During our vacation in Vegas, I (28F) woke up at 2AM to find my husband (34M) missing, his location off, and thousands in charges from a strip club on our bank account. Where to go from here?

A Reddit user shares an upsetting experience from her vacation in Vegas with her husband. After encouraging him to go out while she rested, she woke up to find him missing, his location off, and thousands of dollars spent at a strip club.

Despite his denial, the evidence pointed to him being there for hours. Now, she’s unsure where to go from here, feeling crushed and betrayed by his reckless actions. Read the original story below for more details on this painful situation.

‘ During our vacation in Vegas, I (28F) woke up at 2AM to find my husband (34M) missing, his location off, and thousands in charges from a strip club on our bank account. Where to go from here?’

My husband and I booked a last-minute getaway to Vegas for a couple nights, we arrived yesterday. We had tickets to see a show last night, but after a long day of drinking in the heat, I wasn’t feeling well and needed to end the night early. I encouraged my husband to still go so he could enjoy his evening, so he did and I went to sleep.

2AM rolls around and I wake up to find that he never came back to the room – the show is literally at our hotel so I start to panic. I go to check his location, it’s off. Then I text him asking where he was, he reads it and doesn’t respond. I call him several times and he sends me to voicemail.

While I was trying to get ahold of him, I see there were 2 separate charges for $1,000+ from a strip club. He didn’t respond to me till nearly 3AM and just texted he was on his way back.

30 minutes later, he stumbles in the room absolutely obliterated. He tries to lie and say he was just gambling down the strip, that he never went to the strip club even though the charges were literally made with ApplePay and he hadn’t lost his phone.

After going through his receipts, I found he’d been at the strip club for nearly 5 hours, essen confirming that he went straight from the show and left 40 minutes after my first “where are you?” text.

I also checked all of our accounts, and if all the charges made settle as they are, he’ll have spent nearly $6,000 there. He swears he “didn’t cheat” on me and says nothing s**ual happened, though I can only imagine the situations you find yourself in after 5 hours in a strip club, especially when you’re i**oxicated beyond comprehension. I feel like I’ll never truly know what happened and that alone is the most painful part.

We flew home a day early, and I just have no idea where to go from here. We’ve been together for 7 years, married for 4 years in just a couple months. As far as I was aware, we’re in a great place in our marriage, and there haven’t been any issues with infidelity in the past.

This is completely out of character – I’m absolutely crushed and deeply disappointed. He was reckless with our money, with my trust, with our marriage and it really f**king hurts.

The fact we were on a solo trip together and instead of coming back to me, or doing literally anything else, he chose to go to a strip club. I would love any insight + advice from those who’ve gone through something similar with their partners. Thank you for reading. 💛

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

blackcatsneakattack −  Whatever else you do, make him get an STD test before you have any kind of s**ual contact with him again. His reaction to the request will be telling in and of itself.

Alekcassandra −  Okay, so simple fix. Dispute the charge so the club has to prove it authorized. Strip clubs usually get really pissy about that and spill all of the tea. That’s the closest you’re gonna get to finding out the truth. To be honest though, you have to know that dropping 6k, turning off location, leaving you on read and denying your calls means he cheated, right?

ThrowRA_LastNight −  I (female) have spent $1000’s at a strip club. $6k isn’t just dollar bills and lap dances to strippers… He intentionally turned off his location. Then lied to you.. Don’t be naive.

nannynutts −  Since he says nothing s**ual happened, tell him you are going to dispute the charges, by claiming fraud. The club will then have to respond, and you may get some idea of where the $6k went. I don’t see how he spent that much money and didn’t do anything s**ual.

Can you get ahold of his phone or look up call/texts logs from your provider? You might be able to tell if he was communicating with anyone from the club. Also, an std test should be a non negotiable.

Honestly, I don’t know how you could recover from him leaving, turning off his location, not responding to you and of course the $6k. I feel bad you are going through this, just thinking about this happening to me, almost gave me a panic attack. I wish you all the best and please update us on the aftermath

WinterFront1431 −  It’s Vegas. He 1000% got extra services. I wouldn’t even continue the relationship on the fact that he snuck out and spent loads of money at a strip club, then to add the cheating. Because you know he did.

wild-whorses −  If he didn’t cheat for $6000, he’s dumb. Leave him anyway.

lageueledebois −  He obviously cheated on vacation with you. Imagine what he’s been doing the whole time back home.

onetrickpony4u −  Divorce is appropriate for this situation. He didn’t pay all that money doing nothing in a strip club. He’s playing you for a fool. He disrespected you and now he’s insulting your intelligence. He blew up your marriage to s**ew some randoms. Get tested too.

[Reddit User] −  There’s a reason he left you on “read” and turned off his location and didn’t answer repeated calls, then lied when he got back until you proved his lies. Just blatant, planned and pre-meditated, and ongoing lying on his way to, at, and after coming back from a strip club. Does it even matter whether or not he actually had s** with another woman? I’d be done.

littlelightshow −  This would be instant divorce for me.

Have you ever faced a similar betrayal in a relationship? How did you handle the emotional and trust issues that followed? Share your advice and experiences in the comments.