AITAH for asking my girlfriend to turn down the volume of her speaker so we wouldn’t disturb others at the beach?
A Reddit user shares a situation where he asked his girlfriend to lower the volume of her wireless speaker at the beach, as he didn’t want to disturb others. He enjoys the natural sounds of the beach and prefers a quieter atmosphere, but his girlfriend got upset, saying he was overthinking and worrying too much about what others thought.
She even suggested breaking up over their differing views. Later, the user questioned whether he had overreacted, especially after seeing a group of people blasting music without any complaints. Read the full story below.
‘ AITAH for asking my girlfriend to turn down the volume of her speaker so we wouldn’t disturb others at the beach?’
My girlfriend and I went on a trip out of the country and visited a beautiful beach. She brought a wireless speaker and was excited to use it once we set up our umbrella and chairs. I asked her to turn down the volume or, better yet, turn it off, since no one else at the beach was playing music on speakers.
Personally, I really don’t like listening to music at the beach because I prefer to enjoy the sounds of nature and the waves—that’s my idea of relaxation. More importantly, I didn’t want to disturb other people. I thought if others wanted to listen to music, they would have brought their own speakers.
I find it really annoying when people blast music in public spaces. To be fair, she wasn’t blasting the speaker—it was just loud enough for the people around us to hear it. I asked her to turn it down to a level where only we could hear it.
She got upset and said I worry too much about what other people think. She told me to stop overthinking and just enjoy the moment. I explained that we can enjoy ourselves without disturbing others and that being considerate is important. She got really mad and said we should just break up if we think so differently about things like this.
Here’s what people had to say to OP:
wishingforarainyday − NTA. Your girlfriend sounds very rude and entitled. I wouldn’t want to hear whatever her music choice is at the beach.
Lazy_Building_9110 − Honestly, I get both sides. You’re just trying to chill and enjoy the vibe, but she probably just wanted to have fun. Maybe she overreacted a bit, but it’s also important to respect others around you. You just wanna be considerate, and that’s not a bad thing. Maybe just compromise next time?
an0nym0uswr1ter − NTA. Damn, if she wants to break up over something as simple as speaker volume I’d hate to have a conversation with her about more serious topics. Imagine planning a wedding with her.
SherbetOutside1850 − People who play music on speakers at the beach or while hiking should burn in the seventh circle of Hades. NTA. Just buy some headphones…
madluv4u − If she wants to break up may I suggest you take this opportunity and run🏃🏻♂️
Visible-Way-2814 − NTA. I agree with you. I wan to hear ocean sounds, not someone’s music.
OnlyOnTuesdays289 − NTA. But if she is ready to break up with you over the volume of music at the beach, you should invite her to follow through and break up with you. Why do you need such emotional volatility in your life? Will she break up with you when you order red wine instead of white? Turn the AC to 72 instead of 74?
PrairieGrrl5263 − NTA but she’s right. This episode has revealed a basic incompatibility between the two of you: she’s basically an inconsiderate a**hole who can’t be bothered to care about the people around her, and you are not. Throw that one back and find a better fit. That girl ain’t it.
Alarmed_Lynx_7148 − Self absorbed individual, is your girlfriend. She could have compromised with lowering it so only you could hear it. I agree it’s annoying when people blast their music at the beach, when it’s for everyone to enjoy not their own private beach.. NTA
The_Hermit_09 − NTA. People playing their music/pod cast/videos in public bothers me SO MUCH. You Sir are a Saint for stopping her.
Do you think the Reddit user was right to ask his girlfriend to turn down the music to avoid disturbing others, or was he overthinking the situation? How would you handle a situation where you and your partner have different views on public behavior? Share your thoughts and opinions below!