My(23F) boyfriend(25F) left me on the side of the road and I deserved it.

A young woman shared an emotional story about how her immature actions led to her boyfriend leaving her. After a minor car incident caused by her playful but reckless behavior, tensions escalated, and her boyfriend asked her to leave the car.

Now, she’s reflecting on her actions and feeling immense guilt, compounded by the backlash from friends who are siding with her boyfriend. Read the full story below to see how things unfolded and how she’s seeking advice for making amends.

‘ My(23F) boyfriend(25F) left me on the side of the road and I deserved it.’

My amazing, beautiful boyfriend had decided to treat me to dinner since we’d both had long weeks. He was making me laugh and we were talking and having a really good time. After we were done we left, and we were about half way home when I asked him if we could stop and get some dessert.

He said something like “Haha, didn’t we just eat?” and keeps driving. My stupid, selfish self pushes it and says “C’mon, please? I want something sweet.”, he replies that we have ice cream at home and continues driving. After that I kept on pushing it and pushing it and pushing it, and while he’s being way more patient with me than I deserve, he’s firm and says no.

I give up, but then i see a fast food restaurant up the road and jokingly pull the wheel to go into the parking lot. Apparently I pulled harder than I thought because we actually ended up swerving, and hit another car lightly. To make things worse, he just bought this car.

The driver motions for us to pull into the parking lot, and when we do he and my boyfriend get out, and the driver starts cussing him out and saying horrible things to him, even though there wasn’t any damage to both the cars (the bumper has the littlest little dent on it, and the other car had no damage).

They didn’t even exchange any information. While he’s being yelled at, I don’t get out of the car and let him be punished for something I did. When he gets back in and starts driving, he’s gripping the steering wheel so hard that the veins on his arms are popping out. His entire face is red and he hasn’t said anything to me.

To try and break the tension a little, I say “Well, that could’ve gone a lot worse.” As soon as I say that, he stomps on the breaks and just tells me to get out of his sight, in the angriest voice imaginable. I’ve never felt afraid of him, but in that moment I did. He looked like he was struggling not to hurt me. I got out and he sped off.

It was starting to get dark and I was in a stretch of woods. It took almost an hour for me to walk home, but when I got there him and all his stuff was gone. I feel so horrible. I cant even apologize to him because he hasn’t been responding to my calls and texts.

We’ve had fights before about my childish quirks when they go a little bit too far, and now I don’t have a boyfriend anymore because of it. I’ve been getting texts like “Wtf” and “What the hell is wrong with you” from our friends so I think he’s told them what happened. It seems like everybody’s mad at me. Is there any way to fix this? How can I apologize to them when all our friends are siding with him?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

S4mm1 −  You could have killed someone. You are fortunate you didn’t. You need to step back and analyze yourself. This isn’t “childish” behavior. What makes you think grabbing a steering wheel is ok? You’re a gown ass adult. You don’t appologise. You offer to pay to fix the damages and grow the hell up.

CrashB4ng −  You don’t fix this. Leave him alone and learn the lesson. Your “childish quirks” aren’t cute: they are immature and selfish. And your ex boyfriend paid for your behavior by taking verbal abuse from someone and putting up with your s**t.

Pulling on a steering wheel in traffic because you want ice cream NOW is unbelievably stupid and put you, your ex, and the people in cars around you at risk. Because you just couldn’t wait for dessert.. Think about that. Have you bothered to offer to pay for the damage to his brand new car?. Edit: typo

ritan7471 −  “We’ve had fights before about my childish quirks when they’ve gone too far.” No, these are not “quirks” that go too far without your input. YOU went too far.
You oester and pester and pester and wheedle like a small child and when he said no, you jerked the steering wheel because you wanted to go to a fast food restaurant.

And caused an accident. THEN, to lighten the mood, you minimized the seriousness of what you did and instead of apologizing profusely, you said it could have been worse. I am willing to bet that all the way home he was cursing ever being attracted to your cutesy “quirks”.

YOU went too far. You don’t HAVE childish quirks, you ARE yourself, childish and thoughtless. Every day you are getting older and every day your childish ways become less and less “cute” and more and more of a giant red flag.

tansisure −  I usually try to uplift people and offer them reassuring praise but Girl no. This is your fault. You jerked the wheel of a moving vehicle because you wanted to act like a angry toddler who didn’t get their way. He can do better. You know better. Shame on you.

Praymate −  You sound very spoiled and need to learn to take no for an answer. You could’ve seriously hurt yourselves or someone else.

aminishi −  It’s quirky to possibly nearly kill yourself, your boyfriend and someone else bc you can’t have ice cream guys

Elephansion −  We’ve had fights before about my childish quirks when they go a little bit too far, You need to grow up and stop blaming your immaturity on “quirkiness”.

tbets −  Yeah you totally deserved that. Hands down, if I was your boyfriend I wouldn’t continue things with you either. You’re my age, 23, you can’t be having these “childish quirks” unless they’re completely harmless or in a 100% joking way.

The fact that you just stayed in the car as well while he was getting cursed off and blamed made things even worse. You should have gotten out, explained the situation and that you were being an i**ot, also saying that your boyfriend wasn’t the cause at all, you were.

Then after once you were both alone, you should have apologized profusely, then if he accepted your apology, NEVER LET THESE “CHILDISH QUIRKS” BE AN ISSUE EVER AGAIN. Learn from this BS, and never let it happen again. Leave your boyfriend alone and allow him to be mad because it’s completely justifiable.

IsThisIt-1983 −  Y’all coulda died

milkbeamgalaxia −  Gonna say this now, the other driver was absolutely justified in cussing your boyfriend out. He didn’t know the entire story. All he knew was that in less than a second he could’ve died or suffered some major life changing injuries. Don’t try to minimize his reaction by stating ‘there wasn’t any damage or anything.’

He was absolutely terrified. Your stunt wasn’t a childish quirk. A child knows better to do that when someone is driving. A child, properly taught, knows not to touch the steering wheel. You acted worse than a child. That’s how bad you messed up.

Give him space. Apologize. And be better. You’re too old to be acting like this, not to say it’d be acceptable had you been younger. Whatever he decides, accept and respect his decision. You caused this.