you.