My fíances ex wife caught using stealth mode on their child’s Gizmo watch?

A Reddit user (50F) shared a story about her fiancé’s ex-wife using the stealth mode feature on their child’s Gizmo watch to listen in on conversations without their knowledge. After the user and her fiancé were caught in an intimate moment, the ex-wife’s voice suddenly came through the watch.

The user is upset that the ex-wife has been remotely eavesdropping and doesn’t feel comfortable with this invasion of privacy, especially as it involves her home. Despite the user’s concerns, her fiancé doesn’t seem to take it seriously. Read the original story below for more details on this unsettling situation.

‘ My fíances ex wife caught using stealth mode on their child’s Gizmo watch?’

So here I am in the kitchen hugging my fiancé yesterday. He had his new slippers from Christmas on and I said something like “oh sexy” (just being playful). All of a sudden his ex wife’s voice is loud as hell “hello? hellooooo?” He walks over the child’s Gizmo watch and after she asks for son my fiancé asked her how the phone picked up and she said it automatically does.

(she is in control bc it’s all on her phone plan and she pays for it while my fiancé is paying for the older child’s phone). I then look online and sure enough the admin can remotely call in with nobody knowing and listen whenever they want to what’s going on. A little background this woman hates me and has no boundaries. She was mad when she came to pick up the kids a few months ago that I was drinking coffee on my porch and asked my fiancé why I was there.

She has walked right past me and him at my house, no greeting, and walked into our house without permission with one of the kids. The daughter says her mother doesn’t like me and it’s hard when we are all together bc she knows her mother doesn’t like me. Back to now, he asked his daughter about the watch and daughter says sometimes it rings and sometimes it doesn’t ring, and mom is just there so obviously she uses the feature.

I told her I don’t appreciate her sending something to our house that allows her to listen in whenever she wants with no warning. She pretty much told me to mind my own business bc it’s between her and “the father of her kids”. Fiancé says he will “ask her about it” and he doesn’t think she uses it. She LITERALLY got caught using and daughter says she uses it.

I am F50, he is M47. He typically believes whatever she says. I envision her saying “I don’t use it (in spite of proof) and him saying “oh, ok”. AITAH for wanting to be included in this? Their business is their business but this one issue involves me and my home. Thanks

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

degenerate-titlicker −  She’s literally wire tapping her kid and listening in to your conversations. If your fiancé doesn’t see a problem then he’s the problem.

clownwhole −  If you live there, then your privacy MUST be a part of the convo. Do not make it about the daughter, when discussing. Make it about her, and her sending a device that only she controls, into your private space. That is the issue after all.

Altruistic_Ladder_19 −  Get a lockbox and put it in there. When the child arrives, ask them for the watch, tell them it is not a punishment, they can call mum anytime and use 1 of your phones. Lock the box and put it in the garage, shed or next to the toilet. Give it back when the child goes home.

Jilltro −  So your real problem isn’t the ex it’s your partner. You shouldn’t be having to deal with this at all. Her behavior is egregious and your fiance doesn’t seem to have your back at all. I would think long and hard before marrying this person. Why is he okay with hurting you and risking your privacy for his ex?

United-Manner20 −  NTA the watch stays at the mother‘s house. End of discussion. Hard line.

AnotherDominion −  That device would be in my shed whenever the kid was over.  Kid gets it back when they leave.

TheLastGerudo −  NTA but you’re making this so much harder than it needs to be. You know she’s lying and you know what she’s doing. You know she will not stop and you know your fiance is gullible and will always take her word for it. There is a simple fix. TURN OFF THE DAMN WATCH. As soon as the child comes to your home, turn it off, completely.

Remove the battery altogether if you need to so the crazy ex cannot boot it up remotely. It really is just that simple. Allow the child to turn it on and use it to call their mother, but require it to be turned off immediately after the child is finished taking to her. The ex doesn’t have to like it. She cannot force you to allow the child to have it on at anytime while the child is in your home. She may think she does, but she doesn’t, full stop.

VegetableBusiness897 −  You should find out if you are two party consent for eavesdropping /recording. In some states like CA it is illegal.

WaferEither7063 −  Your fiancé is a worm.

Traditional-Trade795 −  Yeah sounds like the ex is a degenerate control freak and narc. and your fiancee is a poor excuse of an adult man. I would never let my ex hold such power over my partner. Id get legal council if she isnt breaking any laws and then sue her.