AITA for divorcing my husband over my mom?
A 38-year-old woman shares her story about divorcing her husband of 14 years due to his disrespectful attitude toward her mother. Despite having two children together, her ex-husband’s snide remarks about her mom’s background as a cleaning lady and their modest upbringing eventually led her to serve divorce papers.
Her mom, who worked tirelessly to support her and her sister, had always been kind and supportive, but her ex-husband’s elitist views about working-class people, especially her mother, became a breaking point in their marriage. Was it justified for her to end the marriage over this? Read the full story below.
‘Â AITA for divorcing my husband over my mom?’
I (38F) have a problem with my ex-husband (41M) whom I have my two sons with, 14 and 12. We both are leaving the marriage on decent terms, but there’s always been that one hiccup in our relationship, one of the reasons that led to our divorce.
My mom (57F) is a really kind and sweet lady who did so much for me and my older sister after our bio dad left before she was born. She raised us and put us through high school and college with her own money and loans from the government. My sister and I have fairly lucrative careers in life thanks to her.
My ex, however, was raised in a well-off upper middle class family, and he was taught from a younger age that the working class didn’t work hard enough to achieve anything and thus were to be sconed upon. His parents are mind you, inheritors of a business passed down by generations.
My ex-husband’s opinions of my mother is really bad, and he always made little jabs about her career as a cleaning lady, and our childhood home (an apartment she’s still living in, now paid for by my sister and I). My mom intially laughed it off, and I did too, until he made a joke about how ‘my dad must’ve felt embarassed to marry her not by achievement’ and then I served divorce papers.. AITA?
Take a look at the comments from fellow users:
Itchy_Lingonberry_11 − Do your best to ensure your children don’t inherit that pricks views about hardworking people.
JMarchPineville − You completely did the right thing. Don’t even second-guess yourself.
sweetpup915 − Rage bait. Yalls dad left before the older sister was born? Did he have you with telepathic sperm or something?!
deadsexy1990 − Proud of you! If you have stayed this issue would never be better.
BeachinLife1 − How did y’all’s bio dad leave before your OLDER sister was born? How does that even work?
Temporary_Alfalfa686 − “much for me and my older sister after our bio dad left before she was born.“ if your sister is older than you and your dad left before she’s born, how the hell did your mom have you?
ghjkl098 − god these fake stories are annoying.
JuliaX1984 − This is a gender flipped version of the constantly re-posted story where a male narrator brags about caring for his a**oholic/prostitute/chronically ill/just poor (always varies it up a bit) single mom because she sacrificed so much to raise him and dumps the girlfriend/wife who’s not on board with that. Is this part of a propaganda campaign to convince women to become single moms?
Awkward-Tourist979 − How can you and your older sister’s bio father leave before your older sister was born? How the hell were you conceived if he left before you were even conceived?
Token_or_TolkienuPOS − You remind me of Jeff Fischer of American Dad whose mom left *before* he was born.
Do you think the woman was justified in divorcing her husband over his disrespect toward her mother, or should she have tried to work through the issue? How would you handle a similar situation where family disrespect impacts your relationship? Share your thoughts in the comments below!